From work place to class and even in online, there are people always trying to flex dominance on others and be passive aggressive shit. I mean "wtf is wrong, bro? It's my life and we are equals here by status too. If he or she was my boss, that would have been differen, but still tho, even if they were my boss, they can stress me for work. That doesn’t mean they can blackmail me.
I hear you, it's those types of people that are power hungry and exploit and take advantage of their authority that don't deserve to possess any authority in the first place. It's the righteous, fair-minded people who should be entrusted with something as sacred as authority. Unfortunately, that's just not how the chips fall a lot of the time and people have to play the hand they're dealt with as best they can. I wish you luck.
Ignore them and let them live in their delusions. They thrive off people who give them attention.
If they give you an opening to knock them down a peg in a sure-fire way though, I would take it. A knock to the ego to a person with a superiority complex is a humbling experience for them.
They are often quite insecure people who have this fake bravado to make up for it.
posted over a year ago
Wise words, and I agree, there is no greater feeling than putting an arrogant narcissist in their place. Having an ego that is way too out of wack can potentially be harmful to others and to one's self. No person is superior to anyone and no person is inferior to anyone.
Might I also add, for future reference that if you do wish to guide a person with a superiority complex into having a humbling experience, try setting a situation where they'll knock their ego on their own. Narcissists are 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 deluded people, stubborn by nature and the psychology behind their thoughts are very self-centered. If you rig it and allow that person to come to the conclusion that they are not superior on their on their own terms, they are a lot more likely to take it to heart and realize their folly, thus beginning the humbling experience. Having to go through hardships is another effective method of humbling someone.
Honestly I don't know too much on the psychology of a person with a superiority complex that much, but I do know a good few things about how Narcissists function and by Narcissists, I mean Narcissistic Personality Disorder cos I research that kind of shit and a superiority complex is part of said diagnosis
Plus there is like... a pretty good chance my dad has NPD.
My reply here will come from a bit more of a neutral stance than some others - and yes people with this stuff are really problematic people, but in the end they are also people just trying to cope with themselves and the world around them. I feel that is important to keep in mind
That doesn't excuse any toxicitiy they might be putting out, but everyone is really just trying to get by psychologically and physically in the world and being a narcissist / have a superiority complex is often something that has kept them functioning and capable of feeling safe / alright about themselves and the world around them.
From what I experience and have researched, my answer will vary depending on what you mean by "deal" with them and there are two main cases
1) "Deal" with them as in to live with them and without going insane
In this case, just ignore them and let them do what they do as long as it isn't extremely intruding into your own life. It is genuinely more or less pointless to try to argue with them or try to change how they function unless you actually really put the effort into getting them the help they need.
It really isn't your responsibility to fix them and you aren't required to deal with their bullshit. Just put on some headphones and let them go off into the air until they shut up since they aren't getting the recognition they want / the attention and theyll eventually move on or finish their pouting elsewhere.
Pretty much everything Zeppie said applies to here
2) You want to HELP them and try to get them to stop because they are someone you care about
posted over a year ago
For #2 I strongly recommend you make sure this is actually something you feel you need to do. I really don't recommend it in most cases as this kind of thing tends to be come toxic and codependent
Oh yes, I was not meaning to say any of you guys were saying they were lesser people, I was more so saying so in relevance to the majority of people when they talk about people with superiority complexes and NPD. Many assume them to be evil and dehumanize them into "mean monsters" of sorts.
Like there are very few types of people that I can't get along with. But people who have superiority complexes or have those "my opinion is the only right opinion" attitudes I can't get along with.
posted over a year ago
"my opinion is the only right opinion" oh my god, I know so many people like that XD you would've hated my grandfather! stubborn as a mule