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HELP! how to get rid of an obsessive friend?

Okay... so I have this friend and she used to be my best friend. We've known each other since the fourth grade, but once middle school started, we went to different schools. Now it's freshman year, and we go to the same school---worst MISTAKE ever.
Now that we go to the same school, she is COMPLETELY different from what I remember her to be. Before high school started (during the summer) she was completely normal. But then... after like the first month of school, she was being a total brat.
We both auditioned for our school's musical, and she didn't finish her singing audition--she clammed up and stuff. But I finished, and everyone loved it. People kept telling me "good job!" But do you know what my so called "best friend" told me?
"You hit the first notes wrong, and then that long note at the end? Yeah, that was bad. BUT MY AUDITION WAS WORSE OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE IT."
She used to be really sweet, nice, and reliable. But now every time I try to talk to her about something or ask her a question about school work (since I have four classes with her) she just snaps at me and talks to me in a tone as if she knows better than me. Which she doesn't. She acts all "high-and-mighty" but really, she's not.
She also acts like a COMPLETE baby, always whining and complaining when I snap back at her whenever she's a b*tch to me. She plays me out to be the bad guy that's picking on her, when really, it's vice versa.
Everyone at school knows that she's been my best friend, so I don't want to ditch her because I'm scared that everyone will think that I'm the bad guy and she's the innocent one. But she's not. She's giving me so much stress and I don't know what to do. She used to be my best friend that I could tell everything to, but now I'm scared she's just going to go behind my back and be a bipolar b*tch, which she's being right now.

it's also really hard to avoid her since she INSISTS to sit next to me in all the classes I have with her. She clings to me every mome
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nt she gets, and hates it when I socialize with other people that's not her. But apparently it's completely fine when she talks to her other friends---but when I do that? That's a big "no-no!" for her! I've already tried talking to her about this before, but she doesn't listen--she has such a fat head about herself, she thinks she's doing nothing wrong. She used to be my best friend so I don't want to hurt her feelings... but she's so obsessed with me! She's been texting me non-stop and calling me non-stop, and when I'm at school she doesn't leave me alone if she doesn't have her other friends. I can't stand it any longer. What do I do?
MewMewSecrets posted over a year ago
 MewMewSecrets posted over a year ago
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herpinaderpson said:
I personally think that it's not the friend you should get rid of, it's her behavior itself.
It sounds like she has developed an obsessive compulsive disorder over time, which I think might be related to emotional trauma or something similar (keep in mind I'm not an expert or anything, I just do research).
You should talk with her parents.
If one of my friends were like that, I would talk to the school counselor in private to see if I could help her. Things like this aren't to be taken lightly.
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Catherine51197 said:
Hmm..., tough one. My suggestion is talk to your parents &/or her parents about it, because most likely, something happened to her social wise during her middle school & she's just trying to figure life out (hard time). If both your parents know then things may be able to be sorted out & it might end up being, that you just need a little bit of space from each other. But if you don't want to talk to your parents about it, the only other alternative choice you have is to ditch her - however, there is a way around avoiding looking like the bad person; find a close/trusted best friend to explain the situation & ask them to help you quietly spread the word around (just make sure others know that you really don't want to do it!!). Good luck :)!!
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