Well, for one he lied to Elena ever since they met. And I know he was a vampire and all but he was going to have to tell her at some point. “There are things that you don’t know. Things that I want to tell you but I can’t. And I may never be able to.” So was he just gonna keep his vampire secret a secret forever? That’s kinda hard to hide from a person who you are in a relationship with, especially Elena who can tell when you’re hiding something from her and will do whatever it takes to find out the truth. To quote Matt: “She’s big on trust man. Whatever you’re hiding from her, whatever you don’t want her to know she’s only gonna wanna know even more. And she won’t stop until she finds out what it is.”
Now when Elena figured out Stefan’s secret, did Stefan tell her the truth? Of course he did. He was caught and he had to come clean with it or else he’ll lose Elena’s trust even more. This is what I do not like about him. He only tells the truth when he’s backed into a corner aka getting caught in the lie. For example when Elena found out about Katherine looking like her, Stefan could tell that he was about to lose her so he had to come clean with everything just to regain her trust. He couldn’t lie to her anymore because Elena will find out the truth and that will bite him in the ass later on.
Now onto my biggest pet peeve with Stefan. He says he loves Elena right? He says all these things to her to make her happy but at the end of the day, his love for her isn’t as strong as people may think it is. I read in a post saying that Stefan respects/vaules human life. Really? I sure don’t remember seeing him trying to change Elena’s mind about her dying just so everyone can live. He just shrugged his shoulders when questioned about it. Who does that? Say what you want about Damon. Call him an abuser, rapist, etc. But if there’s one good thing about Damon it’s that he’ll do whatever it takes to protect the people he loves, even if they end up hating him in the aftermath. He might have gone about saving Elena’s life the wrong way but his heart was in the right place. He loves Elena so much that he can’t bear to lose her. And I’ll even say that he loves Elena more then Stefan. Deny it if you want but it’s true. If Stefan really loved Elena as much as he says he does then he wouldn’t have been so willing to let her die. It’s the same thing as letting a person commit sucide. I sure hope none of you would let your friend take their own life just because it’s their choice. It may be their choice but you have a choice to step in and tell them to stop and reason with them. That’s what Elena did with Stefan in 1x20. Stefan was going to burn in the sun but Elena didn’t have that. She talked to him, REASONED with him, and made him think clearly again. She “disrespected” his wishes to die like Damon did with Elena. So tell me why Elena got no hate for saving Stefan while Damon got hated on for trying to save Elena? Double standards maybe? I understand that his methods were different then Elena’s but they did the exact same thing. They stopped/tried to stop the people they love die. I just wish Stefan could have done the same with Elena, but instead when his brother was dying he did everything in his power to save him even though he told Stefan HE WANTED TO DIE. So again I ask why Damon gets hated on for disrespecting Elena’s wishes to die while Stefan did the same thing with his brother?
Another reason why I do not like Stefan. When Klaus came to take Elena away he just closed his eyes and ALLOWED Klaus to take her! I understand that Klaus would have killed Stefan if he would have fought back but isn’t doing SOMETHING to save/protect the one you love better then doing nothing and letting them get killed? He could have grabbed something wooden and stake Klaus. Even though it woulldn’t have killed him it would give Stefan enough time to escape with Elena and go to her house where Klaus couldn’t come in. Remember when Damon staked Elijah? He was left imoblilzed for a good couple hours before he could move again. But closing his eyes and letting Klaus take Elena? I’ll never understand it.
I could go on with reasons why I do not like Stefan, but I think I’ve given enough vaild points. :)