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Love What do you do if your boyfriend is moving away?

Jillywinkles posted on Mar 07, 2009 at 04:30AM
Has anyone ever been in this situation? My bf is leaving, we are in love and neither of us wants to break up. It's going to be so hard to not talk to him online, or on the phone. But I guess I'll have to, if I want to move on with my life and not be depressed and alone forever.

I've thought about the long-distance relationship thing, but it's already torture now when I don't see him for one day, I can't imagine not seeing him for weeks, months on end.

I don't think there's much advice that can be given here, but I'd really be interested in hearing if anybody has any similar stories from their own experience. I'm just so depressed--it's one thing if a relationship doesn't work out, but it's twice as hard to be forced apart like this...
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over a year ago natinko said…
I have no experience at all, but my boyfriend might be moving away just because of one little thing that happened at school, plus he gets abused a little. Try to think of the good things. Will his environment be a little better? Will he feel refreshed? You never know. I am unsure. I got too depressed to talk about this that I wanted to puke. It sucks. I am trying to get better at it. Yay? o.o
I am so sad, though. I love him too much, but if it is best for him, I got to let him do it.
over a year ago BellaWomcoop said…
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Well my boyfriend Kack moved away in September which is so hard still... But I din't know whether I wanted to break up with him or not because we still loved each other. I took my friends advice and dumped him whixh wasn't easy to do because he still loved me and I still lived him. On New Years day we started being bf and gf again because we both couldn't stand the break up.

I still cry every night about it because I want him back sooooo much but I am glad we are still going out because at least he phones me every day and at least he still wants to be with me. I think you should stick with yours as well, no matter what happens
over a year ago BellaWomcoop said…
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Sorry I meant his name was Jack, not Kack!
over a year ago Black_cat_ said…
it depends how u deal with it, i mean if u both got cameras u could chat and see each other, im in a long distance relationship and it works coz im working hard to make it work, im always being romantic and trying my best to please her, it can work u just have to try ur best to make it work, also u need to think about the future, could he ever move back? or could u move closer to him? if not then its better to leave it but if u feel that u could the go for it
over a year ago LiilacLottiie94 said…
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last year i went to a new high school. when i was there i met a guy i loved like crazy, and at first he loved me like crazy too. it was magical. but, i was too scared to tell him and i acted likew a bit of a fool infront of him cos i was too scared to tell him i liked him, even tho it was so damn obvious. he thought i meant i didn't like him by this behaviour, and he was upset. but i didn't realise this at the time. there was a girl who liked him too, my so called friend, and she was so mean cos she knew i liked him, and she only started liking my boyf when her boyf dumped her. i was in 10th grade, and the guy i liked was in 11th, so he was leaving in a fe w months. i knew that if i wanted to redeeem myself i'd have to do it quick but everything i said came out wrong and i eventually ran out of time and he left for college, and shock horror she was going to his college.
he promised me he'd come back to see me at school. he hasn't yet, and i'm so depressed. i saw his mate the other day who said the guy i like is really tyed down with heavy work at the mo and he cant get out of college.
i really hope he comes back because i'll be able to tell him everything, that is, if he doesn't already have a girlf. i bet he has had every girl at college begging him to be theirs, cos he's so lovely. i'm not kidding either. and to think i had the golden opportunity but i threw it away cos i was a 'silly little girl.'
oh well even i he doesn't come back he deserves someone better than me anyway. i love him so i have to let him go.
over a year ago musicgirl313 said…
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This situation is hard. I just found out that the boy i love is moving out of the country back to saudi forever. i was crying hysterically and i still am. But i can never take my own advice. But i can tell you that if you sill love him...than dnt try and forget about him cuz you know tht wont work. If he still loves you enough to have a long distance relashinship...than do it. If it doesnt work out...well...there are "more fish in the sea". Its not the end of the world. So don't let it affect who you are.
over a year ago Nita_White said…
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My boyfriend is leaving within 2weeks time, and i just realised how much time i have left to spend with him, im findind it really hard to cope but he seems fine, not upset or anything, we've been together for about 1 year and 8 months, i absolutely love him, i dont think i could do long distance but its worth ago, for all the girls out there that think its the end of the world and no moving on, well just think about it for a second, use that other half of yours to be motivated, just the though of my boyfriend will encourage me too keep going, and if a relatinship was ment to be you's will find each other again, xx i will learn alot from this what ever happends i just know ill always be his girl, and he knows that, then again saying that anything could happen, and thats what im most scared of him finding another girl that replaces me.
over a year ago MuniekaXo said…
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My bf is leaving in 5 dayz to pennsilvania and im from N.Y we both love each other a lot i cant stand to watch him leave and we don't want to break up ive known him for 3 years buht weve been together for only 7 months going on to 8....I don't know what to do in this situation his been in a long distance relationship before and i havent.I trust him with all my heart but i just hav a fear that i might lose him to someone else i think about it all the time but then again i no he wudnt do that to me....I think to myself things happen but i hope never that. We've been hanging out a lot lately i cried many timez infront of him and he did too. Its difficult. yea we have a web cam,im,phone,txt, buht itz not the same... When were together seems like his alwayz quiet and his never like that... he doesn't want me to see him sad cause then i would be down so instead he hides it. I guess the only thing i could do right now is b prepared and what ever may come.....comes and if something happens it happens for a reason and ill always love him no matter what.
over a year ago Georgie12 said…
crying
Hello
i have just got of the phone to my boyfriend and he told me that his parents and 99% moving him to a school quite far from here i was crying SO much because i dont really have many friends and i spend ALL my time at school with him were insepreble, is still crying my eyes out we have been together for over a year and iv known him for 9 years, people say were PERFECT for each over we even have the surname (no relation) i have never loved someone tis much and i am not willing to gove him up because of tis he is my first love and alwasy will be but my heart is is painful it feels like im dying i didnt know love could be this strong im in shock. his parents are moving him to the private school just because he is not very good at english and has a rubish teacher so isnt learning anything but they are wealthy so they can defenitly afford it allright, im trying to think of how good this will be for him but he is always so bust on weekends and i will never see him please please help me
over a year ago Tara_lee said…
crying
Hello
i am nearly 16, and i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, we are relly serious, but he is moving to germany as his dad is in the army. we are going to try stay together, cause we no that is we make our relationship last for the 3 years he is gone, then our love for eachother it real. i am going to call him everyday or he is going to call me. we will use web cam, which i think u should try. i am gonna be heart broken and wont be able to go to the airport to say my final good bye to him.
over a year ago wonder72 said…
My boyfriend and I had a great relationship. He always put me first and always surprised me. We worked together at the same job. He got fired and after that our relationship was not going too well. He started getting depressed. He did not want to talk much. He told me he may have to move away that was another reason why he didn't call much. We would do good some days and some days we wouldn't. He was close to getting a good job and when it got to the last stage; I didn't hear from him for over a month. He wouldn't call or answer my calls. I told him if he didn't want anything to do with me; to tell me and I wouldn't call or text or email anymore. I heard from his friend he got the job and moved one hour and 55 mins.away. Why wouldn't he just tell me. I already had accepted the fact that he may leave. He did not have to give me the silent treatment.
over a year ago Darling_15 said…
I'm in 10th grade and my boyfriend is in 12th grade he skipped a year. Hes going to college next year in a different country and it'll be months at times i won't be able to see him. He didnt leave yet but im starting to hurt now i cried myself to sleep yesterday just thinking about. He rlly loves me and i really love him. We've been together for 5 months and i rlly want to be with him even when he goes to uni in a few months. but i dont want to go through all this pain any suggestions?
over a year ago melikhan said…
crying
mine is far far away and i just chat with him
over a year ago Marlene46509 said…
ok i have a boyfriend named alex. we were just on the phone earlier this morning and he just started talking about him moving to a place like 45 mins away from where i live. he is moving in 3 months but he thinks its not gonna work out between us cuz he says he wont be able to get a job right away because gas will be expensive if he wants to see me during the weekend. and we really love each other and i dont kno if i should tell him we should just try our best to work it out or if we should just move on cuz thats what he wants to do :( but i just dont kno. please helpp me :(
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over a year ago angiii7 said…
Sorry, I don't mean to be bad but, it won't work... you have to break up with him, the whole 'long-distance relationship' doesn't exist. He'll meet someone else and maybe you will too...
A thing like that happened to me a while ago, but it was my bff anyway I was in love with him and he was too but we never said it and he moved away... Our relationship is over now :'(
over a year ago coral123 said…
okay me and this boy named Rhett are so close and I mean really close.. we dated for 2 years and three months but we took a break because alot of drama started :/ and now we still act like we are dating and we say we love each other all the time and we hang out alot and I know we have something real.. we dont wanna date rite now because of what happened while we were dating but we want to but we think its better if we just stay really close until were older.. but anyways he is leaving for college :( its really hard to think about how he is going to be away from me.. he is 19 and i am 16.. I have never really been away from him its just this boy has always been there for me when I seriously couldnt get back up.. I talked to him about how he was leaving and he told me not to move on becuase he loves me and he still wants to be with me.. I just need some advice on how i should handle this? I really wanna be strong about this.. becuase he was always strong for me.. Please some one just give me some advice! i really need it..
okay me and this boy named Rhett are so close and I mean really close.. we dated for 2 years and thre
over a year ago miwafwakes said…
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yea ahaha.. my boyfriend of almost 6 months (will be tomoro) is leaving in about midjanuary. when we first started going out, it was like he was supposed to move a month after we started, but he didn't tell me, because he said he thought he could try to make me happy in the times we had together. that time never came, although i was completely ready for it. so times went, i was completely happy, then i started to want more. i wanted to change him, i wanted him to care more, notice what hes supposed to, so i started badgering him about it. thats what happened the past three days, but then yesterday night my friend told me that he told him that he was moving, and that the date of the earlier one was only postponed, not completely disappeared.

can you say my heart broke? ahaha.. ._.
i feel like such an a-hole for pmsing on him, so i feel really bad.
i couldnt sleep last night at all, i wanted to just... disappear, because the feelings hurt too much.

god, i never really said this to him, but i love him, and i dont want him to go, and i feel like ill break without him. i did consider breaking up, but picturing him with another person is too hard.

its confusing like hell.
i love him, hes leaving, i'll be hurting, what do i do?

is our fate connected?
yea ahaha.. my boyfriend of almost 6 months (will be tomoro) is leaving in about midjanuary. when we
over a year ago ilovecurt said…
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my boyfriend...curt....is moving too....i love him soo much and im scared he will cheat on me and stare at other girls butts and stuff but im depressed and my life is over. i have tryed everything i can to stop him but he has to go...we arnt going to breakup but he says after highschool he will move back to canada with me
over a year ago Gypsi_Rose said…
wow, these comments are too depressing! :( I think, if someone you love is moving away you can try your best to stay in touch for as long as you can, because at least then if it doesnt work out you can still say 'i tried' :/ xx <3
over a year ago BeautysOverated said…
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Aaaw, I'm sorry :( I have no experience with this, but in my opinion, just enjoy each others touch until he leaves. That way, you will have plenty of happy memories for when you think of him :)
over a year ago Kraucik83 said…
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Long distant relationships can work! I'm the living proof!!!
My boyfriend & me are together for almost 5 years now & we spend most of the time (more than 4 years) very far from each other (570 miles/920km) in 2 different countries. We are trying to see each other as often as possible, so at least every 2 month... and we are more in love with each other than in the beginning!
So, if you really meant for each other, it can work!!!
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over a year ago mothermonster said…
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well my boyfriend elijah isnt the one thats moving i am. its going to be hatd but they are never far they are always near in your heart
over a year ago x12-25-10x said…
Today was my boyfriend and mine 6month anniversary. And today I also found out my boyfriend is moving 15hrs away from me. Its one of the hardest things I have ever had to hear from someone because I love him so much. I finally just stopped crying after 7hours of crying. I promised him that I will be waiting for him when he comes back. And that I am not going to leave him. He too promised the same thing. I am just so scared of what may happen, but I am going to try to keep myself together so we can both become happier. Because I know its harder on him than it is me, because I not the one who has to start over somewhere. But I do believe we will survive 3years of a long distance relationship. Like Shakespeare once said, "The course of true love never did run smooth". I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I am willing to do anything to keep our relationship alive. Because he is worth it. I can honestly say that. I know our love is strong enough to do it.
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over a year ago EllsBells15 said…
Just wanted to say it's nice to know that there are other people in the same boat. My boyfriend is going to Yale, leaving in the summer, and I'm staying in England. We knew when we started the relationship that we would have to break up, and initially it didn't seem such a big deal, I think we both thought of it as a fun way to spend the last six months of high school. But now I've really fallen in love with him, and it's terrifying to think that in 5 weeks he'll be gone, maybe for 10 years.

We've agreed to break up, because we know that he'll be in the States for the foreseeable future, and we don't want to potentially ruin a really good relationship by straining to make it work across continents. But being sensible doesn't really make it any easier.

Sorry this isn't really advice, more of a vent. I think you should think about a) how long is he/she moving away for? If it's a question of months rather then years then it's more likely to work. b) Talk to him/her! You have to agree on a solution you're both happy with, even if the conversations are painful.

Hope everyone ends up happy :)
over a year ago Maddie000 said…
I'm only reading this forum because i'm the same situation as most of you.
My boyfriend of 2 years has moved 4 hours away from where i live, i know this doesn't sound as bad as some of the comments left on here such as the 15 hours or another country, but it still really hurts knowing that he's gone. It's not that fact that that he's gone that's upsetting me, it's the fact that I've spent nearly everyday with him at school from Year 9 to Year 11 and they were the best years of my life so far. I love him so so so much more than anything and our love for each other is so strong, i have no doubts that our relationship will last. However, i am most upset about the fact that i'm going to 6th Form at the same school i spent the 3 years with him at. And everything, i mean everything that i look at at the school makes me cry, i just remember all the great times i had waiting for him at the bus stop to greet him at school every morning and walking to lessons with him and spending lunch time talking, it was great. It's the thought of him not being at school at hits me the hardest, i'll see his bus pass the school and i'll cry knowing that hes not on there. I know for a fact we love each other incredibly much, it's just the thought of school that makes me die inside... I most probably will not be able to see him on the weekends, which upsets me, but on the school holidays, every 6 weeks, i will most definitely be going up to visit him for the whole holiday. I just wish these 2 years would fly by so i can just be with him again. It's sad, but i think everyone in this situation will just have to be brave and look forward to the times when you are going to see them.