"I've found that a substantial fraction of many people's days is spent worrying about what others think of them. If nobody ever worried about what was in other people's heads, we'd all be 33 percent more effective in our lives and on our jobs.
How did I come up with 33 percent? I'm a scientist. I like exact numbers, even if I can't always prove them. So let's just run with 33 percent.
I used to tell antone who worked in my research group: "You don't ever have to worry about what I'm thinking. Good or bad, I'll let you know what's in my head."
That meant when I wasn't happy about something, I spoke up, often directly and not always tactfully. But on the positive side, I was able to reassure people: "If I haven't said anything, you have nothing to worry about."
Students and colleagues came to appreciate that, and they didn't waste a lot of time obsessing over. "What is Randy thinking?" Because mostly, what I was thinking was this: I have people on my team who are 33 percent more effective than everyone else. That's what was in my head.
How did I come up with 33 percent? I'm a scientist. I like exact numbers, even if I can't always prove them. So let's just run with 33 percent.
I used to tell antone who worked in my research group: "You don't ever have to worry about what I'm thinking. Good or bad, I'll let you know what's in my head."
That meant when I wasn't happy about something, I spoke up, often directly and not always tactfully. But on the positive side, I was able to reassure people: "If I haven't said anything, you have nothing to worry about."
Students and colleagues came to appreciate that, and they didn't waste a lot of time obsessing over. "What is Randy thinking?" Because mostly, what I was thinking was this: I have people on my team who are 33 percent more effective than everyone else. That's what was in my head.
Many people feel that Love hurts...that it's only gonna bring pain and sadness. But to tell you the truth...love won't do that. Love is when everything is perfect and no matter how bad your day is you still find a reason to smile because you feel like you have the most amazing person in your life. Yeah you may be going through some problems in this relationship but let me tell you something...Love conquers all. No matter how bad the situation is you can get through it together. Don't let a silly little argument or what anyone says about your relationship go in front of your judgement on your own relationship. And I'm going to give advice to those people who lost someone and sees that person with someone else...Listen if you truly loved them you would let them be happy with whoever. Don't interfere. You will be happy and so will they. And plus it will give you peace at mind. Dream Big. Love Forever. Live like today is your last day
my problem is that my parents don't understand me well , and I don't see my bigger sister {business}
i have a little sister , but i can't relate to her , and i have an older brother who helps me a lot but not enough.
i'm always depressed and i just listen to music all the time , actually music helps me a lot to express my anger , sadness , happiness .
i really Love Avril Lavigne because she is the only person who helped me in hard time , her music is so inspiring And meaningful .
and then , i have you fanpop users , you are my only family , my only friends , and my only hope.
so , please tell me what can i do to get rid of the negativity .
Thanks for your time,
Tamara
