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Please stop the bashing...?

Opinion by LoveLiesAndLust posted over a year ago
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I'm not trying to start an even bigger war here, or anything, between Delena and Stelena, or the two ships' fans, but I've noticed a lot of hateful comments towards Stefan and Stelena. Yes, Delena fans, I'm talking about you. I'm not trying to attack or accuse you or anything, so please don't think I am, but I've seen comments like Stefan needs to die or things on the terms of that, and I'm sick of it! Do Stelena fans say they want Damon dead? No, we don't say that. And I know you're probably thinking, it's cause Damon's not only hot, but he rocks [or whatever], but there are actually fans on the spot who like Stefan and don't want him dead, and believe Stefan and Elena belong to each other.

I understand everyone has the right to their own opinions, their own tastes, etc. but please, please understand that other Stelena fans {maybe not all, but without naming anyone, I'll say there are a few SE fans} including myself don't like the hate comments. We try our hardest not to bash Delena, Damon, or Delena/Damon fans. And I'm 99% sure that there's rarely ever any Damon or Delena bashing; rather, only SE and Stefan fans defending theirselves or SE/Stefan. I swear I'm not trying to start anything here - I just felt like this should be out there. That way both Stelena and Delena fans are on the same page and there can be less arguements, and/or bashing.
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swimchick said:
I LOVE YOU CARRIE YOU ARE AMAZING♥
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Shandiii said:
Great Article, Carrie! :}
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SG1-090 said:
Aw man I didn't realise the bashing was that bad! I love both Damon & Stefan but I actually prefer Stefan, he is such a babe!

Great article :D
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but there are actually fans on the spot who like Stefan and don't want him dead, and believe Stefan and Elena belong to each other.
AMEN!!!

Amazing article sweetie,and I hope ppl don't get this in a wrong way...xD
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HEA16 said:
I completely agree! Great article!
I may be Delena fan, but I have no problem with Stefan or Stelena. I definitley think the rude comments and the bashing of either side need to stop :D
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natulle said:
This is a geat article and I can't say anything else than I completely agree!
This spot is such a negative palce to go to which is sad.
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Awesome article Carrie!!!!
And i completely agree too!!
And yes Nat, its so sad that this spot is only for bashing :/
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mimouk said:
Fantastic article.
I totally agree. I mean, I myself am a Delena fan, but i don't wish Stefan to die nor agree with the bashing in any way. I may prefer Delena but i don't hate Stelena. I just wish the bashing of BOTH sides would stop.
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Jennx said:
Completely agree.
I`M Stelena & Delena fan. But I`M very close with Stelena fans, i barely ever `talk` with Delena fans but i saw some hate.And it`s totally pointless. As far as i know all Stelena fan girls NEVER BASHED Delena or Damon. Cus` it`s just childish.
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not starting an argument or anything i respect ur opinion! but if you think that no one bashes DE then u are GREATLY MISTAKEN!! there is A BUNCH of people who bash not only stelena BUT delena as well and yes i have heard so many people bashing damon it's not even funny delena gets bashed ALL THE TIME!....cause apperently we "ruin"..the "soul mate" couple!...well ya know what (not directed towards you lol but in general) delena will eventually happen and we are not complaining cause WE KNOW stelena will always be there..but this is a show people different couples will happen..i personally know stelena will always be there and there is nothing i can do cause i'm not writing the show people have to accept the fact that people have differnt opinions on what couples they like.
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I am a delena fan ( a abig one) and i agree with u that the bashing has to stop but when we delena fans say stuff about Stefan and Stelena it is because it is on our minds and we share what is on our minds so if any one does not like that then plz don't read our comments , and we delena fans are probably not the only ones saying that because there are other ppl (like thhe Catt fans , ect.) And i am not trying to bring the Catt fans into this and i am not saying that they say anything i am just giving an example. But i completely agree with u!! The bashing needs to stop and i think that if there is any thing that either delena fans or stelena fans want to say bad about the other team then we should go to our Damon & Elena fan spot ( or the stelena fans should go to their Stefan & Elena fan spot) and write it and stick mainly to not writing bad about the other side on the Vampire Diaries websites!! Well that is just my opinion!!! Great articl i agree!!! :P
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this is such a great article! good on you Carrie :D
i agree 100%, Stefan is bashed so much around here! :(

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Thanks for the sweet comments of the DE fans!

And Carrie, I freaking LOVE you for writing this awesome article!!!
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I so agree!
Great Article ♥
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angiii7 said:
I agree! The bashing should spot but there's something wrong with the article. The delena fans are not the ones that start the fights and stuff. The bamon fans are! We respect everyones opinion. At least I do and the delena fans I know... Please take a look at the VAMPIRE DIARIES COUPLES spot. ;)
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samjhart said:
Great article hun..I think there's no need for invasions and stuff. We can totally respect each other spaces, right?
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That's an amazing article.I really think PPl( whoever ship fans)Should stop Bashing .Specially name calling a character or Die wishes are really sad.I have seen these things for Stefan and Bonnie.So, I think PPl should respect each others opinion.It's not everyone will have their same opinion.
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kindhiya said:
im totally agree... great article
no need to say its you or you who start the fights just be respectfull and mature and stop this ridiculous fight
so thank you for your article
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I totally agree girl. I love both Stefan and Damon, and I ship both Stelena and Delena equally. But I gotta say, that there is some MAJOR bashing from Delena fans going on in this spot. Not so much Stelena, as it is just Stefan in general. People need to get a grip and act mature. All they need to do is say "I don't like so-and-so", not "I hope he/she dies a painful death." It's really immature and annoying to read. I'm not saying that it's only Delena fans that do it, because I know ALL ships are guilty, but Delena people are the ones I see doing the most damage.
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Amen girly.
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I ship Delena, but I do agree that we tend to mouth off a bit. And did anybody else notice that people who ship Delena sort of act like Damon in some aspects? Like his aggressiveness and he's just out there and says what he wants. People who ship Stelena act more like Stefan. They bite their tongues and control themselves more. I'm not saying it's a bad thing for anybody. I'm just speaking my mind.
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Lol. That never really even occurred to me. Ha.
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I am a huge Delena fan (I actually I adore them) but I like Stefan too. Even if I didn't like him, I completely agree with you...There is no reason to be rude and hateful.
JesseIsLoveMD--> I hadn't notice but I kinda agree with ya!
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I agree, not only here, but in general, i really cant stand when people make reallyu hatefull and bad things about other couples/characters! I mean there is a difference between opinion (like saying a couple is boring, you dont like it etc) and saying mean things about i!
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I take my hat of to you girl well done :D
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I heve heard Stelena fans Bash Delena too. I would never want Stefan to Die and just want Elena to choose Damon.
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Yeah, people from either ship do bash each other. And I've noticed that from many DE comments about SE, that you can't praise Delena without bashing Stelena. Praise your couple and don't use another couple to say nonsense about them, as a way to also praise your ship. And that DE fan saying it's the Bamon shippers faults, that's not cool. A lot of the Bamon shippers are cool. I actually do like Damon & Bonnie together.

Anyway, yeah, peeps, stop/tone down the ridiculous bashing. It can be insane. Really.
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Nutika said:
I understand you but you have to remember that some Stelena fans doing the same. I don't mean here becous mayby on this site it is different but in one place for example when i wrote something aboout Damon thich could be read as "I think producents made him more important and i love him" immadiately someone in rude way comment it. And becouse on that you need to Remeber OK DELENA FANS ARE RUDE TO STELENA FANS BUT STELENA FANS DOING THE SAME ;)I'm not trying to say that we are angels becouse it's not true and sometimes i feel guilty when i read not nice comments about Stefan (I'm a little afraid of him but i love him with Kath, and i know that in some way he is a great guy)
It's just my opinion :D
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I don't wish for Stefan to die , but I prefer Delena and i would love to see him with Kathrine.When I write my opinions I don't want to bash anyone but people are emotional and in the TVD delena fans are not the only fans , so lets all be polite and ship our couples.
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elli_sm said:
Nice article!
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I luv your article. I don't like the delena bashing either. We can all be nice to each other and still be different ships!
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Great article , I'm a BIG Delena fan and I want us to stop bashing too . It's mostly Bamon fans who bash
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LoveLustandLies hi mate bloody love tis but Meh not pretty sure sum fans are grasping. DB fans has never attack DE unless push so hell I was once a DE hard core shipper, and notice the bloody hate sum DE fans bring. SE and DB fans derseve to ship their couples in peace if ya dnt like them, then ok. Just dnt be bloody rude lately DE fans have been sayin foul rubish to meh mates. Callin them uncalled names and recently in youtube "Home of DE Hell". Meh was rudly attack by DE fans on meh page callin meh a Cunt! You tell meh who's doing what? Now yes meh should attack but meh didnt no I jus spam and block them, the same for yee others. That is all good article mate hope sum lesson and learn.
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Bamon fans are the big bashers, but i think that we all need to just enjoy and appreciate what the show has to offer :) very nice article
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I'm a Bamon fan!

Depending on the poster's age and tolerance level, "bashing" can be a subjective matter. Some people's sensibilities can be easily bruised based on how they interpret a response or reply. Others may take it with a grain of salt.

Amongst the majority of fans, the youngest are the most emotional. I've also found that Delena, Bamon, and (to a smaller degree) Stelena fans are all guilty of instigating squabbles between separate factions.

By the way, villifying one group for (what is deemed as) intolerable behavior serves as scapegoating mechanism and doesn't really address how fans have chosen to communicate with each other. Anyway....ce le vie!
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Im Stelena, but I love Delena too. The reason Im Stelena is that if Stefan and Elena are together then Damon can be with Bonnie, but if Damon and Elena are together then Stefan cant be with anyone because in the books Katherine is dead. I like TV show and Book, so I ship couples who could work in both.

I was a fan of Damon and Rose too, though but she wasn't in the book
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katie15 said:
Very biased article. Bashing comes from all ships.
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xshaggy9x said:
Ummmm honestly no offense who cares really it's a tv show that will eventually end.... And btw Stelena and delena are both boring jkjkjkjk lol but for real though people just need to chill acting like it's a reality tv show
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zshaggy9x thnx 4 reminding us its true this is just a show n i sumtimes feel kinda stupid arguing bout deledna n stelena lol but dont get me wrong i love it though,n yes they r alot of delena fans bashing on stelena but they r alot of stelena fans bashing on delena n delena fans 2 so plzz stelena fans stop bashing delena n delena fans stop bashing stelena
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It's true that no one should be bashing. Delena fans shouldn't bash Bamon or Stelena or whatever ship that's not theirs (I'm a Delena fan, btw), but that goes for Stelena and Bamon fans, too. I never wished anyone to be dead, but sometimes I just hate Stefan, because he tempted Damon to drink that blood when he actually wanted to die instead of becoming a vampire, because Stefan was more approved by their father, because both Katherine and Elena prefer him over Damon. I just feel sorry for Damon. He never gets who he wants (not in the TV show,anyway)and I don't think that's fair. But I never wished Stefan to die and the fact that he gave up on everything to safe Damon, makes up for me. There are times I hate Damon, too.
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BTW, take a look at the Damon and Bonnie spot, before you accuse us!
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HELLO it's an awesome TV show but really who cares if some pimple face kid somewhere bashes someone ur a fan of chill out. I'm a Delena fan and have nothing against Stefan or Stelena, but Stefan's had 2 seasons to be with Elena, Damon loves her so he should have his turn. Breakups r part of life.
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Epicurean said:
I'm a Delana fan but I LOVE Stefan, so I don't want him dead. D: However, I agree with jesse_hulm, Stefan's had his go with Elena, it's Damon's turn now! :D
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100% Agree! Well said!!!!
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nglenn9 said:
way to speak up; great article!
oh and well put ^ducky8abug!
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i know that some DE fans bashing BUT when i am on YT and make a comment about DE i ALWAYS getting BASHED by some SE or DB fans -.-
we are all sometimes so ON our ships that we write before we think about it! people will fight forever because we are humans and humans want their opinions to be the RIGHT opinios and sometimes disagree other people and we began to fight for our ships.
i think there will NEVER be an ultimate stop of those wars. we just can reduce them. its sad but its true!
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Awww Katherine-P *hugs* you its ok yea I know how ya feel on YT it is hell over there too many DE fans and their gaining up on you this in mind, Im not some weak lil minded girl. Im not gonna kill myself over TVD or a loser fan who cant accept reality your right TVD will carry on until it get's cancel.
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I agree with your points, but I think you should consider that bashing goes on in every fandom. I'm not saying that DE shippers never do anything to upset other ships, but I HATE it when other shippers paint us as 'the bad guys'. As if Delena fans alone are guilty of it. This is simply not true. I don't know what goes on on tumblr or twitter, but I go on YouTube regularly and even on DE vids, Stelena fans seem to gravitate towards us purely so they can start an argument. I'm not pointing the finger at Stelena fans, but to say that 99% of SE fans NEVER bash is a misrepresentation of facts. Some SE fans DO bash, unfortunately. So do Bamon fans. When it comes to fandoms, there are bad apples in every one, so no fandom can ever be 'perfect' or 'good' all the time. I haven't come across the kinds of examples you give, but the DE fans I know aren't like that. I like Stefan. I like all the characters. I can't stand the fact that other ships seem intent on giving DE fans a bad name, just because a select number of the fanbase has caused offence to other shippers. I'm not making excuses for those fans, but why should the majority of the Delena fanbase be held accountable for the actions of some random strangers, just because they happen to share the same ship? They didn't bash or hurt anyone. I'm an active member of the DE spot, but I couldn't even say that I knew the 'majority'. I don't. There are too many of us. So, while I do understand what you're saying, I think that your perception is very one-sided. How can you know what ALL SE fans are thinking/saying about Damon or Delena?? You might be able to know what some of them are, but it's not possible for you to know the individual viewpoints of every Stelena fan. You might find that some SE fans don't like Damon or Delena at all, or even hate them. I agree with your points, I think SE and DE fans should get on, but your article doesn't tackle the issue fairly, as you discriminate against Delena fans by claiming that bashing is limited to them only. It would have been fine if you had said that bashing is something that goes on in every fanbase, but you didn't. You seem to imply it's only a problem for Delena fans, and see Stelena fans through rose-tinted glasses. Just as you have your stories of bashing, DE fans have theirs. As for the message you wanted to give through this article, well I can appreciate that you didn't want to start something, but this article only perpetuates the myth that Delena fans are terrible and the rest of the TVD ships are victims. This doesn't do anyone any favours. In fact, I think it might make things worse, because it reinforces Stelena/Bamon fans beliefs that they are the cruel victims of Delena fans, thus increasing their sense of complacency and self-righteousness, and gives DE a bad name. Please reconsider your views. Not all Delena fans are awful, just as not every SE/Bamon fan is good and never does or says anything wrong. Fandoms are populated by every kind of person, so they are pretty much the same. To claim that one is better or worse than the others is a falsehood.
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Oh Please, Delena fans are NOT the only ones that are bashing. I had to talk to a Stelena fan who was bashing Delena. So no, I don't agree with you. And how are you 99% sure? You haven't seen all the stuff that is said. You are making some highly false accusations.
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I agree, but ARE you REALLY 99% sure about the DE fans? Not all are bad(I am a SE fan BTW)altough love the article!!!
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