I really need help...I want my mom to know; but I'm just so damn terrified...and it would be helpful if anyone can give me advice...(yeesh; my dad was much easier to talk to.)

I kind of came out to my grandma, and it is NOT wise to tell religious people who believe we're evil devil-worshipers that you love somebody of the same gender. She kind of went blank, then angry, and then she started bawling. I was expecting her to throw a table at me or bitch-slap me into next year. I didn't even want to talk about that, but we got on an iffy subject and my step-dad blurted it out that 'If you liked women it wouldn't be a problem!' So, I wasn't prepared for coming out to her and I just sat there like 'Oh no, oh no, oh no, oh nooooooo! WHY did he say that?', and my mom saved the day and calmed her down...then we watched Sheldon turn into a tic monster on the Big Bang Theory...that's the worst experience I've had with coming out as a lesbian...

It is best if you come out to a person that you trust first, and if they are with you and don't freak out, keep them with you to back you up, do not go into any situation where it is just you and your mom, because some people unfortunately do get violent, and avoiding that is essential.

Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst, okay?
Hope that helps!

Thank you, Roxas; I'm going to see if that helps and I'll post the results...if I'm not in the hospital or dead.

You know, there are worse things that could happen than 'getting yelled at' when you come out.

Honestly speaking, all I can tell you is to come out when you feel the time is right & of course, if you're really willing & brave enough to tell your mother about your sexual orientation. I don't know the conditions of your environment, your mother, etc. so I can't really give much of an advice at this point.

My mom is "kinda" abusive. I put "kinda" in quotations because I don't want to say how bad it really is.

^Abusive? Like physically abusive (or something)?

Anyways, coming out to your mom will test how much she loves you. Either she gives you conditional or unconditional love considering, you'll only find out once you come out.

Whether it's now or later, you will have to come out. Every passing day that you're still in the closet, you're suppressing yourself. If you are truly aware of the fact that you're bi & you already embrace it, it feels rather uncomfortable living each day still in the closet (trust me, I know). It's all up to you tbh.

Yes. Physically.

Thank you.

Okay first of all, why would your parents get mad at you for liking both sexes. It's not something for your parents to get mad over. When I came out, my parents were rather surprised, and wanted the best for me. They told me thet they'll stand up for me and will always be there for me; so I can't imagine anyone's parents getting mad at their LGBTQ child. But I guess in your (potential) case, just tell them the way it is, don't beat around the bush. And the sooner you tell them the better, or minus well not tell them ever. Heads up, you might discover down the road that you're actually lesbian. For some bis coming out in their younger years, they might think they're bi (like bi-curious) or are actually homosexual. So I didn't read to see if you came out yet, but that's what I haft to say to you. Good luck, live free, and be strong!

I'm sorry that your mom is abusive. Is there anyone else, family or otherwise, who can be there for you? I don't know what's available in Canada, but in the US there's the Trevor Project and they have a toll-free number where you can get support and advice.

My daughter came out two years ago, but we've never had issues regarding LGBTQ people. We support her and her gay friends to the best of our abilities. Sometimes it's simply being there to listen. Good luck. My heart goes out to you.

um, your mom? lol she'll probably just laugh no? i mean what's the big deal? there's no harm on being a little aroused by the same gender, it kewl, really, i actually don't see any reason why any parent should take it seriously, hey maybe if you try to bring it on in a cool, casual way, you know, make her feel comfortable :)

Sorry hun but I can't tell you how to do that. I mean it varies for different people. I came out to my mom about a year ago. She had caught me watching lesbian porn and wanted to know why I was. Eventually, I told her it was because I'm bisexual or possibly a lesbian (I'm still trying to figure that out till this very day)and she got very silent. A couple of minutes later we had a long discussion about her not having a problem with me being whatever I was and that she will accept me no matter what. I cried after that. Because I seriously thought she was going to be upset. Worse abandon me. Turns out she was ok with it.

So just try to talking to your mom. Yes you might be afraid to but still do it anyway. Me and my mom are now closer to one another. We tell each other everything now and it's great. If the worse does happens like your mom flipping out, don't worry you can always talk to me. I will try to be there for you :)

Thank you. :)

^ Anytime! I just hope everything goes well for you!

maybe you should explain to her that you are capable of loving anybody, that you don't see male or female, you see person. god made everyone in such a beautiful way, so why should we only love one of his creations. and dont forget to tell her that just because your bi, it doesnt mean you love everybody of the same sex and that you want to sleep with everyone of the same sex, it just means you are capable of seeing beyond the gender of a person...

You should just do it. You may not be yelled at, but then again you might. So what if you are? It's your life, not hers. You don't need her acceptance. Just be who you are and if she doesn't accept it then it's her problem, not yours.