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Kinda Personal : My boyfriend told me he masturbated and I'm thinking that it's a reflection on how he finds me attractive..

I know this sounds immature but he told me he masturbated 3 weeks ago and times before that, and we've been dating for a year. I feel like it's because he doesn't find me attractive, and I know that I sound very insecure right now but it's just we have sex, quite often and i don't see why he needs to masturbate?
 Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
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lilith84 said:
It's normal, trust me. I do it too and so does my boyfriend, sometimes even when the other one is in the same room. Self pleasure is important and has no reflection on how attractive your boyfriend finds you. It's probably his way to either give himself a moment of pleasure to relax or relieve some stress. He was honest enough to tell you about it and I doubt it was his intention to hurt you.
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posted over a year ago 
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I completley understand that but we have sex 9 to 10 times a week and I kinda just felt like, "oh you enjoy your hand more then me?" am i being over dramatic? ugh.
Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
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maybe a little ;) the two of them are different you know... I could have sex 24/7 and still try and find time to have a little 'me' time with just my hand.
lilith84 posted over a year ago
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I'm nervous to ask him..I'm nervous for the answer.
Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
youknowit101 said:
I don"t think a lot of guys masturbation as a part of their sex life. If you ask a guy who's not having sex about his sex life, he probably won't say "It's great, I masturbate at least three times a day"

Don't focus on whether he's masturbating or not, but what he's thinking about when he does. If he was willing to tell you he was masturbating, he should be ok with you asking what he was thinking about. It's really sexy, actually. If he's thinking about you, there's no problem.
He could also have a fantasy he's too nervous to tell you about and this is his way to get you to ask questions. I tried that with a girl once, but she didn't ask questions, so I dropped it.
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posted over a year ago 
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So i took your advice (thank you very much) and he said he was thinking about me, which of course is flatering the only thing is, i'm wondering if he's not happy with our sex life. I don't have the balls to ask him that, in your personal opinion would you ever masturbate because your sex life with your girlfriend sucks?
Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
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That might be the reason, but if you guys are having sex 9-10 times a week like you said and he didn't like it, he wouldn't want to have sex with you so often. Ask him for details about what he was thinking about. if its about something you gguys alwats do, he's probably ok with your sex life. If its something different, he has a fantasy he might want to make reality
youknowit101 posted over a year ago
germany123 said:
i know youre nervous to ask him as you said but seriously HOW do you expect to have a good relationship with someone if you cant talk to him aboot something thats worrying you? and can i also ask if YOU are comfortable aboot the amount of sex you guys have?
great answer,eh? two questions :P
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posted over a year ago 
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I'm very comfterable with the amount of sex we're having, it's often and very good, at least to me. So when he masturbates it makes me thing that he's not getting enogh or getting it how he wants....l
Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
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