Bangel vs Spuffy!
Its kind of a big debate really isn't it. Like for instense, who did Buffy love the most and so on, but my opinion really is that she loved them both the same, but just in different ways. If you haven't loved more than 2 guys before then i don't think you'll understand where i'm coming from.
Buffy and Angel were more of the love and feeling side whereas Spike and Buffy was more physical, aswell as the love and feeling. I'm a big spuffy fan, so this article might be a bit biased on the Spike and Buffy love.
Buffy and Angel
Buffy and Angels relationship was really touching for me. It showed the side of, that you really love someone but you can't have them kind of way. She couldn't have a touchy feely relationship (if you understand what i mean). Because if Angel had one moment of true happiness he would loose his soul which ment that he would become bad. But this situtaion really didn't bother Buffy much, she loved Angel so much and you could tell that by the way she looked at him and helped him when he was ill. (Graduation day parts 1+2) She let him drink her blood to get him better.
When Angel had one moment of happiness and lost his soul, you could tell that Buffy still loved him even though he was bad.
Buffy and Spike
Buffy and Spike's love on the otherhand was totally different. Spike didn't have a soul he was still a bad vampire who was in love with the slayer. He had a chip in his head so he couldn't hit humans, only demons. But he could hurt Buffy. This brought them closer together. Buffy liked danger, as she quotes, 'i like my evil like my men, evil' and spike was evil. Buffy said to spike that she was using him, but you could tell she wasn't that much. Only at the end she told Spike she loved him. Spike and Buffy could do stuff Angel and Buffy couldn't. Spike and Buffy's relationship was quite intense. She had a lot of passion for Spike.