This is for both Delena and Stelena shippers. I want to describe the connection between each couple and view my opinion on both. We are going to start with Stefan and Elena. The dynamic duo who started their relationship in 1x03. Stefan and Elena immediatly took a liking to eachother the moment they met and they fell in love instantly. She needed closure after her parents death and Stefan was there to help her cope with her loss. Stefan is a very nice guy who wants whats best for Elena. He liked her because he resembled his first love, Katherine. But then he got past that and fell in love with her because she is her own person and has a very kind heart. The problem that Stefan and Elena have is that the chemistry between them both has lost it's spark. The flame dimmed on this couple because they did not have the desire or the love she wanted. Stefan is very safe. I know that Elena and Stefan love eachother very much but the other obstacle that they are always going to face is that Elena has fallen in love with Stefan's brother Damon. She won't admit that to Stefan because she does not want to let Stefan get hurt and she's scared because she does not want to admit it for herself. I know that alot of people get mad when she picks the one you don't want her to pick. Like in the season 3 finale when she chose Stefan, every Delena shipper got angry and yelled at Julie Plec because she did not choose Damon. Plus everyone is saying that Stefan killed Elena and he should have saved her instead of Matt. Elena wanted Stefan to save Matt because it will make her feel happy and not feel any regrets. He wants what's best for her. Plus the love triangle would not be very intense if she wasn't a vampire. I will admit that I was a Stelena shipper in the beginning and then when it got to season 1 episode 19, my choice took a turn. That's when I realized that Elena is meant to be with Damon. Damon and Elena are the source of power that makes this love triangle even worse for Elena. Damon has a part of Elena that makes him feel human and bring out the best in him. When they are together you immediatley see fireworks and you want to see more from them because they are just so amazing to watch. They have us on edge because they have this attraction that they can't lose. Elena has broken Damon's heart many times but she always comes back to him and he always helps her because he loves her. I think that Elena and Damon are growing stronger and stronger each episode making their relationship even more exciting. They are best friends who care so much for eachother and will do whatever it takes to make them safe. Elena has saved Damon twice and of course Damon has saved Elena many times. She cares so much about Damon because he wants her to have the life that she deserves even if it's not with him. I think Julie Plec has made this love triangle very frustrating because she wants fans of the show to keep watching and wanting to know who she will choose. I know that Damon will be apart of Elena's life forever and Stefan as well. But she does have Damon's blood in her system and she remembers all of her compulsions. She knows Damon has a great heart but she is scared to tell Damon her feelings because she is already in love with Stefan. But her attraction towards him is innevitable. He is under her skin and he consumes her. He has that love that she wants, but she does not think that Damon can fulfill her wishes because he is selfish. Damon and Elena are the couple that makes this show so exciting and you want so much more from them because they are two very attractive people and you can't take your eyes off of both of them. Elena has a tough decision to make and I know that she has strung both of these guys along and it makes us all upset because she does not want to hurt both of these guys. But I feel for her. She will make her decision at the end of the series. One of these men truly has a hold of her heart and she needs to figure out which one has it. Stefan or Damon? If she picks Stefan then she will be safe and happy, but won't have the love that she wants. If she picks Damon then she will have the love that she wants and protection that she needs. But the thing with Damon is that he will do whatever it takes to make Elena safe even if it means killing people. That's the one thing that Elena has to think about because she does not want to do that, but Damon has a hold of her that she cannot let go of and it always makes her think about him,even when she is with Stefan. I hope that she will pick Damon because they are meant to be and Julie Plec gives us hints here and there that they are going to be together, but for right now lets spice this love triangle up and see what season 4 has to offer. Stefan and Elena will have cute moments in season 4 and Damon and Elena will as well. Damon and Elena will probably get together in the middle of season 4 but we don't know that. It's what the writers want you to think. It makes you want to have more seasons of The Vampire Diaries.