This article was written by Fanpop guest contributor Stacee R.
The hardest part about dating is finding out if the guy you’re interested in actually likes you. Once it’s established, moving forward is easy, but getting there is the tricky part. Here are six ways to know if the guy you’re crushing on is crushing back!
1. How does he act when he’s around you?
Both men and women act in strange and unusual ways when they’re around someone they like. Some people get shy while others take over and need all the attention. Most of these gestures are simple tactics to get the other’s attention. So how does your guy act? Does he say hi when he sees you or plays it cool and waits for you? Some guys don’t waste anytime and go after what they want—no games, no nerves, in it to win it or move along. However, the reality of all guys acting this way is unfortunately slim and nun. If the guy you like sees you, but doesn’t say hello it could be one of two things; maybe he’s nervous and he forgot how to speak or he’s playing hard to get. Either way, him not immediately acknowledging you could be a good thing, that is unless he never does, then it’s up to you if you want to pursue him or let it go.
2. How does he talk to you?
When a guy is interested in a girl, he’s fully interested. Even the jerkiest of jerks change their tone when conversing with the object of their affection, so pay attention to how he speaks to you. Where do his eyes go? Is he looking into yours, hanging on every word you say or is he looking around and on his phone? If he hasn’t let go of that gaze, he’s definitely into you. However, if he’s not paying attention to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you, he could be playing hard to get, but if he has better things to do than talk to you than you don’t need him!
3. How does he act in a group setting?
When you’re with a group of friends and your crush is there how does he act towards you? The obvious signs that he likes you amongst other people are he’s nice to you, whispers to you so the group doesn’t hear and makes sure to stand by you. If only it was that easy! Some guys like to show off and play “school yard” games, he may tease you or pick on you, even a light push is a good sign, and if he keeps bringing you up or saying your name you know you’re on his mind.
4. How does he act towards other girls?
Don’t confuse a guy liking you and a flirt. Some guys are big flirts and treat every girl as if they’re the only girl in the world…beware of these con artists! Guys that give girls nicknames like “sweetie,” “baby” and “cutie” are only calling you that because it’s easier than trying to keep every girls name straight. Obviously, if you’re in a relationship and your beau gives you a nickname that’s different, but not right off the bat. When your guy talks to other girls is he flirty? Does he act the same way with them as he does with you? When he’s talking to them and you’re around does he ever look your way? These are all signs to look for when trying to decide if he’s into you or not.
5. What’s his body language like?
When you’re sitting with your guy what does his body tell you? Are his legs crossed towards you or facing you? Does he find any reason to touch you? Even the slightest gesture can give the green light that he’s into you, however tread lightly, just cause a guy wiped a bug off you doesn’t mean he likes you more than a friend, but if he touches you repeatedly for no real reason, you can assume he may like you.
6. How often do you communicate with him?
We are in the technological age and everybody is online or texting, how often does your beau text you? Believe it or not, a few out there haven’t jumped on the texting bandwagon and like to live an old school lifestyle, however the other 99% are texting! If your guy texts, messages, and tries to connect you at least once or twice a day, he likes you. Other guys’ love playing hard to get and use texting or calling as a way to get girls right where they want them. Be strong ladies, only text him a certain amount of times if you must, otherwise you may be entering needy stalker waters!