It Will Always Be Elena - Why Bamon Just Can't Fit.

ITA & have read this before & still think its spot on.

Im not gonna say that someone cant ship Bamon either, cuz everyone can ship who they want. Right now, the fact is: theyre an AU ship, which doesnt mean they wont happen, just that they dont have feelings/true buildup to be a romantic item (which could change, I dunno). But, I tend to hear stuff like: *Theyre guaranteed to happen cuz they were in the books* or, *every scene/line they have or with other characters is foreshadowing of a Bamon future* is just ur own opinion/speculation. Theres nothing to prove a future DB pairing. Maybe a friendship, but havent seen anything of them growing too much closer. They tolerate each other, but only for the sake of the town & protecting Elena. To push that is a tad bit overboard.

Its ok to hope u know, but to read too much into something then make it into something its not to others of opposing fanbases is jumping the gun so to speak. Not everyone does this, but ive come across a number of them who do this. Ship who u ship, but dont get overboard/see things that arent there.

If the writers do decide to make Bamon happen, thats up to them, but they definitely would have to make drastic changes to both characters on their life views, loves, perspectives, etc. JMO. Peace everyone.

Nothing is guaranteed, but all we can say is that next season has been said to deal with DE getting closer while looking for Stefan, Stefan getting a bit darker while with Klaus, Jeremy dealing with *seeing* Anna & Vicki, which could cause a rift in his relationship with Bonnie, giving them a chance to have their love tested & grow. Cant wait for TVD Season 3. =)

damn...this might be the first time i've ever been called brilliant haha

Well , first I am not bamon fan, I was but suddenly I realize that I dont like Damon at all so maybe you have a point, I can not ship Bamon if I dont like Damon so right now I like Stelena and Steferine and Damon can walk into the sun and I dont care, so for that reason I am not Bamon fan because Damon for me is a selfish guy who only want the pity of everybody including Elena.

Sorry, I am not a lover Damon but well when I liked Bamon, I found that maybe for Damon, Bonnie could be the one because:

a. She will never choose Damon as second option, Bonnie is true with her feelings and if she "LOVES" Damon, it would be only Damon not Stefan or anyone else. ELENA CAN NOT OFFER THIS TO DAMON, IT IS ALWAYS STEFAN AND DAMON FOR ELENA, SHE CANT DECIDE.

b. Bonnie is strong and she is the only one that offer a challenge to Damon. ELENA IS NOT SRONG, SHE MANIPULATE DAMON WITH HER PRETTY EYES AND BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HE LOVES HER SO IT IS EASY. But Damon is not in love with Bonnie but he respects her and he knows she is strong.

I am not denying Damon loves Elena ( although the last chapter his last feelings are for Katherine, in his mind Katherine was the only one and it seems to me Damon look for Elena only because she is like Katherine) but well I accept that Damon has strong feelings for Elena that maybe he loves her and Elena has feelings for Damon that it is clear but that doesnt mean that suddenly Elena will forget Stefan, that it is a denial, Elena will always love Stefan and she will always have feelings for Damon.

Now maybe Bamon doesnt happen but that doesnt mean Delena will be endgame.

She will never choose Damon as second option, Bonnie is true with her feelings and if she "LOVES" Damon, it would be only Damon not Stefan or anyone else. ELENA CAN NOT OFFER THIS TO DAMON, IT IS ALWAYS STEFAN AND DAMON FOR ELENA, SHE CANT DECIDE.

You are forgetting that Bonnie is in LOVE with Jeremy so Jeremy is her first option. I don't think she's going to forget Jeremy like that cuz he's the only person who understands her and how her powers and how they affect her. EMOTIONALLY.

Bonnie is strong and she is the only one that offer a challenge to Damon. ELENA IS NOT SRONG, SHE MANIPULATE DAMON WITH HER PRETTY EYES AND BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HE LOVES HER SO IT IS EASY. But Damon is not in love with Bonnie but he respects her and he knows she is strong.

How so?? The only thing Bonnie does is give him headaches and set him on fire. Bonnie has never stood up to Damon like Elena does. She even told Jeremy that she's scared of him. And her powers are the only thing she has.Without those powers, it would be a different story. Remember at the start of season 1 when she was shitless scared of Damon. SO, no Bonnie can't stand up to Damon

"You are forgetting that Bonnie is in LOVE with Jeremy"

No, I am not forgetting that, I just feel that this Beremy thing is so hard to believe that I reallly think Bonnie can forget Jeremy at one point or Beremy is not going to be endgame, Jeremy is so childish and this Beremy thing is not real...Jeremy and Bonnie can take different ways at some point, so Bonnie can really love someone different to Jeremy.

"How so?? The only thing Bonnie does is give him headaches and set him on fire. "

Do you forget 2x01 how for saving Caroline's life, Bonnie told Damon that he gave her some blood and he told her that they will be in good terms but she said : No, you will do for Elena. And she doesnt use her powers or even in season one she was scared for him but she never gave up and she kept her necklace. And she gave him this headaches and still Damon doesnt try to kill her... And it is not because Elena, because he can kill Jeremy without think so he can kill Bonnie and then tell Elena he is sorry and Elena forgive him, so maybe he respect her a lot and she can stand up to Damon without the magic.

Not every tiny thing means foreshadowing deeper feelings, no offense, when it comes to DB.

Even after Elena found out that Damon was a murderous vampire, she stood up to him & slapped him, unafraid, but aware of what he was & what he did. She calls him out on his crap & doesn't like what he does, but forgives him cuz she understands. It's not logical per se all the time, but this is a vamp show. It's not full of morals 24/7. Elena is forgiving with everyone. She understands others & knows that Damon hurting others easily & being macho cool guy is all just a front. He wants to feel, but is afraid to. He's still on a path to rediscovering his humanity.

Bonnie doesn't believe there's anything redeemable in Damon. She only agrees to work with him to protect Elena & the town, nothing else. Oi. JMO.

The thing what I don't understand is, is why you or others are trying to understand it, when it is just what it is, some support SE,DE,SK or SK. Why try and understand it, when you so clearly don't want to, especially when I know that Bamon fans have given reasons why they support them, but some people still don't want to accept it and to make it worse people actually argue over these ships. This just makes me think, why people despise this couple so much and why does there have to be a world war 3 about fictional potential ships. Honestly and this is just my opinion and the way I see and from what i've read that some of this comes down to some people being threatened by DB or/and people wanting people to convert from one ship to another (fine if you don't agree. Say your opinion, which I would like to hear, but no argument should arise from this).

To put it simply the reason why I root for DB is because I see the potential. Obviously not now, because they both need to grow and develop and yes, I would see it as OOC, right now, because of who they are at the moment. They are both passionate people, who have more in common than what they think and I love their banter and they have had build up, even though it is not romantic it is still a build up which is leading to friendship and the potential of something more, during the seasons, would be great for us Bamon fans.

Yes, Damon has said he loves Elena, but I personally, just don't buy it (not yet, anyway) and that is because I still think it is just to soon after Katherine. So, yes, I just think is a transference of feelings. I just think he is hanging onto something that he could have had with Katherine. Now, I'm not saying that he won't feel genuine love for Elena, i'm just saying I don't believe it right now. So when some say that he falls hard when he's in love, it's not that I don't believe it, because I do, as you could see how much he loved Katherine and how far he would go for her, it's just that he has "fallen hard for Elena" and IMO that happened to soon for me, hence why I think it is just a transference of feelings.

I'm not saying Elena will ever stop caring for Damon. Come on, Damon killed her brother and right in front of her, so no I don't doubt she would forgive him of anything. If he massacred a town, I believe she would still forgive him and as I said I don't doubt that, considering she loves her brother. Just because Elena is willing to understand, accept and forgive him, does not mean that Damon will endlessly be in love with her forever. There are good people in the world and characters on TV, but that does not mean that they should end up with a person because of their good deeds for another, even if there is a mutual attraction, does not make them compatible forever.

I do, think a DE relationship would be unhealthy. Firstly, as I mentioned before, I believe Damon has transferred his feelings and why should that be fair on Elena. Secondly, because how will their relationship impact on the brothers relationship. Stefan loves Elena and I can't see that changing anytime soon, so if Stefan just walks away and let them be, what's going to become of the brothers' relationship, when they both, will so clearly love Elena. Thirdly, I think he will be second to Stefan. Elena will still be in love with Stefan when she falls for Damon and especially as they're brothers, they are still going to be in each other lives trying to protect her. This to me will be confusing, no end, as well as history repeating it self. Bonnie can move on from Jeremy, giving each other time to heal, so they can move on and find more compatible relationships.

Bonnie "did" light him on fire and give him aneurisms, but she doesn't anymore, but she didn't do it to make him a better person IMO, but because she was angry with him, because she has only seen his evil side, up until now, but she saw it as him causing all of it. What makes him any different from any other vampire if he only shows her his evil and manipulating side. I don't blame her for thinking the way she does, as if any of us was in that position, we would want to protect what we love. Considering, Bonnie looks like she raised herself, I don't blame her for protecting her friends and town, who she probably sees as family.

Damon is making progress, so i'm rooting for him and if that is because he wants to be with Elena, automatically or not, then so be it, but that does not make them destined for each other. He could be set on this path for other reason, not just for Elena, but it could be for someone else in the future or maybe for him and his brother to grow closer and gain some kind of understanding.

Of course Damon's going to have to change and he is growing and developing more, but I don't know why it could be said that Bonnie would not accept who he is in the future, as they are working more together and this will give them a chance to know each other. The thing is, Bonnie too does not have to approve of certain things, but it does not mean she won't like who he is. Remember, each of these characters has to grow and learn so, feeling towards one another can change.

I like Damon, but I won't stick up for him if he has done something wrong. I want him to be a better person/vamp, so I won't sweep the bad things he's done under a rug. He needs to know what he's done, so he can make it right. It's people's choice if they see Bonnie as bitchy, when she is around Damon, but I see it as Bonnie making a stand for herself and others, considering he has shown her the evil he can do and not given her the chance to see other aspects of himself. Though, I believe this is changing.

Bonnie at this moment in time, does deserve better than Damon, but I believe in the future, that they would be compatible. Yes, Bonnie can be headstrong and so can Damon, but it does not mean that, as they develop as characters that they won't accept each other, warts and all. It does not mean that in the future that Damon would not encourage her or want to keep her safe. At this moment in time, for them to have a relationship would be a no, no. That does not mean this can't change in the future.

The reason why I would want them together is not because they are both suprnatural that would be silly, but it's because I feel they have more in common than what they think and when they get closer, they will see that they are not so different. Damon said it himself at one point that he can't be the person that she wants me to be, so obviously even Elena is looking for a change, but either way Damon is making progress by himself, whether he realises or not. So, eventually he will be a better person, but by his doing and who says that Bonnie won't see this. I don't believe it will ruin their characters, as they are both developing as characters, but it would, if it happened right now, as there is not a lot of build up. Why would it be a cheap cop-out? Does not Damon have feelings and emotions too. They can't stay in that triangle forever, as they are going to have to move on at one point. Of cours there needs to be a foundation for a relationship to work and once they have more build up, I believe they will have one. It just sounds like your saying that they should never be together because they don't get on at all and that there is no possibility because of the way they've been built, but you seem to forget that they haven't finished developing as character yet and in the future, they could be more compatible. Because you don't want them together, doesn't mean that it can't happen. You say it is unrealistic for them to fall in love, but I say it is unrealistic for Elena to forgive Damon after he killed her brother in front of her.

Thing is what some don't understand, is that things can change in the future and that they could see another side to each other and be compatible. What this article looks like to me is, because some are so passionate and want DE, they will never accept another person, who could be compatible for Damon, as some think it could only be Elena. So, what off Stefan, what if he is the one most compatible to Elena, not Damon.

I believe Damon is on such a journey that will help him to find his humanity, where he can love again, past Katherine and that he can look at humans, not just as cattle but respect them and there lives and find other ways to live amongst them.

Not here to argue, JMO.

I'll say this: Anyone who thinks that the DE ship is unhealthy seriously needs to take a look at DB also.

Yes Bonnie was angry at Damon. She has always refused to see anything more than a rude, *careless* vamp instead of looking closer.

Elena will forgive him for that stuff. It's not the best choice, but it's in her character. Bonnie is only getting along with Damon for the town & Elena's sake. Nowhere do I see it as anything else. They don't care about one another personally, tho they could somewhere down the line be friends. I haven't seen any basis for a foundation either, but that's JMO.

Yes things can change, but u also have to take in account Damon's character. He doesn't love & trust easily. It took him a long time to truly get over Katherine.

I don't get about the transference of feelings argument, since the actors, writers, etc. have all said that Damon's love for Elena is built on who she is as a person. Yes the resemblance is what drew him in, just like Stefan, but that's where it ends.

We shall see what's up ahead, but it's JMO that Damon may change as a character (his growing humanity, learning to care more for others), but I don't see it being easy for him falling for someone else as much as he's fallen for Elena. Can't wait for S3 (Delena, Steferine, Forwood, & Beremy FTW. =D).

I do think DE will be an unhealthy relationship, as I stated before and a DB relationship, I would not call unhealthy, but unrealistic, if anything happenend now, as I would want them to have a lot of build up and character developement first.

Why should Bonnie look any closer, or anyone else for that matter, if Damon isn't going to allow it. Everyone has a caring side, even a killer, but your not going to take your chances looking closer with them. However, Bonnie knows that Damon cares for Elena and that he would protect her and because of this, they will work together to protect her and along the way I believe they will get closer because of this.

It's true that Elena is forgiving, in fact overly. I'm a forgiving person and I know others that are, but everyone has a limit. I have never been in favor of DE, but have tried to be open minded, because I know they will happen, but after him killing her brother, I knew I could never root for them. Another reason, why I think it would be too soon for Elena to have some affection for him.

DB might not have a proper foundation, but they are similar and the one most important factor, is that they will go all out for the people they care about. Though the relationship they have at the moment, is about protecting Elena and that is a starting point, but I think DB will reach a place where they will be friends and saving each other, if need be, on their own accord.

I have taken Damon's character into consideration and personally I don't think it took him that long to get over Katherine, especially if he says he's in love with Elena now. What i'm trying to say, is that I don't think he is over Katherine. He loved her for well over a hundred years and he truly loved her and I know she screwed him over royally, but that does not take away what he felt for her. To get over something like that can take a very long time and hence why I said, I believe it is just a transference of feelings in regards to Elena, because Damon falling for Elena, happened to soon for me. I know what the actors and writers said, but when i'm watching the show, i'm just not buying it. It does not mean to say that I won't believe it in the future, just that I don't see it now.

What would make Bamon qualify as a healthy realtionship????

However, Bonnie knows that Damon cares for Elena and that he would protect her and because of this, they will work together to protect her and along the way I believe they will get closer because of this.

They'll get close but that's it. Damon won't fall for Bonnie. Just like he didn't fall for Rose. All this working together You Bamon fans go on about is well I'll give an example 2x17. They worked together, 2x18 they also did work together but what changed really?? Nothing.So this working together doesn't mean a thing

It's true that Elena is forgiving, in fact overly. I'm a forgiving person and I know others that are, but everyone has a limit. I have never been in favor of DE, but have tried to be open minded, because I know they will happen, but after him killing her brother, I knew I could never root for them. Another reason, why I think it would be too soon for Elena to have some affection for him.

Well, This is fiction!! FICTION!! What about when Damon tried to kill Bonnie? What about when he was responsible for her grams death? What about the time he said he'll gladly let Bonnie die?? Would you go with a guy who did this in real life? No!! But its fiction so all this can be ignored, And Elena is Bonnie's bff Would date a guy who killed your bff's brother? No. No!! But its FICTION!! So your arguement is pretty ehh

DB might not have a proper foundation, but they are similar and the one most important factor, is that they will go all out for the people they care about

Honestly EVERY character in TVD would ANYTHING to protect the one's they care about. It's not only Bonnie and Damon that do it everyone does. Find something unique about them and come back to me

And about the Katherine thing, Damon is over Katherine!!! Whether you like it or not He is!! Why, 2x16. She offered herself to him and he rejected her!!!! Now just because He's over her and in love with Elena, it doesn't mean he doesn't care for her..he does and always will but Stefan too. btw, Stefan is the one who kept her picture for 145 yrs But that's not the point The point is Damon is in love with Elena now and not cuz she looks like Kat.

"But Its okay cuz If I had chosen differently I wouldn't have met you" This!!! This just proves that everything Damon has been through with Katherine and choosing to love her it led him to Elena and I believe he'd do it all over again if he had to. If this doesn't define destiny than I don't know what does :P

In my eyes, what would qualify as a healthy relationship for both Bamon and Delena, is time, considering, what he has done to both girls.

They are not interested in each other,romantically, by any means and this is why I said it would be unrealistic, if anything happened now. Yes, unhealthy as well, but I chose not to focus on that, because they are frenemies right now. Hence why I said unrealistic.

When I said that they'll get closer, i'm talking about in the future and later seasons, because, I wouldn't want anything to happen now because, it would be unrealistic and I like the pace they are going at the moment, as that is real to me. It would obviously have to happen gradually and not just from a couple of episodes. "They'll get close but that's it. Damon won't fall for Bonnie." Your talking like your the writer of the show, so you know what will happen. When I say things, i'm talking about the possibilities of what I would like and think may happen.

Of course I know the show is fiction. If you read my post and I assuming you did, as you highlighted it, you will see that I said, I think it is "TOO SOON for Elena to have some affection for him", I didn't say she should never. In reality, people wouldn't, but then again, there are some sickos out there. Again, Bonnie and Damon are frenemies, or what ever you want to call it, so I know nothing would happen now and because of the reasons you gave, of what Damon was involved with, regarding Bonnie, I wouldn't want anything to happen now, neither. So, no, I don't think my argument is pretty ehhh, as you said.

I still stand by what I say and even though the other characters will protect each other, we have seen more of this from Bonnie and her magic and how far she is willing to go. Out of all the characters, she has probably been the only one that they haven't properly focused on, save her magic and so lot of the episodes has been about her magic and at the end of the day it's about saving Elena with it. I know she has jeremy now, but even then, if they are not performing magic, their talking about it and it possibly killing her. This to me is how the writers have put the focus on Bonnie and what she is known for. We saw how passionate Damon was about saving Katherine, Stefan when he was kidnapped and now Elena. As I said, I don't disagree with the other characters protecting one another, but this is what sets Bonnie apart from the rest, because the focus has been about her saving Elena or trying to keep the town safe with her magic.

I never mentioned Stefan or Damon being in love with her because she looked like Kat, you did. Again, I mentioned it in a previous post that is just my take on the situation and why I don't by it YET. Also, I know what Damon has said, but it isn't believable to me yet and when or if I do get to a point I do believe, I will still think it's a mess of a relationship, considering she is dating Stefan. That is just my take on the matter, so please don't get defensive. I don't think it defines destiny, as we don't know what is going to happen in the end, but that is the way you interpret it, but my outlook on it, differs.

Oh come on! If you are going to say that DE are a unhealthy relationship then at least admit that DB are/would be. Bonnie set Damon on FIRE. Whether he deserved it or not, it doesn't make the relationship "healthy".

The reason why I have not said unhealthy is because they're not going to be together right now and I wouldn't want them to be. As I said, what would make for a healthy relationship is time, for both DB and DE.

For a start this is the couples spot an posting negative stuff against ships should not be here.

Though saying that one thing that annoys me in general with the explenations for why things wont work, why things our a sure match, alot of it is he loves her he will never love her, I mean really I would think specially the more mature (as in older) people on her would understand that being in love is not a fixed thing, nor will it or does it cerment a relationship, as a person myself I can say that people change learn an fall in an out of love all the time, that is not a reason why something cant happen.

An WTH Bonnie beleifs would not match to Damon, err Elena isnt the type to want the life Damon would give either she has clearly expressed what she wants from life, an that is something both brother would take away so again void point.

For Damon, I have critisized him, as I have Bonnie (her behaviour towards Caroline for example) an I think though I like the potential I see in the pairing, am not going to wear white glasses for everything conserning them characters, which from reading some stuff I have seems away alot (not all) Delena fans do, some of which really shocks me.

I think the last part I dont get because isnt that what has had to happen to make Delena, Damon has had to go on a course of redemption to get Elena to like him, I mean say what you want about her words to a dying man, but in the morning she was singing a different song, to me for them to be together so much more has to change then would do for Bamon.

An I think Realist1 makes a good point, Delena fans in general seem to get more stressed of Bamon an seem to have so much hate for the pairing an fans of a pairing that is continuesly claimed will never be more then fiction, so why go out your way to justify your reason why it wont work, I mean Damon had a thing with Rose for awhile, Elena an Stefan our the main paring, why is there so much thrown towards this pairing you find so never happning? I would not even bother myself.

I don't wanna start a new fight so all I say is: Amazing article! I agree with all :) Thanks a lot for posting it!

Agree with @kristyjayne. A very good point. :)

REALIST1 THANK YOU, AMAZING POST, you said it all perfectly, but DE fans will sadly never get it and do their own answers about why we ship Bamon :/

I understand you have an opinion but saying you don't understand how people can be passionate about Bamon is slightly....weird. I can't understand why people are so passionate about De but I don't ship then so I don't expect to know! I don't agree obvs but i thought on here we should be pro-our ships and not SO negative about a rival. Some anti-Bamon fans seem to think that we (B/D Fans) consider Damon/Bonnie a couple right now but we don't-we want them to happen and because we believe we are passionate and BELIEVE that things can turn around!
Yes in my opinion Bonnie DOES stand up to Damon-their banter proves it all and he's never taken advantage of her!
Saying "Damon deserves better than Bonnie" is weird too cos she has morals! He's killed for the fun of it-okay he's a vampire but she hurt him because he did those things not because she felt like it! Damon is hot and I love him but Bonnie is a nicer person inside.....it does matter that he deserved it and in my opinion saying Bamon would be unhealthy because she set him on fire is ridiculous because your picking out the bad points! I could say Damon feeding vampire blood to Elena is unhealthy but it's not all about that so it's unfair to base it just on that!

Yer that is one of the things that annoys me, is when Bamon fans our always seen as deluded, because we ship a AU couple, we dont think they our in love right now, an that is the whole point, we see potential in what they can be an see them as the most realistic build up, it is just thinking out side the box, an not just looking at what is placed inside it.

An as a book Bamon fan also, that isnt AU so again if it can happen in the books it can happen on the show, as alot never thought Bamon would happen in the books either .

Im gonna say it one last time....The reason why i can't ship delena( and trust me i've tried) is because I think Damon deserves better than Elena. I dont like that she kisses Stefan in front of Damon when she know's how Damon feels. I'd much rather see someone think about Damon for once and him to have someone that loves him and him only. I think he deserves that much especially with what happened with Katherine. Now that's why i dont ship delena. Why i ship bamon is another topic.

@LannieLuv7. Really?? Damon had just killed her brother..that was kinda of payback to him and the manipulation she did later on in the episode but all that added together doesn't equal to what Damon did. I remember Elena was the one saving him from Bonnie the night after. Bonnie was blaming Damon for something that wasn't his fault and Elena (even though she hated him) saved him!!!! She UNDERSTOOD that it wasn't his fault. The UNDERSTANDING between them is always there even if they are not getting along.


One thing Bamon don't have is and UNDERSTANDING. And Damon deserves someone who can understand him cuz the guy has got a lot going on