First of all,Elena is not selfih and uncaring.What more could she have done to help Stefan?She was after every tiny lead all summer,she neglected herself and everyone else to help him...She put herself and others(Alaric,Damon) in danger to get him back not only once,but almost constantly.She made an alliance with Mikael and Rebekkah,only to help him.She made every possible effort...What else was there to do?If after what she thinks he did now,continued to try it would be childish and immmature.To aknowledge that it is time to stop is actually very mature of her and it shows that she is growing,she is becoming an adult.She thinks of others and cannot dedicate her life to someone who she thinks betrayed her again for ,this time,no understadable reason.She warned him"I am not going to love a ghost for the rest of my life" and that is exactly what she is doing,trying to move on.
Let's move on to Damon.Damon loves his brother,he has proven that many times...This season his risked his life more than once to save him,going to extremes sometimes.He loves him so much that could not stand to see him rotting in a cell and he got him out,trying to help him his own way.Now he made the perfect plan,had every aspect though of and every possibillity examined and right when he thinks that he has made it,his brother "betrays" him.Damon said that he did not trust him,but I think that he had faith in him allthought he did not say it.It is only natural to think that there is nothing else he can do.And let's not forget that Stefan in season 1 gave up way more easily on Damon than Damon on Stefan now.
To the pair of them betraying Stefan.Their are not.Someone could have said that if they immediately jumped in a relationship which they did not do.On the contrary,they are mourning their loss and Damon walks away after the phone call .He decides not to take advantage of her vulnerability and,still,not to kiss his brothers girl,because he still sees her that way.If he wanted to take advantage he could have done so in numerous times and,most importantly,he would have let Stefan in the cell!!!!Then he would have been out of his way and with the best excuse "It is for his own good".Did he do that?No!!!When Elena tells him "We will let him go" he looks calmer and that is only natural.Damon is used to be the one being always blamed.Right after the "I trust you" scene he worries that she thinks,and he kind of feels like that himself, that he betrayed her trust,he did not get Stefan back,everything is his fault,his plan went wrong.When she assures him of the contrary he calms down.Not because he is happy with her desicion but because he has not let her down.It is very different. And for him it is a first,not being blamed.Elena also walks away,she does not try to seduce him,or hit on him,or I do not know what.Because she has feelings for him,feelings that even now,she does not dare to admitt even to herself,she comforts him.But then the phone is ringing and she realises that he is Stefan brother,even with Stefan "betraying" them and does not stop him when he leaves.So how exactly are they betraying Stefan??Where is the crime,for I do not see one.
Delena this season is not forced and not biased.On the contrary,they are progressing with slow,solid steps,they are still learning each other and they are coming into mutual acceptance,trust,frienship and love. A love that will grow and become really epic for her journey is the most natural one.They have gone though a lot to be where they are now.They are not forced,biased,they are betraying no one!!They are evolving in the best way and they are respecting Stefan.And when they happen it will be true,epic,passionate and everything else one can think of because they deserve it!!!!!
