A guide to find the purpose of your life on this Earth
A GUIDE TO FIND ANSWERS
Written specially for
Y O U
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0 + 4 + 1 + 0 + 1 + 9 + 9 + 6 = 30 = 3 + 0 = 30 / 3
30 / 3
3: Expression and Sensitivity
0: Inner Gifts
30: Expression and Sensitivity with Inner Gifts
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3 - EXPRESSION and SENSITIVITY
The life purpose of 3s entails bringing constructive emotional expression into the world, as they share their feelings and ideas in the most direct, positive, and honest manner possible. They need to find ways to apply their sensitivity and expressive abilities to uplift rather than tear down.
Imagine a rosebud with its petals closed over a glowing heart,
filled with passionate feelings, but not yet showing itself in its full beauty,
not until the blossom opens. It remains closed by doubt.
How does self-doubt affect your life?
Do you express your feelings openly, or do you hide, like the heart in the rosebud?
All great discoveries are made by those whose feelings run ahead of their thinking.
[C.H. Parkhurst]
LIFE PURPOSE
Individuals working 3 as their life purpose are here to utilize their emotional sensitivity to bring positive, heartfelt self-expression into the world. Because our life purpose entails challenges, 3s must first confront issues of blocked or distorted expression, as well as emotional oversensitivity and associated self-doubt.
People with 3 as their primary life purpose come into this world with powerful expressive drives. Since our life purpose isn’t what comes easiest, 3s also face distinct issues associated with their sensitive emotional nature, such as self-doubt, fear of expression, and a tendency to manipulate rather than state their feelings directly.
The expressive energy of 3s has a strong social component; 3s reach out to other people and depend on other people. Whether 3s express by speaking, painting, singing, sculpting, acting, writing, or any other means, they usually start out one-on-one; then as their confidence in their ability grows, they discover the satisfaction of reaching out and expressing themselves to groups of people – family, friends, or the public at large.
THE ESSENCE OF EXPRESSION AND SENSITIVITY
Throughout history, people have used expression for both positive and negative ends – to uplift, instruct, and inspire as well as to belittle, demoralize, or even destroy. Expression takes many forms, from verbal language to body language, ranging from a look or a sigh to a full-blown sermon. Humans also express themselves through the languages of art and architecture, of music and mime, to name a few examples.
Although expression takes many forms, the most common one involves talking with other people. The energy of 3 is highly interactive and social. When 3s wish to express themselves, they need someone willing to listen. When they have listeners, they need sensitivity in order to tune into their audience and tailor their communication to the needs and interests of others while expressing their authentic feelings and needs.
In human society, we normally think of communication as a means of transferring information. This may be so, but expression has a different tone from communication; it involves not only sharing one’s own emotional reality but encouraging others to do the same. For anyone, but especially for 3s, the fulfillment of expression comes through the emotions. Therefore, emotional self-expression – sharing their authentic feelings honestly and directly and encouraging others to do the same – is central to the life purpose of 3s. Expressing feelings offers its own reward and releases emotional energy that might otherwise become frustrated.
Whether expressing for the sake of self, others or both, sensitivity and expression go hand in hand, people working 3 need to acknowledge and honor their own feelings and inspire others to do the same.
CHALLENGES ON THE PATH
Those 3s who haven’t yet “hit stride” may find the idea of public speaking or of expression their sensitive emotions, distinctly uncomfortable or even frightening. The nature of our life purpose involves overcoming obstacles; because of this 3s inevitably encounter difficulties expressing themselves. These difficulties range from speech impediments to chronic shyness, from struggling with English as a second language to speaking eloquently but without an emotional component, which remains repressed. Many 3s seem very quiet, as if gathering courage to speak, but when they finally start talking, those around them had better be good listeners!
Just as 1s create no matter what – whether in the positive or in the negative – 3s express in positive or negative ways; either way, their drive to express manifests. The Law of Choices applies strongly to 3s, because they always have a choice of expressing in positive, constructive ways or destructive ways.
Positive expression often includes verbal enthusiasm and constructive, creative, inspiring speech or some other form of communication. Because such expression is their life purpose, 3s have a strong drive to express in quality or else in quantity (the “motor-mouth” pattern).
A psychological liability of 3s is a tendency to see as well as express the negative side of things. Negative forms of expression include whining, complaining, badmouthing, and criticizing. Such negative expression most often arises in childhood and adolescence for 3s, to be seen and worked through. They need to ask themselves. “What positive side does this situation have?”
Because our life purpose isn’t what comes easiest, 3s may not express at all; they may clam up, feeling reluctant or afraid to speak, or they may have difficulty being understood. Often they have concerns about, and sometimes problems with, “getting the words right” or “finding the words” to express what they mean or feel.
Once 3s get rolling, however, they have much to say and an abundance of energy to say it. Just as 1s have creative energy that can build up as pressure that must be released, 3s have a similar emotional pressure to express not just what they are thinking, but what they are feeling.
With 3s’ expressive drive comes a profound emotional sensitivity. Most 3s feed on emotions, and they can feed others as well. Just as 1s have a large physical energy field, 3s have a large emotional field – an extended emotional nervous system of energetic “feelers” reaching out into their environment, leaving them wide open and extremely vulnerable to others’ emotions (whether or not they show it). When someone near 3s feels upset or exalted, 3s can feel this state as if it were coming from inside them. Similarly, when 3s are upset or inspired, anyone at all sensitive who happens to be nearby can feel their emotional power.
Virtually all 3s, due to their sensitivity, tend to become emotional sponges to others’ upsets or negativity. As a form of self-protection, many 3s present a controlled, logical persona, or mask. But their inner life reveals a deep well of emotions. No matter what their chosen career, when the expressive drive of 3s emerges, they have a passion for helping awaken others’ feelings.
Most 3s are hypersensitive to criticism, always ready to be misunderstood; all but the most gentle critiques leave most 3s feeling as if they’ve been hit with a blunt instrument or stabbed in the heart.
Learning to view criticism as a form of caring helps 3s move past hypersensitivity into a deeper understanding: Criticism always entails a degree of emotional risk on the part of the critic because the person criticized may become hurt or angry, or may criticize back. Whether or not our critics deliver their criticism in a gentle fashion, they show they care because if they didn’t care at all, they wouldn’t even bother. The recognition of this caring can help 3s tolerate criticism and see the grains of love within any form of feedback.
Because of the large and sensitive energy field of 3s, they commonly confront hidden or overwhelming self-doubt as another primary issue in their life. Whereas the insecurity of 1s relates to a fear of inferiority or inequality, 3s’ self-doubt deals more with not feeling up to a task. Just as 1s make the best addicts and 2s the best codependents, 3s make the best manic-depressives; due to their sensitivity, they can fall into slumps and experience acute self-doubt, or they may become too manic, lack a way to express that energy, and then swing into a depression and feel sorry for themselves. Teaching, writing (as in a journal), and physical exercise all allow 3s means for expressing their powerful emotions.
Often, 3s flip-flop between confidence (“I can do anything!”) and a sense of feeling overwhelmed (“How did I ever think I could handle this?”). Confident one day, they may take an emotional nosedive the next. Self-doubt – feeling unqualified, unprepared, or generally unable – manifests in a variety of forms. For example, some 3s become perennial students, eternally preparing, picking up advanced degrees, and changing course, but never venturing into the marketplace – never fully committing themselves for fear of failure. If 3s have problems in any area of life, they can look first to self-doubt and apply the exercise for overcoming insecurity outlined under the Law of Action.
Issues of expression combined with acute sensitivity result in an inherent tendency for 3s to misrepresent their feelings and their needs to others and even to themselves; manipulation forms a major hurdle for 3s – either manipulating others or getting manipulated. Unless they’ve done specific work clearing this tendency, 3s have trouble saying directly what they want or need; they hint or connive instead. They may fall into depressive beliefs: “If they really cared, they’d know how I feel.” They may manipulate others emotionally with a look or a sigh, and then wait for someone to make them feel better or give them what they need. They also sometimes get manipulated due to their emotional ties to others.
The Law of Honesty applies strongly to 3s and can help in clarifying and revealing the importance of direct and honest communication. As 3s come to recognize that not everyone is as sensitive as they are, they learn to appreciate the necessity of clearly expressing who they are, how they feel, and what they need. The Law of Honesty can help 3s turn their relationships and lives around in dramatic ways.
In the positive, 3s finds enjoyment and satisfaction in acting, teaching and managing people, and they also abound in social service energy. If a cause or calling brings out their positive, nurturing feelings, they do well to follow it. Their sensitivity enables 3s to tune into others’ feelings when they’re paying attention, and to engage in fine teaching and counseling work. In the highest sense, their acute intuition can open them to clairsentience (clear feelings to the point of “extrasensory perceptions”).
A GUIDE TO FIND ANSWERS
Written specially for
Y O U
****************************
0 + 4 + 1 + 0 + 1 + 9 + 9 + 6 = 30 = 3 + 0 = 30 / 3
30 / 3
3: Expression and Sensitivity
0: Inner Gifts
30: Expression and Sensitivity with Inner Gifts
****************************
3 - EXPRESSION and SENSITIVITY
The life purpose of 3s entails bringing constructive emotional expression into the world, as they share their feelings and ideas in the most direct, positive, and honest manner possible. They need to find ways to apply their sensitivity and expressive abilities to uplift rather than tear down.
Imagine a rosebud with its petals closed over a glowing heart,
filled with passionate feelings, but not yet showing itself in its full beauty,
not until the blossom opens. It remains closed by doubt.
How does self-doubt affect your life?
Do you express your feelings openly, or do you hide, like the heart in the rosebud?
All great discoveries are made by those whose feelings run ahead of their thinking.
[C.H. Parkhurst]
LIFE PURPOSE
Individuals working 3 as their life purpose are here to utilize their emotional sensitivity to bring positive, heartfelt self-expression into the world. Because our life purpose entails challenges, 3s must first confront issues of blocked or distorted expression, as well as emotional oversensitivity and associated self-doubt.
People with 3 as their primary life purpose come into this world with powerful expressive drives. Since our life purpose isn’t what comes easiest, 3s also face distinct issues associated with their sensitive emotional nature, such as self-doubt, fear of expression, and a tendency to manipulate rather than state their feelings directly.
The expressive energy of 3s has a strong social component; 3s reach out to other people and depend on other people. Whether 3s express by speaking, painting, singing, sculpting, acting, writing, or any other means, they usually start out one-on-one; then as their confidence in their ability grows, they discover the satisfaction of reaching out and expressing themselves to groups of people – family, friends, or the public at large.
THE ESSENCE OF EXPRESSION AND SENSITIVITY
Throughout history, people have used expression for both positive and negative ends – to uplift, instruct, and inspire as well as to belittle, demoralize, or even destroy. Expression takes many forms, from verbal language to body language, ranging from a look or a sigh to a full-blown sermon. Humans also express themselves through the languages of art and architecture, of music and mime, to name a few examples.
Although expression takes many forms, the most common one involves talking with other people. The energy of 3 is highly interactive and social. When 3s wish to express themselves, they need someone willing to listen. When they have listeners, they need sensitivity in order to tune into their audience and tailor their communication to the needs and interests of others while expressing their authentic feelings and needs.
In human society, we normally think of communication as a means of transferring information. This may be so, but expression has a different tone from communication; it involves not only sharing one’s own emotional reality but encouraging others to do the same. For anyone, but especially for 3s, the fulfillment of expression comes through the emotions. Therefore, emotional self-expression – sharing their authentic feelings honestly and directly and encouraging others to do the same – is central to the life purpose of 3s. Expressing feelings offers its own reward and releases emotional energy that might otherwise become frustrated.
Whether expressing for the sake of self, others or both, sensitivity and expression go hand in hand, people working 3 need to acknowledge and honor their own feelings and inspire others to do the same.
CHALLENGES ON THE PATH
Those 3s who haven’t yet “hit stride” may find the idea of public speaking or of expression their sensitive emotions, distinctly uncomfortable or even frightening. The nature of our life purpose involves overcoming obstacles; because of this 3s inevitably encounter difficulties expressing themselves. These difficulties range from speech impediments to chronic shyness, from struggling with English as a second language to speaking eloquently but without an emotional component, which remains repressed. Many 3s seem very quiet, as if gathering courage to speak, but when they finally start talking, those around them had better be good listeners!
Just as 1s create no matter what – whether in the positive or in the negative – 3s express in positive or negative ways; either way, their drive to express manifests. The Law of Choices applies strongly to 3s, because they always have a choice of expressing in positive, constructive ways or destructive ways.
Positive expression often includes verbal enthusiasm and constructive, creative, inspiring speech or some other form of communication. Because such expression is their life purpose, 3s have a strong drive to express in quality or else in quantity (the “motor-mouth” pattern).
A psychological liability of 3s is a tendency to see as well as express the negative side of things. Negative forms of expression include whining, complaining, badmouthing, and criticizing. Such negative expression most often arises in childhood and adolescence for 3s, to be seen and worked through. They need to ask themselves. “What positive side does this situation have?”
Because our life purpose isn’t what comes easiest, 3s may not express at all; they may clam up, feeling reluctant or afraid to speak, or they may have difficulty being understood. Often they have concerns about, and sometimes problems with, “getting the words right” or “finding the words” to express what they mean or feel.
Once 3s get rolling, however, they have much to say and an abundance of energy to say it. Just as 1s have creative energy that can build up as pressure that must be released, 3s have a similar emotional pressure to express not just what they are thinking, but what they are feeling.
With 3s’ expressive drive comes a profound emotional sensitivity. Most 3s feed on emotions, and they can feed others as well. Just as 1s have a large physical energy field, 3s have a large emotional field – an extended emotional nervous system of energetic “feelers” reaching out into their environment, leaving them wide open and extremely vulnerable to others’ emotions (whether or not they show it). When someone near 3s feels upset or exalted, 3s can feel this state as if it were coming from inside them. Similarly, when 3s are upset or inspired, anyone at all sensitive who happens to be nearby can feel their emotional power.
Virtually all 3s, due to their sensitivity, tend to become emotional sponges to others’ upsets or negativity. As a form of self-protection, many 3s present a controlled, logical persona, or mask. But their inner life reveals a deep well of emotions. No matter what their chosen career, when the expressive drive of 3s emerges, they have a passion for helping awaken others’ feelings.
Most 3s are hypersensitive to criticism, always ready to be misunderstood; all but the most gentle critiques leave most 3s feeling as if they’ve been hit with a blunt instrument or stabbed in the heart.
Learning to view criticism as a form of caring helps 3s move past hypersensitivity into a deeper understanding: Criticism always entails a degree of emotional risk on the part of the critic because the person criticized may become hurt or angry, or may criticize back. Whether or not our critics deliver their criticism in a gentle fashion, they show they care because if they didn’t care at all, they wouldn’t even bother. The recognition of this caring can help 3s tolerate criticism and see the grains of love within any form of feedback.
Because of the large and sensitive energy field of 3s, they commonly confront hidden or overwhelming self-doubt as another primary issue in their life. Whereas the insecurity of 1s relates to a fear of inferiority or inequality, 3s’ self-doubt deals more with not feeling up to a task. Just as 1s make the best addicts and 2s the best codependents, 3s make the best manic-depressives; due to their sensitivity, they can fall into slumps and experience acute self-doubt, or they may become too manic, lack a way to express that energy, and then swing into a depression and feel sorry for themselves. Teaching, writing (as in a journal), and physical exercise all allow 3s means for expressing their powerful emotions.
Often, 3s flip-flop between confidence (“I can do anything!”) and a sense of feeling overwhelmed (“How did I ever think I could handle this?”). Confident one day, they may take an emotional nosedive the next. Self-doubt – feeling unqualified, unprepared, or generally unable – manifests in a variety of forms. For example, some 3s become perennial students, eternally preparing, picking up advanced degrees, and changing course, but never venturing into the marketplace – never fully committing themselves for fear of failure. If 3s have problems in any area of life, they can look first to self-doubt and apply the exercise for overcoming insecurity outlined under the Law of Action.
Issues of expression combined with acute sensitivity result in an inherent tendency for 3s to misrepresent their feelings and their needs to others and even to themselves; manipulation forms a major hurdle for 3s – either manipulating others or getting manipulated. Unless they’ve done specific work clearing this tendency, 3s have trouble saying directly what they want or need; they hint or connive instead. They may fall into depressive beliefs: “If they really cared, they’d know how I feel.” They may manipulate others emotionally with a look or a sigh, and then wait for someone to make them feel better or give them what they need. They also sometimes get manipulated due to their emotional ties to others.
The Law of Honesty applies strongly to 3s and can help in clarifying and revealing the importance of direct and honest communication. As 3s come to recognize that not everyone is as sensitive as they are, they learn to appreciate the necessity of clearly expressing who they are, how they feel, and what they need. The Law of Honesty can help 3s turn their relationships and lives around in dramatic ways.
In the positive, 3s finds enjoyment and satisfaction in acting, teaching and managing people, and they also abound in social service energy. If a cause or calling brings out their positive, nurturing feelings, they do well to follow it. Their sensitivity enables 3s to tune into others’ feelings when they’re paying attention, and to engage in fine teaching and counseling work. In the highest sense, their acute intuition can open them to clairsentience (clear feelings to the point of “extrasensory perceptions”).
My heart is here,
your heart is there,
but really
our hearts are lingering
together somewhere
where everything is beautiful.
They are just waiting
for our bodies to take hold
of them once again.
Because our bodies are too busy
trying to make everyone else
happy,
our hearts want to be saved
and cherished
for the important
part of this life
that is patiently awaiting
with open arms.
Our happiness resides
in the depths of
one another’s souls.
There, we know that
everything is what it seems.
Everything that you say
is true because
it's inevitable that
I love you.
your heart is there,
but really
our hearts are lingering
together somewhere
where everything is beautiful.
They are just waiting
for our bodies to take hold
of them once again.
Because our bodies are too busy
trying to make everyone else
happy,
our hearts want to be saved
and cherished
for the important
part of this life
that is patiently awaiting
with open arms.
Our happiness resides
in the depths of
one another’s souls.
There, we know that
everything is what it seems.
Everything that you say
is true because
it's inevitable that
I love you.
What is the point of living
If there is nothing to live for?
When the bones of the body
Is breaking
Letting them live
Just adds more pain.
When the blood of the lamb
Has been spilled
Only the love of the lion remains.
Everything that once seemed
To be true
Has been lost in the sea
Because of you.
My faults are my own
But you abide by them
As well
Why can’t I just have one thing
To myself?
All I see are shadows
Of those who I don’t know.
All I hear is yelling
From those whom
I used to love the most.
All I know is that
I can’t have you
But I want you so damn bad.
Everything I used to know
Now is not true.
Everything that seemed so-so
Is nothing but rocks at the
Bottom of the sea.
All I feel is death
Coming over me.
The world is falling apart
So why wait till it crumbles
On me?
Why not go to a place
Where the noise is just mumbles
Because no one has a mouth
To speak?
We all walk around like zombies
Running into each other
Boom boom boom.
If there is nothing to live for?
When the bones of the body
Is breaking
Letting them live
Just adds more pain.
When the blood of the lamb
Has been spilled
Only the love of the lion remains.
Everything that once seemed
To be true
Has been lost in the sea
Because of you.
My faults are my own
But you abide by them
As well
Why can’t I just have one thing
To myself?
All I see are shadows
Of those who I don’t know.
All I hear is yelling
From those whom
I used to love the most.
All I know is that
I can’t have you
But I want you so damn bad.
Everything I used to know
Now is not true.
Everything that seemed so-so
Is nothing but rocks at the
Bottom of the sea.
All I feel is death
Coming over me.
The world is falling apart
So why wait till it crumbles
On me?
Why not go to a place
Where the noise is just mumbles
Because no one has a mouth
To speak?
We all walk around like zombies
Running into each other
Boom boom boom.
