This article is to every SE fan who says that Damon “stole” Elena from Stefan, this article will prove you wrong so prepare to face reality forthe first time TVD wise.
“I thought I can WIN her from you FAIR and SQUARE, she didn’t want me, it’s for the best, I’m better off being the bad guy anyway”-Damon 3X15 about Elena. Like Damon said to Stefan he thought he can WIN not STEAL Elena from him, he though without playing games on Elena, to try to get her to like/love him more without acting/pretending like a “goody good boy” (like Stefan did) that he can WIN her over by just being himself, hence the fact he hide from her that he was tracking Stefan’s movement all summer, he put the façade that he always put to everyone that he “didn’t care” or try his best to track his brother, instead of giving her falls hope or let her be disappointed or instead of showing her the real Stefan and shattering that perfect image Stefan has been pretending to be for the past year and half, instead of taking advantage of showing her how hypocrite Stefan is. He let her maintain that image of perfect “saint” Stefan, unlike Stefan who talked/bashed about Damon’s bad past every chance he got/gets, not once did Stefan say one good thing about Damon but Damon always talks so well of Stefan.
As I have said Damon puts on that façade that he doesn’t care or feel guilty, that façade have fooled everyone including Stefan, but not Elena or Alaric they know better, they can see the real Damon past that exterior he created that people believe it to be true and hate it (which is the point in the first place) he wants/needs to keep a distance between himself and the people in his life. He does it to keep everyone safe not that he likes/care about them that much but he feels like it his responsibility to keep the town safe (he even blamed himself for Jenna’s death, even though he had nothing to do with it).
Anyway back to the point he thought he can WIN Elena over by just being his real self like he always been that what he meant by FAIR and SQUARE, all he ever wants is for Elena to be happy and safe even if this means him being alone and miserable for eternity. Prove of that is 2x08 when he let go of Elena, so she could be happy and ass you saw the episodes after that after that he backed off he stopped with the flirting comments or even trying to mend things with her because of what he did to Jeremy, he destine himself from her, even after rose died he acted like he didn’t care, like her death didn’t affect him, but she still tried her best to be there for him, and he couldn’t just destine himself anymore so he used Andie as his distraction he figured if he has his hand full with Andie as his “girlfriend” it would be much easier for him to keep protecting Elena and restating his feelings for her at the same time, which meant he still was/is in love with her but he let her to love Stefan freely not get confused/conflicted between the two of them, but as things got more completed (finding out that she has to be sacrificed for the curse) it got harder and harder for him to stay way and do nothing when he knows that he can save her, what made him get to his breaking point/snap and feed her his blood is that he saw his brother the guy who loved her and she loved him back do nothing and respect her decisions to sacrifice herself (and trust Elijah’s elixir), that was like the last straw he couldn’t keep his feelings inside anymore so he snapped and feed her his blood believing it was the only way he can make sure she doesn’t die.
Which was right choice if you ask me he knew for sure 100% without any doubt or risk that the vampire blood would bring her alive. Yes as a vampire but alive non-the less. He, Stefan, and Caroline…… a living proof that vampire blood works, but the elixir was a big risk no one he knew have ever heard about an elixir that brings you back to life, he did know anyone who actually tried it and actually came back to life so he did what he felt was like the only option he had, even if it meant Elena hating him forever/fraternity. The same with Bonnie’s “death” he didn’t care if she hated him as long as she was safe and happy (yes she would have lost bonnie but she would have moved on), which brings us back to “she didn’t want me”
Damon at that point believed that Elena has seen him for who really is and still didn’t want to be with because of she said in 3x14, he believes at the moment Elena doesn’t have romantic feelings for the real him, so he chooses to put façade thing with her acting like doesn’t care that what he meant by “I’m better at being the bad guy anyway” he truly believes that Elena doesn’t love the real him so why bother showing her that real side of him if it’s not going to get what he wanted and still wants for long time, especially if he only going to get hurt and heartbroken all over again.
To conclude Damon had a lot of chances to steal Elena from Stefan but he wanted/s to WIN her from him and here is just number of chances Damon could have stolen Elena from Stefan if he truly wanted that:
1.Before Elena found out that Stefan was a vampire, Damon could have easily told her and scared her away.
2.He could have told her that she’s Katherine’s look alike and it’s the real reason he went after her in the first place (which is true, Stefan said it himself to lexie that she attracted in the first place because she looked like Katherine then he fell for her)
3.He could have easily compelled her in Atlanta
4.He could have not compelled her to forget about his love confession in 2x08
5.He could have used his grief for losing rose to get closer to her
6.He could have not let her believe that bonnie “died”
7.He could have had her forgiveness earlier in 2x22 by telling her that he was dying but he didn’t, he didn’t want her forgiveness only because he was dying he wanted her to take time as long as she need to forgive him (that is WINNING her friendship back as long as it take)
8.For two whole months, she didn’t have her vervain necklace with her, he had plenty of chances to steal her from Stefan
9.He could have not told her that he saw Stefan in the woods 3x02, he could have lied and told her there’s and told her there’s no hope of getting him back
10.He could have told her about Stefan playing bloody twister with 3 girls 3x06.
11.He could have told her that Stefan killed two girls and just left them at the bottom of the stairs in 3x06, instead he told her that he’s acting like old Stefan (journaling , doing his hair).
12.He could have let Stefan locked up in the prison or wherever he was locked up in, and took advantage of getting closer to Elena
13.He could have not told her about Stefan saving his life in 3x10, he could have easily let her believe that Stefan was gone for good
14.He could have told her that Stefan stole the coffins and was hiding it from Klaus
15.He could have let Klaus kill Stefan in 3x13 like Stefan said to Damon, after Damon saved him “you could have left me there, Klaus would have killed me. And you would have Elena all to yourself” not that Damon would ever do that in a million years, but Stefan though about it, which means: A) it was an opportunity, yes Damon didn’t think about doing it but non-the less it was an opportunity for him to steal Elena, B) Stefan would have done it
16.He could have let Stefan turned Abby like he was suppose too in 3x15, and if he did Elena would have lost hope on Stefan and would have treated better in the episodes afterwards
17.Afterwards in 3x16, Damon was pushing Elena away by acting like he doesn’t feel guilty about what he did to Abby.
So as you see Damon had more than one chance to steal Elena from Stefan, but he did NOT steal her from Stefan, he won her fair and square