Do you think 12 and under children should have a boyfriend/ girlfriend

Pfft, no. But that certainly isn't going to stop them.


When I was in elementary school, people started "dating" and being "boyfriend and girlfriend" as early as the second grade, if not earlier. Everyone in my grade was all one class, so by the time I was in the 5th grade, everyone had "dated" everyone at least twice. (Myself and a handful of other people excluded. I was the outcast of my class.)


As far as I could see, it was a bunch of dumb idiots trying to play house with some weird, drama, inbreeding type crap going on. Nobody had any idea what they were doing, though they sure as hell acted like they did.

Dating at that age is silly in most situations. There are very few people of that age that I know of that could really, truly comprehend something like that.

Sure, I don't see what's wrong with that. As long as they won't do certain stuff that older couples do.

EDIT: lol, l love how everyone here is talking about about a grown-up relationship. As if two 9 year-olds ever would have one. They won't, period. Children of that age just aren't mature enough to comprehend what it means to love each other. It's useless to even discuss that, it's sort of a fact.

But I had lots girlfriends back in kindergarten. We didn't love each other or make out, or whichever mature stuff the peeps who wrote above me all think about. We drew together, we played with LEGOs, that sort of thing.

I love how you guys instantly have an opinion ready without thinking it through entirely. Children would throw their lives away by getting a boyfriend or girlfriend? That's like saying children would devote their lives to other children... As if that would happen. Not cool.

bleh what the fuck do those kids need a boyfriend/girlfriend for? jeez just enjoy being a kid! so no, i dont think kids 12 and under need a "love life". they just make themselves look like future dead beats and hoes.

as long as they're hopefully not having sex....

I guess crushing on someone in the age of 12 is fine but dating?

what...Hell no

Yea... My friend is very mature and has gotten very serious with her boyfriend. They have been dating since summer and shes turning 13 this Christmas. And love is not about age, its about maturity as the bible says. If they feel they are ready to date and parents are okay with it, its fine.

No of course not!

Why do you need one at that age? Be a freaking kid while you still are a kid!

Heck no.

I find it rather sad and disgusting that preteens and younger are dating and even engaging in sexual acts.

99% of them aren't mature enough for a relationship, and don't understand them

But sadly, they don't give a shiz , and keep on doing it, and then they get pregnant.

My best friend wouldn't mind losing her virginity at 14, which is crazy in so many ways.

It's sadden me greatly. Kids shouldn't feel the sexual pressure to date.

No.
Children are too young to understand the facts of love/relationships.
It's honestly gross how some kids (13 or under) are sexually active. I mean..It's a pretty big regret for a orgasm that'll last 3 seconds.

No, in my opinion I don't think boys/girls would even know the meaning of having a boyfriend/girlfriend. Kids should wait until they are old enough.

No! Just..hell no!

Kids should never be involved in such adult things. Period. Relationships and sexual crap are for adults only...that's what adults do. Kids? They play video games, school, have friends, and other kid things. Not relationships.....

Anyone who dares tell a child about "adult things" and let em go out and do those things should be punished somehow. Jail maybe...LET KIDS BE KIDS! Don't ruin their lives...

Ah hell nah! They dont even know the meaning of love! Thay aint mature enough either! Im sorry to say that but its true... my parents wont let us date till we're 15... I think we should be able to date when we're at LEAST 13 if not 14. Its really gross to think 1st graders can date... and maybe kiss *shivers* I cant even stand seeing 7th graders in the hall kissing eachother! Imagine seeing 1st graders doing that! *twitches eye* its disgusting e.o

yes.

like what a person i know would say "hell to the no!!!!"

What is a boyfriend/girlfriend to them? I mean like they probably wouldn't do anything... but just in case no...
































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i would say no ,
but honestly they can do anything they want to do in their love life its their choice not anyone elses
my first bf was when i was in year 3 but it did not really work out coz we were too young!!!!!
i say no

No. This goes without saying.

Probably not. Its alright if they're just holding hands in the playground but anything is is ridiculous

Who cares if they date each other or not. It's not like they're being in a serious relationship, it's hardly even serious in middle school when you're 14. And for the record, people in other countries, and also in the USA in the past have gotten married, not just "dating" at around 12 or at a younger age.

Let's state the most obivous answer : if they are not in high school or college, than they should not have a relationship. A little kid's heart is easier to break than a 14 year old's. If they are holding hands, that is fine. I know somebody that goes to one boyfriend to another, doing it to each one. She being doing it since the 6th grade.

no

at my old school ppl started to get together by the age of 8. it wasn't serious at all. but i still don't get y kids went around the school & did this.

girl: can we get together?
guy: sure

THE END

after that, they didn't speak, they didn't hang out any more than they did before. then after a while one of them would break up.

i can't see any danger in this... but... WHY!? if you're not talking then...
i just don't get it.

i wouldn't get this so i never asked anyone, but almost everyone else did.

when we were about 12 ppl started to get a "real" bf/gf. but the only thing the guys wanted was a girl with expensive clothes & a lot of make-up.
i don't think they ever did something they shouldn't have but they still didn't understand what it meant to have someone like that.

i'm 16 now & i've never had a bf. i'm doing fine without one & i don't feel like i need one anytime soon either.
i don't want a fake realtionship. i want a real one with a guy i really like.

i just haven't met him yet.

I'm 14 and my boyfriend (he's 15) and I have been dating since I was 12 and we in NO WAY think of doing what older couples do.

There for I state my point in saying that 12 and over can date,but under 12s should just keep daydreaming.

Wait 'til you're at least 13. By then, you're an adult and you can do whatever the hell you want.

no they should not
but in 5th grade they started dating ._.
so yea

wll no not realy maybe if thaer 15 or 16 then ok but im 15 i i want a boyfriend

no
it sounds dumb.
why would you break your heart at the age of 12 or something?

uh, no.

As long as both are around the same age and one of them isn't a 40 year old I don't really care

No they should be concerned about having fun and being around friends. I wasn't concerned about dating during that age range,but I know other kids at my school were.

i had my first one at 10 but u guys make me feel horrible :(

Well when i was 4 i had a crush... and after that every year it was a different guy until about 4th/5th grade... so ya kids 12 and under SHOULD NOT date or even have crushes... =.=

NO!!!! NO NO and NO!!!! only platonic friends.

No! They're too young to get involved in a relationship. It's okay to be just friends but not boyfriend/girlfriend love type of way. I have a niece who has a boyfriend and she's 15 1/2 and he's about 16. Her first boyfriend was two years ago but they weren't in love or anything, just puppylove. in my opinion, kids 12 and under are just too young to fall in love with a crush or a close friend. 15 or older is okay to have a first kiss. 18 and older it's okay to go to bed with someone they like as long they have protection. I feel 20 years and older is the best age to have sex.

No

I personally think no, but love is unlocked through the maturity of the mind, not the age of the body.

well let's just say that it's okay to have a ''childlish love relationship'' , by that I mean that they kiss eachother , hold hands and play or just have a crush on eachother , just not having sex and shit like that at that age O.o you'll never know at which age you'll fall in love , so yeah this question doesn't really have an anwser.

Hell no! That's totally unacceptable in my opinion. It's not cute to me, just plain weird.

Well it's actually up to the parents if they think their child or kids are ready for a relationship, then they are but they aren't then they'll have have to wait until they're older to date.
But if your parents don't even care, then wow u either are spoiled to do or have whatever u want.
Or your parents just dont give a damn about u or what u do.

No, but as Bond pointed out, children under the age of 12 will consider themselves bf/gf if they sit together at lunch everyday, or play together at recess. Usually the more "adult" aspects don't enter into the picture.

I have a 10 year old son who has plenty of girl friends; they like the same stuff(Legos, Star Wars), and there is nothing sexual going on. He is just not interested yet. He has asked me questions about sex, and if I've given too much info, he lets me know.

Which leads me to another point: adults will sometimes, perhaps inadvertently, make kids feel pressured into relationships. How many times will a boy and a girl play together, doing something neutral, an adult will then comment about the "relationship?" It happens so often, at least from my observations, that it's a wonder that boys and girls ever play together.

One last thought: the kids I've known who have been preciously sexually active have all been sexually abused.

A lot of you are being dirty minded.

Relationship =/= Sex.

In a child's mind, as many MANY other people have said, dating is probably meeting up every day and talking. They won't comprehend the ideas of sex, at all. Of course, the media talks of those few cases where they do more than when they don't, which gives the impression that everyone knows about sex at a hideously young age.

So, in my mind, as long as it's not an "adult" relationship, it's absolutely fine. ^^

Most of you say no and are actually concerned about sex and stuff?
But in general, kids under 12 wouldn't think about having that soon, I mean especially in the type of society we live in today, I think they would know better. And if they do have boyfriends and girlfriends, it's not like any sexual stuff. I find that to be very cute considering most of my friends did that back in elementary school. But yeah, there's nothing wrong with it at all and they should be able to have them.

They can have a boy that's a friend and/or a girl that's a friend... but I don't think 12 and under should have any boyfriends/girlfriends... that's sickening..