-yes, this is kinda late-
so I just saw Best's article.
no offence to anyone, but like Boo said, I miss the times when it was only the original family tree, the one in the banner. that was back when we all knew each other from Reasons, and we were all really close -- all, cause there was only like 15 of us. even family tree point two was great -- the one in Best's article, I mean -- cause it had some newbies, and they were the ones we'd already gotten to know. then came the fight with bees and all that other, and before I knew it there was a million and a half of us, which was so never the point of the family. it just kinda goes against the word family. now we're like an extended family -- I know I'm related to everyone, but I barely know them by sight, if that, like I would an estranged second-cousin. and I don't like it.
I can't count the number of times I've said this, but we're a family, not a hospital emergency room. we're supposed to care about each other, but how can I do that when I don't even know half the people? and you can say that "oh, it's okay now, we're gonna stop letting newbies in," but the truth is if we've tried that once, we've tried it a million times, and it never works, cause there are always people who either don't know or don't have the heart to turn away people who come knocking on our door. and so we keep expanding, and the original Biggerstaffs keep feeling more and more left out.
in a way, I think, this might be a sign -- in the very least, it's a small-scale model of life. time passes, families grow and parents are shoved aside in favour of new people, new places, new adventures. but if it is, indeed, a sign, it is in no way a good one; it would be telling us, the excluded, original Biggerstaffs, that maybe it's time we back off and leave the spot to the newbies. in no way do I want to do this, but neither do I want to spend my time on a spot full of people I don't know.
even Reasons isn't a sanctuary like it used to be -- I come back after two weeks and it, too, is full of people I don't know... one of them even told me "welcome." as if I was some kind of newbie. I've been there over a year, for Chrissakes, and two weeks is enough time for the thread to seemingly forget about me entirely.
two weeks is enough time for everyone to seemingly forget about me entirely. when I came back after the two or so weeks, I went through all the wall posts from my abscence -- plenty if new people, but not a single mention of me. I didn't get a single wall post or PM enquiring as to whether I was even alive -- and if this sounds like complaining, it isn't. it's merely stating facts. facts like in her comment on Best's article, Luna said she noticed all the disappearances. then there was a list of names, but guess what? no me.
and okay, maybe when I came back and wall-posted, people said of course I noticed you were gone! noticed, maybe, but did nothing about it. if this is the amount we care about each other... I just don't know any more.
so I guess what I'm saying is Best and Boo, you aren't alone in your feelings of not belonging, or that we have way too many Biggerstaffs. I wish we could go back to the way things were around Christmas.