In Part I, we explored the often devastating effect of violating marriage vows, but we also saw that such an outcome is built into the structure of marriage. So we moved on to the higher question of what commitment is best in a hypothetical world in which marriage has not yet been invented. This is the same as loving but avoiding the Marriage commitment. Okay, so now I meet the girl of my dreams, the attraction is mutual, and I have to decide how I will love her. Regardless of how she is feeling and how she views our relationship, is there an advantage if I personally commit to loving her for life as opposed to, say, loving her for two years? If I love her for two years, then I have more freedom, and I can trade up for prettier, racier model. Hmmm...what does that say about the quality of my love for her? If I'm looking forward to trading her in for a prettier girl, or one who cooks better, then did I ever really love her in the first place? No, I guess I didn't, at least not very much. That case only works for me if I am happy with a low grade relationship, perhaps one that is 80/20 centered on the sexual benefits.
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