what annoys you most about the stelena relationship??

Mostly, it's the fact that they are just so miserable together. I mean, look at their faces when they are with each other...they look sad and tortured and worst of all, just plain old bored. There's no spark or liveliness between them. They rarely make each other laugh, they never let loose and just have fun together or challenge each other in any way. Elena has to bend over backwards just to get him to dance with her or snap out of his perpetual broody state and he has to continually throw pity parties in order to keep her attention. The thought of spending an entire lifetime in a relationship like that is exhausting.

Don't get me wrong, I adore both characters and I think they have great personalities separately, but when they get together, it's like they bring every single dull aspect of the other to the forefront and they just seem to suck the life out of each other. I think they're great as friends, but romantically? I just don't see it.

The fact that they dont challenge each other at all. And the fact that they are predictable and dull and they arent right for each other.

The lack of passion. Honestly, they are so boring together.

They're not interesting as a romantic couple. Maybe real life couples don't have to have so much passion but this is a tv show and they should be more interesting and Julie probably knows it but she's not even trying to make them more interesting. She doesn't even try to hide the fact that she's their fan. And I don't have to watch any video with her and I still know it.

what annoys me about the stelena relationship is that its STELENA... it should be Delena XD hahaah tbh alot annoys me about their relationship which i can't even put into words that can explain right, but they have no passion, fire, spark, nothing.. this love doesn't consume her!!! shes in love with the idea of this love... its just ANNOYING Period!

I don't hate Stelena. I just think they are not right for each other.

First of all, true love doesn't happen the way they happened. First episode - I noticed you, I like you. Episode 2 - we kiss, we are dating, we are in love, all puppies & unicorns. Episode 6 - oh, you're a vampire. Ok, that's fine, I still love you. No, the world doesn't work this way. Just...no. I don't believe in love so rushed. I don't believe they really fell in love - it might have been attraction, then all that danger & supernatural stuff brought them closer, but I can nowwhere see the big epic love everyone's talking about.

They don't have fun. I can't stand it. Ok, they got like 5 funny scenes, but the rest was all about depression, missing, holding on to love, fighting against vampire's nature blah blah blah stuff. Come on! Isn't fun one of the biggest parts of love? Private jokes, laugh, flirty kisses, enjoying life...? Without all that there's no relationship. Period.

Stefan doesn't care for Elena. I mean... he doesn't care enogh to risk huring her for her own sake. He's 150 years old. She's 18. He's supposed to guide her, to help her make decisions, to show her right direction. Instead, he's all "whatever you want honey is fine be me, as long as you're not pissed at me". She's a kid, it's obvious he'll know more about life & he should try more to not let her make wrong decisions. He doesn't at all. And he even calls it respect for her choices..

Elena doesn't accept Stefan as a vampire. Ok, she gets he has to drink blood, even let him drink hers. She wants him to fight his ripper-nature. But she doesn't get that to avid ripper's come back Stefan has to feed of people. Not bunnies & puppies. Humans. And he has to learn to control his lust to not to kill. Somehow, Elena "loves" bunny-eater Stefan, but isn't able to get over the fact, that he needs human blood to never become ripper again, while bunny-eater can go crazy any time. Without full acceptance there is no love.

All my main problems with SE, basically.

Ok. This is something I've been wanting to get off my chest for a while now. I came in late to the TVD fandom, about a couple months ago, and I'm already obsessed. (OBVIOUSLY) And I will admit that within the first two episodes I was all "Oh how cute are Stefan and Elena?!" and I went to google them. I typed in Elena and .. and before I could type Stefan's name, the first thing that popped up was elena and damon. I was immediately confused, because they could NEVER be a couple right? wrong. So I kept watching, still loving stelena, but also kept an open mind about the possibility of delena. By the end of season 1, I found myself so incredibly dedicated to the delena ship. Just their chemistry, the way they acted and even moved around each other was so compelling (no pun intended) and exciting! Damon had become dear to my heart as probably the most complex character on the show. AND THAT IS WHAT PISSES ME OFF ABOUT STELENA FANS. If a Stelena fan were to comment on a cute scene about Stefan and Elena, I would respect that, and even agree that they are cute together. But every Stelena fan is so angry, so completely closed minded to the idea of Delena that they can't handle it and freak out. Seriously, where's the mutual respect guys?