What do you do if your parents are split up, your 13 & mum still doesnt let you move to dads? - Dad wants me to run away to his house but i dont want to hurt mum like that. PLEASE HELP!

Hi! Sounds like a really difficult situation you're in! Fortunately I've been so lucky that I've never had to deal with divorcing parent myself, but a lot of my friend have.

First of all, running away to your dad is a really bad idea! Don't do that!
Your mother probably doesn't want to lose you, so talking to her leads to a fight. Your father also wants you close, so you are torn in the middle. What you need to do is really think about what you want! Do you mom and dad live far apart, or not? Maybe you could live with your mom every other week, and with your dad the other weeks? If that not possible, you should really take the time to make this decision. What would the consequences of moving in with your dad be? Do you need to change school? Will you still be able to see your mom in the weekends? All that stuff is really important. When you've made up your mind, and you can really explain well why you want to move in with your dad, talk to your mom. Tell her you need to talk about something really important, and you need her to listen to you without starting a fight. I’m sure that if you talk to her calmly and mature, she will treat you calm and mature too. Make sure you’re not doing this because your dad told you to, or because you want to hurt your mom. You love them both, and this was your decision!

I wish you all the luck, and I hope this all works out well for both you and your mom and dad! Let me know what happens!

Love, Eline

wow sweety this is a very tough situation the only thing i can suggest is recruit your dad to help talk to your mom she needs to understand that this affects you alot and shes not being fair by not letting you visit or share custody with your dad explain that you love them both and want both of them to be part of your lives you may also try to get other relatives or good friends involved srry i know this probably doesn't help much but i hope it does a little and i wish you the best of luck

im in the same situation and im haveing trouble too, but the best thing i think you should try is to talk to your mom and dad and see if you can spend more time with your dad i spend every weekend with mine and sometimes more you should see if you could try that for a litle bit it really helped me.

hope this helps,
tiffany

Im in your exact position, I am 13 and dont wanna live with my mom try to talk to your Dad see what he can do, dont try talking to your mother let your Dad do it Adults listen to adults

Hope it helped!

What do you want to do? If you want to go to your dad you have to tell your mom gently but strong.try telling your mom this "mom I know you want me to stay with you but I want to spend time with dad and you have to respect my time with him as much as my time with you. I don't want to be separated from my dad because you are.don't you want me to be happy." you have to make sure you get it in. Most moms don't want to make you unhappy but are scared that their losing you or won't see you anymore so also tell her you will not just stop talking to her and that you still love her. But if dad is pressuring you to do this then tell him you still love him but are happy where you are. If you want to be with both but are not sure just have visits arranged when you stay with him like a week at a time or something.im not an expert but a lot of my friends parents are divorced. Good luck!