Patience is a virtue my fellow Delena shippers and I felt the need to write that article, because I see a lot of DErs feel dissapointed after the last episode. Let me start by saying that I also felt that the writers "let me down" and I was really pissed off once the episode finished because I expected some development in their relationship. The thing is, that after I calmed down I realised that I shouldnt ask for something more, now. What I mean is that for me Damon and Elena's love story IS the story of that show. I honestly feel that the whole show is based on the development of this relationship. Those two must over come many, many obstacles in order to be together with the bigger and more important the relationship between Damon and Stefan and the "perfect" relationship between Stefan and Elena. By making SE so "perfect" they make the love between Damon and Elena even more EPIC in my opinion. If Stefan had slept with Katherine, for example, many people will give DE a "free pass" and honestly I dont want that. If Elena chooses Damon, although she is in a "perfect" relationship with the "white prince", that will only mean that the love she is developing for Damon is the only one true love.
By making SE "perfect", the writers are showing us how strong and unique is the DE love story. Because Damon is definitely NOT the obvious choise.
Now, I see a lot of DEers asking for DE to be together already. I really, REALLY dont want that. Most of us think that a "triangle" means "Elena will have a relationship with Stefan. Then Elena will have a relationship with Damon. Then she will be alone for a while, until she will choose between them. But it doesnt HAVE to be like that.
Damon and Elena being in love with each other and struggle with their feelings, fighting to stay away from each other is really what I am looking for. Because true love doesnt come easy. SE is "easy". It is the obvious choice and THAT is what makes DE even MORE special. I am sure we will start to see Elena's POV from now on. She will start to realise that her feelings for Damon are stronger than she wants them to be.
And something more. A lot of people say that the DE scene in 2X11 was "nothing". I dissagree. DE seemed to be back on track. Their scene remind me of their relationship at the end of season 1. So it WAS important for us to see, that they are BACK on track.
Anyway the reason that I wrote this was my friend's (Asena) POV about the SE/DE relationship. Asena is a hard core Delena shipper AND the voice of reason for me...
So just read her and you will see what this was all about...
"You know I was thinking, 1.5 years and it feels SE got no real development, because Stefan is so stagnant. They are not like a living, breathing couple but more like a piece of the setting. Maybe THAT is what KW meant when he was talking about how the show is grounded on SE's relationship or something like that, way back in S1, pilot time... lol. They are part of the "setting" in which DE's story is taking place and serve the function of being the biggest obstacle, the question being "will Elena ever love Damon more than she loves Stefan?" which is why they don't really change or move forward or anything, they are this non-real supposedly ideal couple out there, their status reminded to viewers by lines like "I care about Damon but love Stefan" but the real effort, storywise, goes to DE and their buildup as SE just stands still where they are. Broken up and reunited from time to time to give the false sense of "action" to their fans but nothing ever changing, nothing ever improving, nothing ever moving forward. How CAN it? They were part of the "initial package". They came onto the screen as a "couple", no build-up, no explanation, nothing. Just forced onto people. Even named "epic" on just the 2nd episode. "Words" is all SE has. We are told they fall in love, we are told they are epic, we have Elena saying it will always be Stefan. But we don't really see it play out on screen, we don't know why it is so. The story for that is not really given. I mean "they keep reuniting so they must love eachother for reals" is not an explanation, that alone does not prove a couple is special and are meant to be - it just means they are on repeat, because there is nothing else to do with them, as there is no real substance to them. Because IMO their isn't really special. It is just a given in the setting of the REAL story - DE's love story..."
And I can't help but be reminded of the exchange between Caroline and Elena when Elena was wondering if she should pursue Stefan or not. To encourage Elena, Caroline told her it was simple- "Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy." and they get it on... "That's deep" said Elena, condescendingly. And then she gave in, got out and sought Stefan out, as a means to get back into the teenager life of fun after her parents' deaths have brought her down and out of it completely. And THAT is how the "epic" love of SE really started. That is how they became a couple. Simple. Lacking depth. As it was never meant to be deep or complicated and was just a "girl meets boy" cliche arrangement. For it was never the real story, it didn't need to be told more than that.
By making SE "perfect", the writers are showing us how strong and unique is the DE love story. Because Damon is definitely NOT the obvious choise.
Now, I see a lot of DEers asking for DE to be together already. I really, REALLY dont want that. Most of us think that a "triangle" means "Elena will have a relationship with Stefan. Then Elena will have a relationship with Damon. Then she will be alone for a while, until she will choose between them. But it doesnt HAVE to be like that.
Damon and Elena being in love with each other and struggle with their feelings, fighting to stay away from each other is really what I am looking for. Because true love doesnt come easy. SE is "easy". It is the obvious choice and THAT is what makes DE even MORE special. I am sure we will start to see Elena's POV from now on. She will start to realise that her feelings for Damon are stronger than she wants them to be.
And something more. A lot of people say that the DE scene in 2X11 was "nothing". I dissagree. DE seemed to be back on track. Their scene remind me of their relationship at the end of season 1. So it WAS important for us to see, that they are BACK on track.
Anyway the reason that I wrote this was my friend's (Asena) POV about the SE/DE relationship. Asena is a hard core Delena shipper AND the voice of reason for me...
So just read her and you will see what this was all about...
"You know I was thinking, 1.5 years and it feels SE got no real development, because Stefan is so stagnant. They are not like a living, breathing couple but more like a piece of the setting. Maybe THAT is what KW meant when he was talking about how the show is grounded on SE's relationship or something like that, way back in S1, pilot time... lol. They are part of the "setting" in which DE's story is taking place and serve the function of being the biggest obstacle, the question being "will Elena ever love Damon more than she loves Stefan?" which is why they don't really change or move forward or anything, they are this non-real supposedly ideal couple out there, their status reminded to viewers by lines like "I care about Damon but love Stefan" but the real effort, storywise, goes to DE and their buildup as SE just stands still where they are. Broken up and reunited from time to time to give the false sense of "action" to their fans but nothing ever changing, nothing ever improving, nothing ever moving forward. How CAN it? They were part of the "initial package". They came onto the screen as a "couple", no build-up, no explanation, nothing. Just forced onto people. Even named "epic" on just the 2nd episode. "Words" is all SE has. We are told they fall in love, we are told they are epic, we have Elena saying it will always be Stefan. But we don't really see it play out on screen, we don't know why it is so. The story for that is not really given. I mean "they keep reuniting so they must love eachother for reals" is not an explanation, that alone does not prove a couple is special and are meant to be - it just means they are on repeat, because there is nothing else to do with them, as there is no real substance to them. Because IMO their isn't really special. It is just a given in the setting of the REAL story - DE's love story..."
And I can't help but be reminded of the exchange between Caroline and Elena when Elena was wondering if she should pursue Stefan or not. To encourage Elena, Caroline told her it was simple- "Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy." and they get it on... "That's deep" said Elena, condescendingly. And then she gave in, got out and sought Stefan out, as a means to get back into the teenager life of fun after her parents' deaths have brought her down and out of it completely. And THAT is how the "epic" love of SE really started. That is how they became a couple. Simple. Lacking depth. As it was never meant to be deep or complicated and was just a "girl meets boy" cliche arrangement. For it was never the real story, it didn't need to be told more than that.
