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In Part I, we explored the often devastating effect of violating marriage vows, but we also saw that such an outcome is built into the structure of marriage. So we moved on to the higher question of what commitment is best in a hypothetical world in which marriage has not yet been invented. This is the same as loving but avoiding the Marriage commitment. Okay, so now I meet the girl of my dreams, the attraction is mutual, and I have to decide how I will love her. Regardless of how she is feeling and how she views our relationship, is there an advantage if I personally commit to loving her for life as opposed to, say, loving her for two years? If I love her for two years, then I have more freedom, and I can trade up for prettier, racier model. Hmmm...what does that say about the quality of my love for her? If I'm looking forward to trading her in for a prettier girl, or one who cooks better, then did I ever really love her in the first place? No, I guess I didn't, at least not very much. That case only works for me if I am happy with a low grade relationship, perhaps one that is 80/20 centered on the sexual benefits.
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In my novel, Coinage of Commitment, this is a kind of trick question that Nancy asks Wayne in her chapter six exploration of his capacity and maturity for the love she is seeking. It has generated a few questions back to me about whether Wayne's affirmative answer represents the author's position. I've been ducking the question because I didn't feel that my position was well enough developed to hold up to tough follow-up questions. It is a complex issue, one most people take for granted or rely on cultural conditioning to answer, plus it can be dealt with at multiple levels.
For instance, this is a question weighted with moral significance. Many religious systems require lifetime commitment to the marriage relationship. The problem with religious precepts of this type is that they tend to take on an isolated "be all" and "end all" feel to them. By that I mean that they tend to hit us between the eyes as being somewhat arbitrary. I mean, if there is a God, and if He is a loving God, is there a reason He would set this requirement? It's fairly easy to see the societal benefit of a commandment against stealing, but in an era of advanced...
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