Credit to _lina_ and cinders, because they did it first. More credit to link
because that's where this is from. _lina_ used the same one.
Number 1: Someone tells you or he admits that he has hit women in the past.
He has talked about his killing sprees, he has killed another woman (Yes, she is a vampire. Who cares?) in front of her. Check!
Number 2: He refers to all women he has dated in the past with derogatory terms. He may also refer to his mother using such terms as well.
Not sure about checking this one or not. He says she is the first one he dated, but then he talks of Tanya, the denali vampire, in a way that implies he doesn't like her at all. Half check.
Number 3: He tells you of abuse he has witnessed or has been a part of toward women. When asked if he has ever sought counseling, he says, "No, I never felt I needed it." He may feel guilty about it and promise that he won't do it to you.
He constantly talks about killing her, but later on he starts saying he could never do it to her. This is something he also does in the opposite way, saying he knows he could kill her. Eh, check!
Finds fault with all your family and friends once you have confided in him about them or he has met them. Later, he will use what he knows against you in an argument.
There is a part in the Twilight series, I'm pretty sure it was Eclipse, that Bella talks to edward about not wanting to talk to charlie about going to Florida. Edward then goes ahead and tells charlie about it. Half check. if you want to comment and tell me why it shouldn't be here, or should be a full check, please do.
Number 4:Shows up unannounced at your job, home, or places you visit (may lead to stalking). May offer to take you to any of these places on a daily basis so that you may grow dependent on him.
Hmmmmm.... Seriously. He breaks into her room at night and watches her sleep. He also drives her everywhere, even when she blatantly refuses. Major check!
Number 5: Calls you often wanting to know your plans and in some cases you may have already told him, but he may be checking to see if your story has changed. He expects you to call him wherever you go and will become angry if you don't.
Moments in breaking Dawn come to mind. Ditto with Eclipse. The second part (He expects you to...) is probably more fitting then the first, but it still works. Check!
Number 6: He doesn't like who he is and makes regular references about himself as being "stupid," "ugly," "dumb," and asks you, "Why do you want to be with me?" He will also resort to name calling whether he is arguing with you or "just being funny."
_lina_ nailed this on the head. If you exchange "stupid", "ugly", and "dumb" for "murderer", "monster," and "killer", it works perfectly. The "Why do you want to be with me?" explains itself.
Number 7: He attempts to control money you have earned and abuses possessions that you have acquired. He often asks for financial assistance, takes over your car and tells you how you should conduct your household. He may encourage you to live with him so that he can further control you.
A bit skeptical about this one. He doesn't ask for financial assistance or how to conduct her householf. However, he does buy her a new car and expects her to use it. Plus: the new car is missile proof. MISSILES. Also, Edward sets up Bella and Alice for sleepovers many times for when he leaves to go eat a mountain lion. Half check.
Number 8: He threatens to commit suicide when you try to break up with him.
Self explanatory. He literally attempted suicide. Check!
Number 9: He threatens to kill you over anything from wanting to end the relationship to talking to other men.
Well, he does get very, very mad at her when she talks to other guys, in particular, Jacob. Another half check.
Number 10: When he is angry with you he keeps you in a room with no access to a phone. He may lock you in the room.
Pretty much, he makes Alice kidnap her. He also took the engine out of her car once. check.
Number 11: When you want to visit with a friend, go out to the movies or some other past time, he oftentimes vehemently objects or he uses tactics to make you feel guilty so that you will stay home.
I already mentioned that he took part of the engine out of her car. This was to keep her from seeing Jacob, he best friend. Check.
Number 12: He will try to convince you that he is sorry for what he has done and will never do it again, only to do it again, and again.
Pretty darn much. Check.
I hope now you see the light and that, yes, Edward is abusive. If you want to say why one of these should have been a Check!, a half-check, or nothing at all please say why in the comments. If you have more reasons Edward is abusive, that is also a good place to put it.