✪ Beware the Copycat! ^w^ She Wants EVERYTHING You Have…Even Your Man! *0*
By, Sinna Lin Song✥
What you have you have worked for, right? You did not come by it the easy way. Why should someone else come along for the free ride on your skirt tails and try to STEAL it away… especially “love”?
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery No?
This may be the long time expression; however, it can take some really twisted turns! This can spell a world of trouble for the devotee of the fan. It may be a sincere compliment to the fact that you, the one being copied, have it 'going on' or maybe someone else is just too darn lazy and not creative enough to just work for their own. Yet~ maybe they LITERALLY want something YOU have and aim to TAKE it!
I recently read an article [which I will credit below] but I thought that maybe I should share my experience on this matter, as I have had this happen to me!
THE FANGIRL
There are a few “types” to look for that can be the copycat… these culprits can be all one-in-the-same or a combo. One warning sign is when someone {same sex, nothing sexual} wants to be so close TOO fast and says "I love you!" repeatedly when you do not even know them and have not really ever said more than two words... that is a bit creepy. It may not seem like it at first, but stalkers are the real deal. Fans sometimes attach themselves like a barnacle to a ship and it is really hard to get them off! You don't want to be mean. You do not know them in the beginning. "I LOVE you Sis! Why are you not talking to me???? T.T I miss you! Do you HATE me? T^T"~ and you have no idea who they are or what they are even talking about? :( But soon enough, after being casual and going about your business you begin to see what will set them apart from others as stalkerish or just strange.
BEWARE THE FLATTERING FRIEND: the one who seems to start doing everything you do immediately after you do it (especially if you see or know she has never done these things before that you are aware of). She asks your advice and then tries to one up you, right?
She not only wants to be like you…she wants to BE you! She wants your boyfriend to like her too. If you don’t watch it, she’ll try to steal him in a New York second!
Identify the Idolater
She can be easy to distinguish from the crowd. You spot her wearing the same clothes you do [icons]. She suddenly picks up your activities (ironically) and joins your groups [clubs]. At first you think she just respects you/admires your taste. After a bit, it begins to get a little annoying. There is a feeling that she is lurking or hanging onto activities [clubs] you’re involved with and then she suddenly pops up right after you do. She may begin to participate twice as much as you do & ordinarily that would be a good thing. You may even feel guilty that for some odd reason there is a nagging impression that this seems out of place & strange.
She invites herself to conversations (usually ones that were not quite open ones) and yet, you do not wish to be rude… right? So you ignore any slights of over eagerness and continue to be civil or nice. At some point, usually rather quickly, she jumps into friendships with your friends, (often giving generously), especially those who seem closest to you and the cute/hot guy friends. Even though she does not know any of them, she suddenly acts as if she is their best friend.
She is assuming the spot that has been reserved for tried and tested placement that only time and earning those bonds of trust can give…[or so you thought] and yet she places herself already there with these people head-on. The chumminess can become almost sickening at this point how thick she is laying it on, even if they are just sort of ‘looking’ at her in bewilderment~ like “WHO are you again?
Suddenly, your friends start to become her friends…or so she thinks. But if they’re true friends, they’ll be able to distinguish between the genuine article and the fake who follows you everywhere. They’ll start to notice this new accoutrement/[person] & some may even make mention or ask.
If you are the buddy-buddy stage of the game, WATCH OUT! Next, she is likely to be making the moves on your guy!
She admires you so much, in fact, that she wants to be you-and that means to have what you have. She is secretively paying attention and learning from how you do things. She is as sneaky as a little snake ~ and she is in your garden! She is constantly trying to do what you do, but better (though it may well seem forced and too tried). She has most likely watched your interactions with your man. She will blatantly let him know she’s available… but only when you are not there. She wants you BOTH to like her. She needs that affirmation and attention.
Now is time to stop playing the game and call the bluff with those you are close to. Ask them if they have noticed and ask them to be aware. Hopefully it is not too late that you have sensed something is up. Limit interaction with her. Leave when she is around. Tell her you do not have time, rude as it may sound. Try to give her no information and nothing to work with (including taking your boyfriend with you).
Snakes do not just try to get in the front door. If that does not work-there is the back! 0.0 ANY way at all they can find a crack to get in!
So what happens if your friend/s or even your Honey falls prey & is fooled by the imitator and lets them in? What can you do? Nothing. Have they taken your life and become you? No. You move on.
You just have to accept that he was a counterfeit version of the boyfriend you thought you had. If he’s a sucker for the suck-up, then he will get what he deserves, and that is NOT you.
She will not be able to live up to the facade. Her mask will fade and she will eventually be exposed for who she is. You will not have to do anything. The truth is she will never be you. If she was really better than you to begin with, she would not have had to go about resorting to such underhanded and devious tactics. How is she going to keep being like you if she doesn’t have you around anymore to mimic? No one learns everything they need that fast. Her quick-study will crumble because her insides do not match her outsides. If someone seeks to fill your shoes it's hard if they are pretty unique shoes to fill, then it is NOT so easy.
You will then be rid of TWO fakes.
These super-fans may be super sorry & that boyfriend may be too, but I would not buy it. Trust is earned. Actions speak louder than words.
You may be hurt and angry-but be thankful that you saw people for who they really were sooner rather than later! Don't let things get any worse!
__________________________________
THE BUTTHURT CLOSET CREEPER
Here is the girl who may want you, your man, or BOTH~ literally, and you would never even know or have noticed because she was not very visible-more behind the scenes and then just happened to be caught in the light because something you or your Hunny-bunny said called her out and caught her off-guard. Now she is pissed off and butt hurt. Whoops. You had no idea she was going to react quite that way going from quiet to EXTREME!!
Woooooo-hold on! You had no idea this person was at all so interested in what you had to say or perhaps followed you and had been watching you! 0.0 Now you want them to take chill pill and it is too late! You feel like you messed up maybe somehow but no matter the details, they have gone absolutely psycho!
This is where it suddenly gets hairy and scary and escalates usually no matter what you do. You had no idea how much stock they put into your opinion and no idea just how obsessed someone could get!
Sometimes the deluge of hate takes a strange turn and they begin to emulate. They may accuse you of what they are actually themselves, or say that you are doing what they are really the one acting in. They begin to sound like the medieval town crier and start saying this louder and louder, at the top of their voice, for anyone who happens by to hear. It is embarrassing ~and that is part of the reason they are doing that.
They want to be your mirror, too, not only to mess with you but to make themselves look better. If they could somehow wriggle into your skin or even fake having your boyfriend without any permission what-so-ever needed by him, then now -see, they will be liked too. They are a quiet bully that waits to pounce and part of being that bully means a psychological warfare. Emotional manipulation is the name of the game because they are vying for control and dominance.
Where the overzealous and treacherous Fangirl was the garden snake who seems harmless and yet might be mistakenly poisonous, this is the python that will eat you whole. Watch out. Do not let them wrap around you or you may be done for. This is the type that can be the malicious cyber-bully or a real-life ruthless identity thief. She may be sooo blatant that there is no chance she could "steal" your man, but she can darn sure "try" to ruin your relationship.
If your guy is smart and has some sense, he will see straight through her and be your support. Efforts by sadistic females like this can actually make already healthy relationships stronger. It can definitely backfire on her and have an opposite effect.
Where the super-fan Fangirl will try to seem like the innocent victim, the Butthurt Creeper can play that game too, but usually the difference is that they are much more vocal and volatile.
Do not give them an inch.
Woman, Defend Thyself!
The mess may be messy and seem to ever thicken in a black pool of drama that threatens to suck you under, but if you will hold fast and hold your ground it can be daunted. You can be the victor even if it seems there is no chance. Even a pit-bull has to eat sometime and must let go. Do whatever you have to. More than anything, keep your spirits up and try NOT to sink to their level.
___________________________________
THE VULTURE
This is the one that circles your relationship -just waiting for the chance. Finally, when death seems imminent, (not literally-figuratively, I hope!) the vulture will circle round, circling ever lower and nearer. The target of her intentions is someone and something that might not normally be in her range. This is the carrion bird (the one who devours the snake). This is the female who lurks and waits until she sees a safer opening: a weak moment-possibly a spat or fight or some separation and then will immediately swoop in during that lapse. They do not hesitate to make a feast of your relationship even if it is NOT dead yet because they are soooo hungry they cannot wait. Their appetite is not for the kill but to dine on easy prey/one someone else has. For some reason this gives them the satisfaction that they earned it~ when in fact, they did just the opposite.
____________________________________
Can you save yourself or your man from that mess (ANY of these)?
Honesty sometimes it is your best weapon and defense. This is just in my humble opinion -more than you can say of the other female who threatens your peace or tries to come along and take or destroy that which is not hers to begin with. One word: Karma.
...('Or if you do not believe in karma, then: "What comes around goes around," or "You reap what you sow.")
This article was written and based upon an article by By Claire Aldrich
Netscape, AOL online, 2013, Fun Online
By, Sinna Lin Song✥
What you have you have worked for, right? You did not come by it the easy way. Why should someone else come along for the free ride on your skirt tails and try to STEAL it away… especially “love”?
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery No?
This may be the long time expression; however, it can take some really twisted turns! This can spell a world of trouble for the devotee of the fan. It may be a sincere compliment to the fact that you, the one being copied, have it 'going on' or maybe someone else is just too darn lazy and not creative enough to just work for their own. Yet~ maybe they LITERALLY want something YOU have and aim to TAKE it!
I recently read an article [which I will credit below] but I thought that maybe I should share my experience on this matter, as I have had this happen to me!
THE FANGIRL
There are a few “types” to look for that can be the copycat… these culprits can be all one-in-the-same or a combo. One warning sign is when someone {same sex, nothing sexual} wants to be so close TOO fast and says "I love you!" repeatedly when you do not even know them and have not really ever said more than two words... that is a bit creepy. It may not seem like it at first, but stalkers are the real deal. Fans sometimes attach themselves like a barnacle to a ship and it is really hard to get them off! You don't want to be mean. You do not know them in the beginning. "I LOVE you Sis! Why are you not talking to me???? T.T I miss you! Do you HATE me? T^T"~ and you have no idea who they are or what they are even talking about? :( But soon enough, after being casual and going about your business you begin to see what will set them apart from others as stalkerish or just strange.
BEWARE THE FLATTERING FRIEND: the one who seems to start doing everything you do immediately after you do it (especially if you see or know she has never done these things before that you are aware of). She asks your advice and then tries to one up you, right?
She not only wants to be like you…she wants to BE you! She wants your boyfriend to like her too. If you don’t watch it, she’ll try to steal him in a New York second!
Identify the Idolater
She can be easy to distinguish from the crowd. You spot her wearing the same clothes you do [icons]. She suddenly picks up your activities (ironically) and joins your groups [clubs]. At first you think she just respects you/admires your taste. After a bit, it begins to get a little annoying. There is a feeling that she is lurking or hanging onto activities [clubs] you’re involved with and then she suddenly pops up right after you do. She may begin to participate twice as much as you do & ordinarily that would be a good thing. You may even feel guilty that for some odd reason there is a nagging impression that this seems out of place & strange.
She invites herself to conversations (usually ones that were not quite open ones) and yet, you do not wish to be rude… right? So you ignore any slights of over eagerness and continue to be civil or nice. At some point, usually rather quickly, she jumps into friendships with your friends, (often giving generously), especially those who seem closest to you and the cute/hot guy friends. Even though she does not know any of them, she suddenly acts as if she is their best friend.
She is assuming the spot that has been reserved for tried and tested placement that only time and earning those bonds of trust can give…[or so you thought] and yet she places herself already there with these people head-on. The chumminess can become almost sickening at this point how thick she is laying it on, even if they are just sort of ‘looking’ at her in bewilderment~ like “WHO are you again?
Suddenly, your friends start to become her friends…or so she thinks. But if they’re true friends, they’ll be able to distinguish between the genuine article and the fake who follows you everywhere. They’ll start to notice this new accoutrement/[person] & some may even make mention or ask.
If you are the buddy-buddy stage of the game, WATCH OUT! Next, she is likely to be making the moves on your guy!
She admires you so much, in fact, that she wants to be you-and that means to have what you have. She is secretively paying attention and learning from how you do things. She is as sneaky as a little snake ~ and she is in your garden! She is constantly trying to do what you do, but better (though it may well seem forced and too tried). She has most likely watched your interactions with your man. She will blatantly let him know she’s available… but only when you are not there. She wants you BOTH to like her. She needs that affirmation and attention.
Now is time to stop playing the game and call the bluff with those you are close to. Ask them if they have noticed and ask them to be aware. Hopefully it is not too late that you have sensed something is up. Limit interaction with her. Leave when she is around. Tell her you do not have time, rude as it may sound. Try to give her no information and nothing to work with (including taking your boyfriend with you).
Snakes do not just try to get in the front door. If that does not work-there is the back! 0.0 ANY way at all they can find a crack to get in!
So what happens if your friend/s or even your Honey falls prey & is fooled by the imitator and lets them in? What can you do? Nothing. Have they taken your life and become you? No. You move on.
You just have to accept that he was a counterfeit version of the boyfriend you thought you had. If he’s a sucker for the suck-up, then he will get what he deserves, and that is NOT you.
She will not be able to live up to the facade. Her mask will fade and she will eventually be exposed for who she is. You will not have to do anything. The truth is she will never be you. If she was really better than you to begin with, she would not have had to go about resorting to such underhanded and devious tactics. How is she going to keep being like you if she doesn’t have you around anymore to mimic? No one learns everything they need that fast. Her quick-study will crumble because her insides do not match her outsides. If someone seeks to fill your shoes it's hard if they are pretty unique shoes to fill, then it is NOT so easy.
You will then be rid of TWO fakes.
These super-fans may be super sorry & that boyfriend may be too, but I would not buy it. Trust is earned. Actions speak louder than words.
You may be hurt and angry-but be thankful that you saw people for who they really were sooner rather than later! Don't let things get any worse!
__________________________________
THE BUTTHURT CLOSET CREEPER
Here is the girl who may want you, your man, or BOTH~ literally, and you would never even know or have noticed because she was not very visible-more behind the scenes and then just happened to be caught in the light because something you or your Hunny-bunny said called her out and caught her off-guard. Now she is pissed off and butt hurt. Whoops. You had no idea she was going to react quite that way going from quiet to EXTREME!!
Woooooo-hold on! You had no idea this person was at all so interested in what you had to say or perhaps followed you and had been watching you! 0.0 Now you want them to take chill pill and it is too late! You feel like you messed up maybe somehow but no matter the details, they have gone absolutely psycho!
This is where it suddenly gets hairy and scary and escalates usually no matter what you do. You had no idea how much stock they put into your opinion and no idea just how obsessed someone could get!
Sometimes the deluge of hate takes a strange turn and they begin to emulate. They may accuse you of what they are actually themselves, or say that you are doing what they are really the one acting in. They begin to sound like the medieval town crier and start saying this louder and louder, at the top of their voice, for anyone who happens by to hear. It is embarrassing ~and that is part of the reason they are doing that.
They want to be your mirror, too, not only to mess with you but to make themselves look better. If they could somehow wriggle into your skin or even fake having your boyfriend without any permission what-so-ever needed by him, then now -see, they will be liked too. They are a quiet bully that waits to pounce and part of being that bully means a psychological warfare. Emotional manipulation is the name of the game because they are vying for control and dominance.
Where the overzealous and treacherous Fangirl was the garden snake who seems harmless and yet might be mistakenly poisonous, this is the python that will eat you whole. Watch out. Do not let them wrap around you or you may be done for. This is the type that can be the malicious cyber-bully or a real-life ruthless identity thief. She may be sooo blatant that there is no chance she could "steal" your man, but she can darn sure "try" to ruin your relationship.
If your guy is smart and has some sense, he will see straight through her and be your support. Efforts by sadistic females like this can actually make already healthy relationships stronger. It can definitely backfire on her and have an opposite effect.
Where the super-fan Fangirl will try to seem like the innocent victim, the Butthurt Creeper can play that game too, but usually the difference is that they are much more vocal and volatile.
Do not give them an inch.
Woman, Defend Thyself!
The mess may be messy and seem to ever thicken in a black pool of drama that threatens to suck you under, but if you will hold fast and hold your ground it can be daunted. You can be the victor even if it seems there is no chance. Even a pit-bull has to eat sometime and must let go. Do whatever you have to. More than anything, keep your spirits up and try NOT to sink to their level.
___________________________________
THE VULTURE
This is the one that circles your relationship -just waiting for the chance. Finally, when death seems imminent, (not literally-figuratively, I hope!) the vulture will circle round, circling ever lower and nearer. The target of her intentions is someone and something that might not normally be in her range. This is the carrion bird (the one who devours the snake). This is the female who lurks and waits until she sees a safer opening: a weak moment-possibly a spat or fight or some separation and then will immediately swoop in during that lapse. They do not hesitate to make a feast of your relationship even if it is NOT dead yet because they are soooo hungry they cannot wait. Their appetite is not for the kill but to dine on easy prey/one someone else has. For some reason this gives them the satisfaction that they earned it~ when in fact, they did just the opposite.
____________________________________
Can you save yourself or your man from that mess (ANY of these)?
Honesty sometimes it is your best weapon and defense. This is just in my humble opinion -more than you can say of the other female who threatens your peace or tries to come along and take or destroy that which is not hers to begin with. One word: Karma.
...('Or if you do not believe in karma, then: "What comes around goes around," or "You reap what you sow.")
This article was written and based upon an article by By Claire Aldrich
Netscape, AOL online, 2013, Fun Online