Eclipse is my least favourite, which means I'm only mildly obsessed with it.
I agree that Jacob needs to imprint and find his own girl (or if he chooses, his own guy). I still like Jacob, he just has big problems.
I think Bella does love Edward more. (A lot more.) Although since her love of Edward is possibly the truest of true loves, that doesn't mean she doesn't love Jacob with enough power to light up all of Washington. It just means it isn't enough to overpower her love of Edward, which (since I already used the electricity metaphor) could light up all of Earth and then some.
We know Bella truly loves Edward by in New Moon when he leaves. Bella doesn't act like a teenager who just broke up with her boyfriend, she acts like a grieving widow who just lost her husband and soul mate. Everything changes and Bella stops doing so much that she used to enjoy just because the pain of remembering him is too strong that it kills her every time.
Bella truly, deeply loves Edward.
Bella truly loves Jacob. He fixed (well... attempted) her when she was completely broken inside and outside. Nothing was right and everything was wrong, yet he was there. While everyone stared at her like she was insane or waiting for her to prove that she was insane, he didn't. For that, who wouldn't love Jacob?
Yet, Edward comes back as we (almost) all had hoped. Even with Jacob there helping us all feel better, nothing beats having an Edward. Bella knows this, so when it comes down to choosing she never really had to think about it. Jacob was (almost) always there for her and she loves him for it, yet Edward is Edward (sorry, but I don't think there is an adjective that fits Edward quite right).
Bella can't not pick Edward. He was her first and strongest love. Ever heard that you'll always love your first love? Well, that's how it is for Bella. She can't not love him and she can not live without him. As great as Jacob is, he could never fix the hole left by Edward (although try he did). It was too big and refused to give in. That hole was much bigger than the hole that was made by Jacob.
In both New Moon and Eclipse Bella says goodbye to Jacob (first when he joined the pack, and then when she picks Edward), but Edward leaving her was always more painful.
In Eclipse she cries and in New Moon she is stunned. In New Moon when Edward leaves she breaks down so much that she can't even cry or think about it without breaking down again. The only time she can't hide from her (what to call it? It's more than depression or sadness) death (I can't find a word that fits better) is when she sleep, in which she screams and cries.
In conclusion, Bella loves Edward more.