That's a great question. I always thought Delena was about hate, jealously and sexual tension and Stelena was about hope, true love and protection. On season 1 and season 2 we saw their relationship and their ups and downs, and now we see how their love is stronger than anything (Katherine, Damon, Klaus, Rebekah, etc.)And still Elena loves Stefan more than Damon. She wants Damon to screw up everything so she can pick Stefan with no doubts. She wants to be with Stefan but she is still wondering if that's the right choice to make.
I ship Stelena because the love they share for each other is real and from first episode I knew that they we're destined to be with each other forever. Delena isn't real it's fantasy I just don't see anything close to what Stelena has and will always have if anything Damon is a good friend to Elena but as far as love he is the worst for her he acts more like a father then boyfriend where Stefan listens and may disagree with Elena's choices he'll stand by her decisions like a real boyfriend would.
Lets atart with why I could never ship Delena. This is a long list, so Ill stick with the basics. He killed her brother, which means that he should automatically be taken off of the list of potential boyfiends and put on a hit list. Also, he carried a torch for Katherine for 145 years and then just happens to fall in "love" with her doppleganger? Am I the only one who smells something fishy there? Plus Damon is too volatile and could hurt or kill her and anyone else.
Okay so she doesnt belong with Damon. That isnt enough to say she belongs with Stefan. I also dont just think they should be together because he is nice or because he "saw her first". Its because what they have is so incredible. Even in his darkest moments he couldnt kill her, and in the beginning of this season she wanted nothing more than to get him back. I firmly believe that if Damon hadnt been throwing himself at her for 3 seasons that DE wouldnt even be an issue. DE has a big fanbas, and that may or may not get them endgame, but Stelena are soumates and nothing is stronger than that.
Stelena just have an epic love, that every person in this world dreams of. I have loved them since the pilot episode and that has not changed even when I did see chemistry with Delena. Delena just doesn't stand a chance just as long as Stelena is an option. And to me, the hype with Delena is based on just a fantasy. But if they actually do get together, honestly, they wouldn't even be as interesting. I also just would never take Delena seriously as a couple. I just can't imagine them being cute and lovey dovey to each other like Stefan and Elena do :)
I ship both. I think it's impossible not to ship SE deep down in your heart,because they really have cute scenes. Their love is true and they have that kind of love that's not actually real in real life,because it's too much of fairytale. It's impossible that something like that happens in real life and that's the thing I sometimes like and sometimes dislike about them. They're really good when you want to runaway from reality and be in something impossible,but beautiful. I'm also DE shipper,firstly because they are the most epic future couple I've ever seen. They have it all: amazing chemistry,strong bond,eye-sex,love-hate relationship,the most beautiful build-up,friendship,memorable quotes,they bring that everything from each other. He makes her a women,he gives her other options in life,makes her laugh and with him,she's always safe and having fun.She awakes what he really is-she gives him his humanity and that's epic. But the main reason why,if I have to pick,I would pick DE is that there's nothing he wouldn't do to make sure she'll wake up safe in her bed tomorrow. If she's going to hate him for saving her life,he's ok with that,as long as she's alive. It's not that he doesn't respect her decisions,he does,but he just can't let her come in danger. On the other side,Stefan would do anything to make sure she loves him. If there's chance that her love for him might stop for some reason,he'd rather let her die than deal with her hate. It's the ONLY reason why it's always gonna be DE for me,but I really like SE too.
For me i dont know about the others i am a delena fan. if you ask me why its becouse of my friends. the thing is i like stefan to. i think he is so cute to but theres something that gets me closer to damon more than stefan. its probebly becouse of my friends. my friends made me watch this show. they were all delena fans. when i first watch it i didn't think that damon was that cute i actually loved stefan but when i continued watching there was something that made me love damon. he was fun, cute, funny and adorable. My friends also made a positive comment about damon. so when i started watching to show i had a positive comment for him but that didn't chage the fact that i liked stefan TILL after 10 15 episodes. In that time damons hair was better he was fun to watch. sometimes i want stefan to be with elena becouse i think he is the one that can really make elena happy. but than when i look at her with damon its like they are meant for each other. To take it short i dont know. ithink becouse they are so cute.(no misunderstanding i find stefan so cute to. i dont know why he is not a model)
I truly believe that what they together is all-consuming it was real from the very start. Damon has done so many things that are unforgivable. I hate that Damon's solution for everything is to kill some inoccent bystander that didnt do anything. He killed her mom, tried to kill her brother, Bonnie, Caroline etc he's bad for her. When Elena was weak and vulnerable he told her to drink from inoccent human beings and let her get out of control. Stefan and Elena were made for each other and like Caroline said " you and Elena are soulmates and her Damon are UGGHH!! when I see Elena and Stefan together I sigh and to myself " i want that" the way that he looks her is just amazing and beautiful it amazes me it is just acting. but when i see a Elena and Damon scene I literally gag and have to change the channel until it's over