Hello Harmony fans, I'm Aparajita and I'm new to this fanclub. Needless to say, I'm a H/Hr shipper.
I've been reading quite a few articles and debates on the relationships in the Harry Potter series, and most of the opinions (by Heron fans) that I've come across have one thing in common: "Harmony fans read too much into the text and think it's evidence pointing towards H/Hr romance when it's actually not"
I thought a lot about this and came to the conclusion that they're right. Now before you think I'm supporting them, let me make this clear: I don't think the evidence that we speak of, points towards either Harry or Hermione having a crush on each other, but rather, it depicts what an actual relationship is composed of.
Their relationship is beyond teenage crushing and sexual tension. It's about pure love, trust, honesty and faith. It constitutes all those factors that make a relationship work in the long run. The 'evidence' that we keep talking about has nothing to do with either of them feeling sexually attracted towards each other. But it showcases the premise upon which most successful relationships are built.
JKR may not have intended to make Harry and Hermione a couple, but she unknowingly made them the only meaningful pair in the series. Ron/Hermione and Harry/Ginny have sexual attraction. But then what? Does sexual attraction warrant a lifelong relationship? They have no depth or connection. Ginny is obsessed with THE Harry Potter and Ron is too insecure to be in a committed relationship.
I'm glad Harry and Hermione were not made canon by JKR, because in that case we'd have missed out on a beautiful relationship that is H/Hr. Also, knowing how lame JKR is when it comes to romance, it's better off this way. Ironically, the best romance written by her is between couples who couldn't get together - Severus/Lily and Harry/Hermione.
Heck, I would not have been so dissappointed with the epilogue had Harry, Ron and Hermione ended with random people, rather than Harry/Ginny and Ron/Hermione ending up together - because sustaining 19 long years simply on the basis of attraction is not only schoolgirlish, it also detracts from the quality of the series.
In the end, Harry and Hermione is a curiously appealing relationship because they lie on the line between 'friends and something more', yet avoiding the moonlighting curse so beautifully.