The next time I see or hear SE fans shouting out that Delena will not last because their relationship is physical and simply fuelled by lust, I will suffer an intense brain haemorrhage. For how much longer are they going to ride that extremely irksome wave?? Have they not paid attention to TVD over the years, and seen that Delena’s romance formed out of a deep, emotional bond and friendship? I don’t know how much longer I can tolerate SE fans’ incessant denial of the Delena love by continually shrieking this incredibly stupid reason as to why the DE romance will not last. They’re honestly beginning to sound like a broken record, or bad losers, rather.
I am an extremely passionate DE fan, but I will accept the truth even if I don’t like it, and if I believed and saw that Delena are merely sexual, I would admit it – but they are not, so such an admission is completely unnecessary. It is very obvious that DE are much more sexual than SE, but does that mean that DE are purely sexual? Of course not. It simply means that Damon and Elena are drawn to each other much more than Stefan and Elena ever were. Just because a couple happens to be very sexual does not mean that the love diminishes in the process. Does it have to be one or the other? A couple can love each other intensely, and at the same time (and often because of this) be incredibly attracted to each other. Damon and Elena are magnetised to each other, there is no doubt about that, but they are also passionately in love with each other. Passionately in love with each other. There is so much passion in their relationship that it always culminates into a natural and beautiful union which is intercourse. There is no shame in expressing your love for the person that you love through sex – it is called “making love” for a reason. And let’s not pretend that sexual intercourse is the only way that Delena have expressed their love for each other. Their love has become evident throughout TVD, and their love is proven through their absolute acceptance of each other. Their love is an unconditional one, a love that developed through many hardships, hindrances, and pain – a love that grew stronger because of all of these aspects, and a love that changed both individuals for the better. Does this describe a relationship that is “merely sexual”?
I need not remind DE fans that Damon and Elena fell in love BEFORE they consummated their relationship. When they finally had sex (after three and a half seasons almost), it was a passionate and beautiful climax to the feelings that had consumed both of them for a long time. And once the sirebond was discovered and their sex life was put on hold, did Delena lose interest in each other? Definitely not. On the contrary, they were drawn even closer together and their love strengthened through that trying obstacle.
And now that it’s been revealed that Delena are having lots of “hot lovin’ sex” now that they are finally an official couple, SE fans are milking their “Delena is merely physical” excuse to its maximum.
I do suspect that the underlying reason for SE fans’ constant use of this excuse is because it just so happens to be that Delena are the sexual couple of the two (DE/SE). Had Stelena been even half as sexual as Delena is, then SE fans would not regard the Stelena relationship as “merely physical”, but rather as an “epic love” (their most annoying description of the SE relationship). Delena’s sexual tension and chemistry is undeniable – a significant fact that SE fans cannot stand, and therefore will try to wave it off as “lust”. It’s easier for SE fans to believe that Delena’s relationship is based on superficial elements than face the truth – that Delena’s relationship developed significantly throughout the series and has culminated in a true love so deep and intense that can never die, a love that Elena described as being “the most real thing [she] [has] ever felt in [her] entire life”. There are many instances that justify that Delena’s relationship is not only physical and that it is a union of deep, unconditional love. To explain them all would be too time-consuming, so I shall only mention a few.
• DE did not become a couple because they wanted to have sex – they were both in love with each other when they finally consummated their relationship.
• If their relationship was purely sexual, the sirebond drama should have destroyed their relationship as the sexual aspect of their relationship was non-existent after the discovery of the bond. Yet, Damon and Elena stuck together, overcame the bond, and Elena confessed her love for Damon, thereafter becoming official with him.
• Delena’s love grew despite the fact that they WERE NOT EVEN A COUPLE and consequently had NO SEX (in seasons 3 and parts of 4).
• The sirebond gave Damon the perfect opportunity to use the bond to his advantage and sleep with Elena. But did he misuse the bond? No, because Elena’s autonomy was more important to him than having sex with her, AND because he loved her and didn’t want to sleep with Elena if there was a possibility that her sleeping with him was not entirely her desire or decision.
• Did Elena lose interest in Damon after he refused to sleep with her once aware of her bond to him? No. In fact, she constantly tried to reassure him of her love, begged him not to leave her/send her way (4x08, 4x09), and expressed her love for him once realising that she was in love with him (4x10, reaffirming her love in 4x23). Throughout all this, Delena had no sex, yet remained together throughout the rest of Season 4 (Elena’s humanity-less phase aside). If Delena’s relationship was only physical, their relationship would have died early on in Season 4, yet it only grew deeper and stronger.
• Damon expressed his love for Elena in Season 2, while Elena finally admitted her love for Damon in Season 4...is this not enough proof that Delena are not merely physical? If you truly love someone – as they clearly do – then your relationship can not only be “merely physical”, and the sex is only an expression of the deep love you share with your lover. This happens to be the case with Delena, who have a lot of sex, yes, but their intimacy is borne out of their deep and intense love for each other, NOT superficial factors.
There are many other mentionable instances but I shall not name them here in order to avoid an unbearably lengthy article.
I really don’t think I need to express in great detail why Delena are not merely physical – the entire TVD series does that for me. It is obvious through the writing of TVD that Delena were constructed to be a consuming and passionate love with many facets, an intense relationship where sex is guaranteed to occur. To assume that Delena are simply sexual because they have a lot of sex would be beyond foolish because sex did not come first in their relationship – love did. The fact that love preceded sex provides definitive proof that Delena are not merely sexual, and are simply a very passionate couple – physically and emotionally – who are drawn to each other because of their feelings rather than their hormones.
If SE fans persist to use their overstated (and obtuse) excuse, it will prove that they remain in a state of denial in which Elena will only ever love Stefan and never fell in love with Damon, in which she is powerless to her body; it controlling her completely to the point that she cannot think or act for herself. Really, how much more disillusioned can one get?
But by all means, let them continue to live in their world of denial, while the rest of us watch the real world of TVD in which Damon and Elena fell in love gradually over the course of TVD and found true love with each other, in which their active sex life is completely justified by the fact that they share a deep, passionate love that – after four seasons – they are finally able to experience. They want to have a lot of sex? Let them; they’re in love, and if their true love happens to consist of more sex than the regular couple, I say kudos to them; it makes their lives all the more ardent and exciting.
I am an extremely passionate DE fan, but I will accept the truth even if I don’t like it, and if I believed and saw that Delena are merely sexual, I would admit it – but they are not, so such an admission is completely unnecessary. It is very obvious that DE are much more sexual than SE, but does that mean that DE are purely sexual? Of course not. It simply means that Damon and Elena are drawn to each other much more than Stefan and Elena ever were. Just because a couple happens to be very sexual does not mean that the love diminishes in the process. Does it have to be one or the other? A couple can love each other intensely, and at the same time (and often because of this) be incredibly attracted to each other. Damon and Elena are magnetised to each other, there is no doubt about that, but they are also passionately in love with each other. Passionately in love with each other. There is so much passion in their relationship that it always culminates into a natural and beautiful union which is intercourse. There is no shame in expressing your love for the person that you love through sex – it is called “making love” for a reason. And let’s not pretend that sexual intercourse is the only way that Delena have expressed their love for each other. Their love has become evident throughout TVD, and their love is proven through their absolute acceptance of each other. Their love is an unconditional one, a love that developed through many hardships, hindrances, and pain – a love that grew stronger because of all of these aspects, and a love that changed both individuals for the better. Does this describe a relationship that is “merely sexual”?
I need not remind DE fans that Damon and Elena fell in love BEFORE they consummated their relationship. When they finally had sex (after three and a half seasons almost), it was a passionate and beautiful climax to the feelings that had consumed both of them for a long time. And once the sirebond was discovered and their sex life was put on hold, did Delena lose interest in each other? Definitely not. On the contrary, they were drawn even closer together and their love strengthened through that trying obstacle.
And now that it’s been revealed that Delena are having lots of “hot lovin’ sex” now that they are finally an official couple, SE fans are milking their “Delena is merely physical” excuse to its maximum.
I do suspect that the underlying reason for SE fans’ constant use of this excuse is because it just so happens to be that Delena are the sexual couple of the two (DE/SE). Had Stelena been even half as sexual as Delena is, then SE fans would not regard the Stelena relationship as “merely physical”, but rather as an “epic love” (their most annoying description of the SE relationship). Delena’s sexual tension and chemistry is undeniable – a significant fact that SE fans cannot stand, and therefore will try to wave it off as “lust”. It’s easier for SE fans to believe that Delena’s relationship is based on superficial elements than face the truth – that Delena’s relationship developed significantly throughout the series and has culminated in a true love so deep and intense that can never die, a love that Elena described as being “the most real thing [she] [has] ever felt in [her] entire life”. There are many instances that justify that Delena’s relationship is not only physical and that it is a union of deep, unconditional love. To explain them all would be too time-consuming, so I shall only mention a few.
• DE did not become a couple because they wanted to have sex – they were both in love with each other when they finally consummated their relationship.
• If their relationship was purely sexual, the sirebond drama should have destroyed their relationship as the sexual aspect of their relationship was non-existent after the discovery of the bond. Yet, Damon and Elena stuck together, overcame the bond, and Elena confessed her love for Damon, thereafter becoming official with him.
• Delena’s love grew despite the fact that they WERE NOT EVEN A COUPLE and consequently had NO SEX (in seasons 3 and parts of 4).
• The sirebond gave Damon the perfect opportunity to use the bond to his advantage and sleep with Elena. But did he misuse the bond? No, because Elena’s autonomy was more important to him than having sex with her, AND because he loved her and didn’t want to sleep with Elena if there was a possibility that her sleeping with him was not entirely her desire or decision.
• Did Elena lose interest in Damon after he refused to sleep with her once aware of her bond to him? No. In fact, she constantly tried to reassure him of her love, begged him not to leave her/send her way (4x08, 4x09), and expressed her love for him once realising that she was in love with him (4x10, reaffirming her love in 4x23). Throughout all this, Delena had no sex, yet remained together throughout the rest of Season 4 (Elena’s humanity-less phase aside). If Delena’s relationship was only physical, their relationship would have died early on in Season 4, yet it only grew deeper and stronger.
• Damon expressed his love for Elena in Season 2, while Elena finally admitted her love for Damon in Season 4...is this not enough proof that Delena are not merely physical? If you truly love someone – as they clearly do – then your relationship can not only be “merely physical”, and the sex is only an expression of the deep love you share with your lover. This happens to be the case with Delena, who have a lot of sex, yes, but their intimacy is borne out of their deep and intense love for each other, NOT superficial factors.
There are many other mentionable instances but I shall not name them here in order to avoid an unbearably lengthy article.
I really don’t think I need to express in great detail why Delena are not merely physical – the entire TVD series does that for me. It is obvious through the writing of TVD that Delena were constructed to be a consuming and passionate love with many facets, an intense relationship where sex is guaranteed to occur. To assume that Delena are simply sexual because they have a lot of sex would be beyond foolish because sex did not come first in their relationship – love did. The fact that love preceded sex provides definitive proof that Delena are not merely sexual, and are simply a very passionate couple – physically and emotionally – who are drawn to each other because of their feelings rather than their hormones.
If SE fans persist to use their overstated (and obtuse) excuse, it will prove that they remain in a state of denial in which Elena will only ever love Stefan and never fell in love with Damon, in which she is powerless to her body; it controlling her completely to the point that she cannot think or act for herself. Really, how much more disillusioned can one get?
But by all means, let them continue to live in their world of denial, while the rest of us watch the real world of TVD in which Damon and Elena fell in love gradually over the course of TVD and found true love with each other, in which their active sex life is completely justified by the fact that they share a deep, passionate love that – after four seasons – they are finally able to experience. They want to have a lot of sex? Let them; they’re in love, and if their true love happens to consist of more sex than the regular couple, I say kudos to them; it makes their lives all the more ardent and exciting.
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