over a year ago:
Your "coming out to yourself" experience sounds a lot like mine. I denied it for years. And I know how you feel about being labeled; that's why I'm not out.
I agree, society seems to think that it's impossible for you to be female and not like d*ck (at least to some degree). Basically, it comes from porn "lesbians" who are doing it for the camera, or girls who just do it to attract male attention.
I think this also due to the fact that a woman's worth is unfortunately measured by how she attracts men. Think about all the elements of "beauty" that have been constructed by heterosexual men. If a woman is not into men, people just can't process that. And that's why you get stupid guys who are like, "I bet I could turn you straight."