when will the dumbass writers of the show realise that damon is way out of elena's league...that she should the the one lusting after him??

Damon and Elena are equals in every way. Yes, Damon lusts after Elena, and Elena OBVIOUSLY lusts after Damon, but DE aren't about 'lust'. Lust is shallow and so is this question, basically. The characters in the show are NOT the characters in the books, so get over it.

You don't get Elena (or respect her obviously) You don't get Damon. You don't get Delena.

If you really were so intent on having the characters just as though they were in the books, you would know that Damon would never do that to Elena in either the books, or the television show. Damon is still a person, deep down, and if his reactions are confident enough for you, then perhaps you should find a more vapid series to look into. I can suggest quite a few - believe me, I do this all the time, and I've read quite a few books where all the characters are are cocky, ridiculous characters with no humility. TV Damon is just as good as, if not better than, Damon's book counterpart. Saying that he lacks substance is an insult to the actor, and he works hard for his job. If you think that their relationship doesn't need any emotional depth, then you can't say you are a Delena fan. You can't say you're an Elena fan. You can't say you are a Damon fan. You can't even say you're a The Vampire Diaries fan. If you were, you'd be grateful that the writers put so much into trying to make us all happy every week, and you'd be happy with what they give you. You don't get Delena, and you never will, it seems.

He is out of her league, but you don't choose who you love.