With the rise in brutal verbal beatings on the internet these days, with kids telling other kids things they would NEVER have said to them in person, I think it's important to point out some words that should slide right off your back.
That being said, I know it's easier to pretend that words don't hurt when they actually do. This list of words, are words that I have learned not to take offensively, and I will give you an example of why each one doesn't bother me. This way, if you ever feel yourself stung by the verbal attacks of an insecure online "friend," you can read this article and know that A) you're not alone and B) we're here to help.
List of Words That Will Never Hurt Me
1) Gay. My actual sexual orientation aside, I have never, nor will I ever, consider the words "gay" or "lesbian" an insult. First of all, because some of the sweetest, funniest, bravest people I know are gay or lesbian. And second of all, if it's homophobic straight people who want to use it as an insult, well, let's just say I'd rather be "gay" then like them.
2) Stupid. This may be due to my obscene arrogance, but I know that I am really smart. The fact that someone feels the need to call me stupid just demonstrates the fact that they don't like that I'm smart. Maybe even smarter than them. The real way you know you're not stupid, is if you just smile enigmatically at a remark like this and say nothing. Because you're smart enough to know that these people are baiting you.
3) Fat and/or Ugly. When I was younger, and going through that awkward phase of adolescence, this insult might have bothered me more than the above two. I was highly insecure with my body image back then. Now, I'm comfortable in my own skin, and just roll my eyes at such immaturity. But since this article is targeted at that age group, I felt that it was an important insult to discuss. It is essential to remember that the words these girls say hold no power over you, and that you are a beautiful person, especially if you don't respond to the baiting. I don't care if you actually are overweight, or if you think your features are ugly. This insult is preying on your insecurities. If you can't help but let it get to you, go to a real friend or family mother and ask them if they think you're fat or ugly. They'll say no, and it's their opinion that you should listen to.
The very important key to fighting the burn of insults is to remind yourself that the words these people are saying are just reflections of how they view themselves. Whatever phrase they think will be the most insulting to you, is the phrase that, if someone ever used against them, would hurt them the most.
Be strong. I know that words can hurt, and for some reason, teenagers, particularly girls, can be extremely nasty with their word choice. The good news is, most of them will grow out of that phase and learn to be pleasant, friendly adults. The better news is, you'll also grow up, and, having dealt with your insecurities in your youth, be more comfortable with yourself then the people who hid behind insults.
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nicely put as usual, cinders.
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