over a year ago:
Wow, I am seeing a lot of comments saying that Delena is only lust and that Stelena is really love. Well all I have to say is that's a load of bull. These people obviously don't know that lust is basically horny. When you lust after someone, you basically just want to bone them. And if Delena’s relationship was only lust then they would have fell into bed way before. It would not take them three seasons to finally get a real kiss, whereas it took Stelena two episodes.
And another example of lust between Stelena is that they had sex only after ten episodes. And I don’t think Elena loved Stefan at the time. I think she was only in love with the safety he brought her while her parents were gone. And Stefan did not love Elena at the time either. Sure he cared about her, but he did not love her yet. In the first episode he said he knew the risk but he HAD to know her. He knew she wasn’t Katherine but he still wanted to know her. It wasn’t to make sure she was alright. And when Elena saw him, she saw a hot guy. She lusted, she was not horny, but she was lusting after his good looks and nice guy persona. And Stefan looked at her and saw a better version of Katherine: a thoughtful, strong, unselfish, caring and loving girl. He loved the idea of that. And Elena loved the idea of the way Stefan made her feel; he made her forget her trouble.
Now Stefan really loved Elena in 1x20 when he was trying to kill himself. He felt unloved; he felt that Elena would not love him if she found out who he really was. But Elena showed him that she would stay by him no matter what. And that’s when he REALLY fell in love with her. So I really don’t know why Stefan didn’t go back after he was free from Klaus, when Elena showed him in 1x20 that she would love him no matter what.
So Stelena was first lust then they turned into (what all of Stelena fans think) love. Delena is far from lust because they first start as friends, then they move further into their relationship. While Stelena jumped over friendship and took the shortcut, and that’s why they are NOW facing obstacles’ that is supposed to bring them closer, but right now is bringing them further. Delena faced their obstacles’ way into season one and two. Season one was friendship, season two was friendship and trust, and now season three is love.
And now for 2x01. I keep seeing “I care about you, but I love Stefan—it’s always going to be Stefan.” in every argument with Delena VS Stelena. Now I used to be worried about that but I’m not anymore. When Elena said that, she said it because she didn’t really know Damon that well. All she knew about him was that he loved Katherine for 145 years and tried to get her back, and failed. And that he would do anything for love, and that he was an arrogant funny guy. She did not know him at all. It wasn’t until in season 2 that she learned the REAL him, the one that felt and hid everything about him from everyone. That’s when she begins growing feelings for him. So Elena said that but it’s irrelevant now because she does know him. She has seen the good, bad, funny, arrogant, sad, loving sides of Damon. ALL of them. So to me 2x01 doesn’t matter and it’s senseless to keep using it as an argument against Delena.
So the Stelena fans (not all of them!) that are saying that and using every single thing from season 1 need to watch the rest of the seasons and try to find better arguments. Because half of them are irrelevant.