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Why is it that so many girls want to have sex at a young age?

Why do I know so many 14 year old girls who are insecure about still being a virgin?

Why do I know so many 15 year old girls who tease other girls their age for being virgins?

Why does being a 17 year old virgin make you one of the "older virgins"?

These girls are underage and it is illegal for them to have sex in most areas.

I believe that just because you've hit puberty, that doesn't mean that you're mature enough for sex. Puberty is biological. Just because a 14 year old girl's body has the ability to make a baby, it's usually not yet equipt to carry one.

I just wonder what the reason is.
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cassie-1-2-3 posted over a year ago
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it's not that they want to be sexy, they just wanna looks older
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Aimee147 said:
I totally agree with you there hun,girls are being too pressurised into having sex at such a young age. When you're 14,you're nowhere NEAR mature enough to handle sex and shouldn't do it, instead,you should learn about the risks,and the chances of becoming pregnant. I'm 16 and I'm still a virgin,but I'm not ashamed of it.I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along,and not just sleep with anyone for the heck of it.
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posted over a year ago 
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i agree
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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Speak for yourself
xXSweeneyXx posted over a year ago
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its a best decision
joanpaul posted over a year ago
djsheshe said:
I dont know. i think its cuz of the media and stuff that gets people going. they think its cool most probably. and sometimes they are foolish enough to think a guy really means it when he says i love u. not all teenage guys dont mean it, but the majority just do it to get in your pants.

i personally am gonna wait as long as possible, till im married.

and... peer pressure. if u arent sure wat to do, and u're friends say just do it, i dont think thats good friendship, if they say it just like that without thinking. if my friend asked me if she should id say hell no.

and even tho i think its wrong, in the end, its your decision, no one can stop u. it will end badly or well, u never know.
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posted over a year ago 
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and the dude really really really really really REALLY has to care.
djsheshe posted over a year ago
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yup same here
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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i agree
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
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we must have to think it wisely for our incoming future in our life
joanpaul posted over a year ago
Monrose said:
"I believe that just because you've hit puberty, that doesn't mean that you're mature enough for sex."

Well, actually, it's not your decision at all. Every invidual decides when they wanna fuck. I started when I was VERY young, because I know it has always been a part of me. That's never been a problem for me. People shouldn't wait if they want to have sex. I feel quite the opposite from you. I feel like people like me are being called 'whores' and 'sluts'. WE are the most vulnerable teens when it comes to bitching. Not that I care because I haven't experienced much of that, but just as you know.
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posted over a year ago 
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Yes, but you can't possible mean that, because you don't know the persons you're talking about.
Monrose posted over a year ago
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11 damn gurl...... i am 13 and a proud virgin!!!!!
spunkyonyx posted over a year ago
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Wow just wow! Seriously? That's a big problem.
viktoriya773 posted 8 months ago
sehdt said:
To some degree parents do not teach there children that under age sex is illegal. Girls also dont feel secure enough in who they are to say no when asked by a boy and of course peer pressure. I am not sure I should even be answering this. Let me explain I was told under 16 was illegal so I didnt do it then once I was of an age I could I personnally didnt feel ready so when asked I said no the result of that even now I do not have a man in my life I have so far NEVER done it and I am 35.
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xxXsk8trXxx said:
Cause they think it's cool to loose their virginity. They devote their bodies to sex, making them whores. They're just gonna make fools of themselves! It's not cool to be a whore!
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Kurachi said:
Ok, so firstly you said stated that puberty is a biological change in the body, correct? well I am inclined to disagree, you see it's not only a biological change, there are many other aspects which are involved, such as: emotional change, hormones, even the way you think and percieve things gets altered in the process. Now, since I'm a male (also in my adoloecnece years), I cannot speak on behalf of the feamle gender, however from my understanding, females may have multiple reasons for wanting to fornicate, these include:
1)Peer-preasure-It is a lot more common than people are lead to believe, it may also lead to bullying (cyber-bully is getting out of hand, and people HAVE commited suicide!).
2)Hormones - Now this is also not uncommon, since we are all different, some females may expeirence more of a sex-drive than others, I for one, am NOT urging to loose my virginity yet.
3)The idea of feeling mature/grown-up - Now, can you recall your past? when you were a child, how you always wanted to be taller,smarter, and be allowed to go and do whatever you wanted, this is similar! You see, teenager still urge to grow-up to feel more empowered and free!
4)Trying something new - when your a teenager, many new paths open up to you, you gain more freedom, you can 'hangout' longer, and so on. however some take it a too far! examples: Drinking, Smoking, Drugs, and Have sexual intercourses. It really a mistake that is made constantly, I observed so many other teenagers loose to the addictions of drugs and alcohol, it's really sad, this changes their personalities and how the percieve the world to be.
Final Point) Todays sociaty! - I really hate the world in which we live in, the media and how people percieve the world to be! The media is much to blame here! They advertise their products, not considering how it will be taken and by whoem! That is why kids grow up, thinking about "when will I have my first sex", They begin to believe if the other partner won't have sex with them, that they don't love you, which will lead to: black-mailing, rape(rare cases) or pear-pressure.
I hope that answered your question and help you understand this world and its inhabitants a bit better.
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posted over a year ago 
yoshifan1976 said:
I agree with Aimee147. Just wait for the right guy and get married first and then you'll get intimate with him =D
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posted over a year ago 
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i totally agree with aimee 147 and yoshifan1976
shadeen posted over a year ago
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uh huh
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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that!s the proper way wait for right guy ^ then intimate with him, right?
joanpaul posted over a year ago
Gracelyn87 said:
well i am 15 and i just had a baby but i am gettin married when i am 16 but plpz dont be mean to me i am a honnrs student i have always been i tjink i am ready to be a mother puls i have found miter right
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posted over a year ago 
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u poor thing. i hope u the best! im 17 & i thought a week ago i was going have a baby 2. but turns out i wasnt. but 4 a while there i was scared. be a mother is way way harder then any girls thinks, and im 2 years older then u. but i wish the best of luck and tht things work out in the end!
BlackAngel369 posted over a year ago
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that sux
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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plus you know it's not cool to be mean to someone who's a teen and is going to have a child because well usually u end up losing ur friends anyway...
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
sugarcane15 said:
because it makes them look older
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posted over a year ago 
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ya sure,b ut not in a good way...if u get wht im saying
BlackAngel369 posted over a year ago
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so true
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
RnBStar13 said:
Because they think it's "cool" to say "i've lost my virginity" when really it's just pathetic. I'm 16 and i'm still a virgin, i've been pressured many of times to do it but i've always said no because i want to wait till i am older and i want to wait for the right guy to come along. It seems like some sorta competition with young teenagers to who looses their virginity first. Personally, I don't get it, i'm 16 and i still don't think i'm ready to do it yet. I at least want to be 18 before i first do it.
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posted over a year ago 
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lol yeah
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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good you are making the right choice
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
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that! a wise decision to wait for a right guy in our life
joanpaul posted over a year ago
BlackAngel369 said:
im 17 and i lost my virginity. i was stupid and foolish. i did it with the first guy i thought was nice enough. and i almost had his kid 2! why u may ask i did such a stupid thing- lust. i wantd 2 fill the feeling, cuz it was driving my nuts. tht all...the most valueable thing i had given away 4 lust. i see girls 2 or 3 years younger then me in the same place, willing 2 do the same thing...i try 2 stop them. i tell them tht once u have sex w/ someone it changes things bwt u and the guy. and if ur not mmarried or in deep love with them, its a mess. i think young girls now a days, see sex on tv so much, tht they think its not dangours or risky..they may think "he'll love if i do it" or "there is no way ill have a baby" or " the baby will love me" many many more ideas come 2 mind when i hear this question, and all i can think of is where r their parents?
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posted over a year ago 
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i'm glad to see that you have learned from the experiance,
cassie-1-2-3 posted over a year ago
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ya me too
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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im glad youve learned something from it and that u r trying not to have others end up the same way and sorry :(
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
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yah it!s good teenagers got lessons from ur experience
joanpaul posted over a year ago
Summer_Leanne said:
It's because they're young and naive. They listen to all the news about this girl having sex with this guy, and they think "Well, if I can seduce this super hot guy in school, it'll be the highlight of my life." Once puberty hits, the mesmerizing dreams of having sex for the first time overwhelms many teenage girls' minds. I'm 15, never kissed a guy, and I'm still a virgin, and frankly, I'm very proud of it. I even wear a purity ring. They just need to grow up.
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posted over a year ago 
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I like your answer :)
CornChips posted over a year ago
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yea me too
sassy_pants posted over a year ago
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yah it!s the best point of ur decision
joanpaul posted over a year ago
green6244 said:
I totally agree with you. Just because you are phisacly able to carry a baby, it doesn't mean you are meantly ready. I think it is because there are so many books and movies about young girls having sex that, when girls read them and like the book, they may want to be like the book? And sometimes there are people teasing them(like you said)about still being a virgin. What girls who are being teased dont know though, is that the girl who is teasing you, is most likely a virgin and trying to hide it by teasing somone els.
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yep
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
larouxbestfan said:
most girls think it's cool but sometimes it happens by accident and they didnt intend on doing it but it's a really sad thing actually i mean they are just losing there lives right there i mean theres a lot of thing you cantr do after you lost your virginity but people still do it at a too young age...
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CornChips said:
There's a lot of reasons: Being naive, careless, peer pressure, the media too I believe, and parents. It's outrageous.
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Drisina said:
I agree with you i am a virgin and i am 15 and i think i want to stay like this for a while more.20 years ago i can't tell you girls at 14-15 years old weren't having sex BUT now i don't wanna tell anyone who started sex at a young age they did wrong and i am not blaming them , they felt like they needed they did it and it's done they can't change it even if they ended up pregnant or not and were happy.My point is that people shouldn't start their sexual life so early but hell who am i to tell them what to do, if they really want to go for it.
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Jackson-Bieber said:
I Know I Was Pressured And Feeling That I Had To Have Sex When I Was 14& 15. When I Turned 16 I Found Out That i Was Pregnant. It's Never Easy To Understand.
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xXSweeneyXx said:
Because everybody matures emotionally and physically at different rates AND because girls have different personalities and value different things.
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LadyLilith said:
I guess because it's not 'cool' to be a virgin anymore, I GUESS...very strange. =/

I believe that losing your virginity is any girl's choice; if they know what they're doing (being careful about STD's or pregnancy, really sure it's what they want), then I think they have the right to have sex once they become teenagers. (Before teenage years is a little too young in my opinion...) It's their choice.

What I don't like is how society pressures girls to lose their virginity. What's so terribly wrong about it? I really think that society should change this, just have a girl's virginity/sex life be her own damn business. I think many girls are being pressured into losing it early to seem with the crowd, and your virginity isn't really something you can get back. People talk about renewed virginity...bah. I really don't think you can renew virginity. You can't bring that innocence back. Though people make that innocence out to be stupid and uncool, I think it's something special and to be treasured until a girl is ready to give it away. Obviously I would prefer if it would be to someone she deeply cared about, and she knew she was making the right decision and wouldn't regret it later...but hey, if she just wanted to shag, I can't judge...her choice.

Society is really screwing up lives by being this way, whether by just taking away something special from a girl and leaving her scarred/regretting things, or having her get pregnant or infected...it's not right. Leave them the hell alone. Respect their fucking gifts to keep until they're ready to bestow it upon others, damn it.
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Lawli-gagger said:
Hormones are ragging earlier and earlier.
Did you hear about the (i think) 9 year old who had a period?
Wild.


Anyway, I feel you may be looking into this too much. I get what you're saying, but at the same time, 14 years old is old enough to know the consequences and results of just having sex 'JUST BECAUSE'. I started at 14 as well, but it wasn't because someone pressured me into it, it was because I felt I was ready. Its not about standards or whats LEGAL. On that note I have to say that whatever state tells a girl, or boy, that its illegal for them to do what they want with their bodies...well, I sure would protest to the ends of time for that one.
And again, you seem so hung up about age. o_0
Why does someone have to be a certain age to have sex? It seems to me that you are molded to the laws that others have created.
Before all this mess you're talking about, about age, woman had sex WHETHER THEY LIKED IT OR NOT, as young as 12...had children too. Now women have a choice in the matter and they slap them with age laws.
Now, I can see your point to a degree, like teen pregnancy and peer pressure (never understood that) but again that brings me back to: If they are old enough to think they are ready for sex and NOT know that sex leads to children, and don't take proper precautions, (STDs and HIV too) then that's on them. It should be their choice.
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lumforever said:
well its because of thier hormones
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madening_mahem said:
it's because we're super horny from the hormmons from puberty.
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it's because we're super horny from the hormmons from puberty.
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Brittanagleefan said:
Media, peer pressure, hormones.
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foreverBOLD said:
I wonder that 2 bc in movies and on maury or jerry springer you have some of these teen moms n they aren't even out of highskool yet. I notice in movies or books if u hadn't have sex yet u get tease 4 that, it makes no sense. Im starting highschool next month n I hope the people in my school aren't like that. You don't take virginity for granted especially when ur a teen, u could get pregnant or std like hiv
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TaeNoHeart said:
peer pressure, bodily desire, rush to be in a relationship, the list can go on depending on the individual. its usually a peer pressure, as you said being in your late teens and being a virgin is 'weird' or not that common now a days. its sad really.....
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posted over a year ago 
rosie01 said:
when I was 15 when i felt i was ready and that i was with the right person
but i was smart about it and we used 2 methods of protection
i was also ready to deal with the consequences
I believe consensual sex is never wrong or bad or shameful as long as you are ready to have a baby with that person.
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posted over a year ago 
terhenetar said:
I thought about it a few times as well, I suppose it's one of rather rare situations when we agree. :)

It's a difficult issue and I'd do my best to try to avoid sounding patronising or narrow-minded.

Firstly, I believe that the only sensible reason for having sex is because the person in question wants to. It may be considered egoistical, but it's too important a thing to be taken lightly i.e. having sex because everybody does or your significant other is impatient and pressures you into it. Everyone in your class/school/whatever has sex. So what? If they decided to jump out of 10th floor would you join them, too?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to say that teenegers shouldn't have sex. They may, just like everybody, provided they:
1. Want to.
2. Are aware of the risks and know how to protect themselves.
3. Are mature enough to realise what they're about to do and what various consequences might be and still want to do it.

That's all it takes, really.

I'm aware that it impossible to draw a line and say: From this age onward you're allowed to have sex. Such laws will always be slightly out-of-touch with reality. However that doesn't mean they should be abandond, quite the opposite - they're important at least because they enable to distinguish between sex and paedophilia. I think the best age to draw such a line would be something around 16, but I'm not an expert on emotional development, so it's only a personal opinion. I find it hard to imagine that a 13 or 14 year old person may be ready to have sex, but there probably are situations where it happens.

These are strange times we live in, on one side we have religious fundamentalists saying that anything other than marital sex "undertaken" in order to have kids is pure evil, and on the other overly sexualised media selling the impression that if you don't have frequent sex before you graduate from high school you're a looser. Sadly, there seems to be little room for middle ground.

It also irritates me that there are only a few "patterns" to be followed and when somebody doesn't want to fit into a narrow category they're seen as weird. I'm talking for example about people, whether they identify as asexual or not, who don't want to have sex for reasons other than religious views and don't want to be seen as zealots or people who enjoy sex and don't want to be called sluts.
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Makeupdiva said:
Well, I lost my virginity at 15, I wish I hadn't but it was just curiosity. I think that is what is mostly is with young girls. With guys, they are pretty much horny. That's what everyone says anyways.
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