If you can't say something nice......

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Temptasia posted 1 year ago

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Yep, they do!

As a rule, I wouldn't make a big deal about this, but it has been bothering me for a long time. I understand the importance of correct grammar, spelling, and the use of the proper punctuation, and what I am about to say has nothing to do with this. I also understand having an opinion that differs with another person, but when somebody makes a pick or writes a comment it takes time and effort to do so. What bothers me is when people leave mean comments about how either their question is stupid or even how stupid the person is for making a pick. The reason we join spots and make picks is because we are trying to contribute to a spot and maybe even make someone smile with something we thought was cute and witty. It is very hurtful to then have those efforts put down and belittled because someone feels like leaving a derogatory remark. I guess what I am saying is that if you don't like a pick someone made or think their comment is stupid then keep that opinion to yourself. It is ok to have a different opinion than another person but there is no reason to make disparaging remarks to other people. There are better ways to express your differing opinion then to put down someone's effort or call them stupid. When you leave cruel and cutting remarks then you are the one who looks silly. So, if you can't say something nice, then SHUT UP!

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	johnminh said: Hear hear! There's so much negativity in the world already. Let's not forget fanspot is a place for FANS. We're here because we like to join with other people who are fans of the things we are fans of. Of course, if someone makes a "johnminh sucks" fanspot and it gains 9847539873589 fans, my feelings might be hurt... posted 1 year ago.

	missmoria said: Hooray for niceness! posted 1 year ago. last edited 7 months ago

	kathiria82 said: Even though I feel that when you put yourself out there things like that are going to happen but I still agree with you. I don't often make picks but on one pick I made someone left me rude comments. People have to learn how to use tact when they are trying to get their points across on here. Even though someone might criticize with the intention of helping, it often comes across as rude and makes people feel bad. So like Temptasia said, just don't comment if you don't like the pick. posted 1 year ago.

	benji said: See, I agree with this, but at the same time, I often feel bad because while I try to be nice, often I'm sarcastic in what I say and it may be misconstrued as me being mean. So this is me, saying here and now, I don't intend to be a dick if you've ever thought I was coming across as such :) One phrase is needed: use tact before you act! posted 1 year ago.

	tubby2002 said: I totally agree, it is just childish and mean to insult someone online, that you dont even know. I cant stand poeple like that and dont understand why people do it. posted 1 year ago.

	rookyboy said: I dont want to sound mean now but people who log on just to be mean and rude have nothing better to do, as there is no reason what so ever to say or be mean to any one ever. But this is a very good point that if you can't think of anything funny or nice to say jog on lol. posted 1 year ago.

	harold said: Here's a suggestion, which emilee suggested to me: if you have a problem with a particular link or other content on the site, either report it or send the user a message, rather than posting a comment to that effect. The reason for this is that, if you are persuasive and not just rude, the original poster will likely edit the content (if its anything other than a question/pick), and then you won't be stuck with your public comment that doesn't make sense anymore. posted 1 year ago.

	DrDevience said: Oh. I love snark-fests - Send me to them, I'll whup em fer ya.... HA! posted 1 year ago.

	ali22 said: Well said Temptasia :) My mum always said to us.....if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all! posted 1 year ago. last edited 1 year ago

	AmyFitz said: I always say nice things. :) Or if I differ in opinion, I usually just point it out in a rational, polite way. Nice article! xxx posted 1 year ago.

	marissa said: spread the love. gives the peace sign and sings "kumbia" (sp?) posted 1 year ago.

	knifewrench said: I like that "tact before you act" thing that benji came up with :) I've heard more than one account of nasty happenings on fanpop but I have only seen one inpolite message about a scrubs video (AmyFitz quickly sorted that miserable git out, go you!) posted 1 year ago. last edited 1 year ago

	kateliness2 said: I try and always be polite. I made my first pick not too long ago and someone actually put "Who cares??" as another choice. Its just not nice, people! Good article! posted 1 year ago.

	Temptasia said: This was the featured soapbox for about 4 days. Thanks guys! posted 1 year ago.

	knifewrench said: Eh? posted 1 year ago.

	DarkSarcasm said: Nicely put, Temptasia. =) posted 1 year ago.

	vider69 said: I agree, some people have nothing better to do than bag other peoples spots, if you don't like it, don't join, very well put. posted 3 months ago.

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